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Can anyone tell me if I have a reason to modify a court ordered parenting plan? My exhusband has primary custody of our daughter. I feel like my daughter is being mistreated. She isnt being abused, but her step-mother is really jelous of her. My daughter isnt allowed to have any pictures of me at her dads. Her step mom talks bad about me in front of her. Her father and step mom fight...well argue constantly in front of her. She can't talk tio me on the phone without her listening. Her father works 48 hours on and 24 hours off. She is left with her stepmoms mother most of the day and is with her step mother at nite. When her dad is off work he doesn't stay home with her, he leaves her with the step grandma.Please someone tell me what I need to do.

>Can anyone tell me if I have a reason to modify a court
>ordered parenting plan? My exhusband has primary custody of
>our daughter. I feel like my daughter is being mistreated. She
>isnt being abused, but her step-mother is really jelous of
>her. My daughter isnt allowed to have any pictures of me at
>her dads. Her step mom talks bad about me in front of her. Her
>father and step mom fight...well argue constantly in front of
>her. She can't talk tio me on the phone without her listening.
>Her father works 48 hours on and 24 hours off. She is left
>with her stepmoms mother most of the day and is with her step
>mother at nite. When her dad is off work he doesn't stay home
>with her, he leaves her with the step grandma.Please someone
>tell me what I need to do.

How old is your daughter?  And how close do you live to your ex's place?

Personally, if I were in your shoes, I would go to court to modify parenting time to where you have your child when your ex is working the 48 hours and he has her when he is not working.

I would also go for right of first refusal and make sure that it includes the stepmother (meaning, that he has to give you the right of first refusal when he needs a babysitter, even over the stepmother).  Keep in mind that he can request you follow this rule, too.  

I would also get it set up to where she can have private conversations with you without the stepmother invading her privacy.  

Contact an attorney and see what s/he says.