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My SD is withus for part of the summer and the BM the other part. The BM has been unemployed for 5 years and never had to work because her parents supported her living expenses.

Anyway, she now has a job, and the SD is 12 years old and will be left home alone at BM's house during hte entire day while she is at work. My DH works out of the home and is home with her and her half siblings (our) kids during the day.

I am inclined to feel that she is old enough to be home alone but also old enough to get into trouble with "friends" through nothing better to do.

Would we be out of line to request that we have her during the day for some of the days, just to avoid mischief?

I know the BM would oppose such and idea, as she would rather she is alone then "bonding" with us.

Any thoughts on this?

Legally it depends on the state. Some states have an age limit some leave it up to the parents. Maybe BM would be willing to give you the Fri and Mon of a weekend that is already a visit? Does SD want to come to your house extra? I would offer to have her for longer weekends or do the pick-ups and then she can get her on the way home from work. E-mail or write a quick non-judgemental letter and see what she says.
Good luck!