I cannot tolerate the word adoption being mis-applied to animals or highway lanes. I believe that I BUY a pet and adopt children. I believe that I COMMIT to clean a highway section. Neither of these situations is necessarily a lifetime commitment.
I can give away my dog or cat if I develop allergies, or if I just get tired of taking care of them. I can declare that time constraints prevent me from cleaning up the highway. But I have a lifetime of devotion and love for my son who WAS adopted at birth. I have a commitment to him that in no way compares to a dog or cat. I can't quit when it gets hard. I can't walk away because I'm busy. Nor would I want to.
Don't tell me that a dog or cat are just like children to you. Bull. They're pets.
Using the word adoption in relation to buying a dog, cat or other animal cheapens the very personal and meaningful way that I built my family.
I'd argue with you just to get this board going, but too bad I kind of agree with you. Darnit.
ditto
However, I am of the sort that my "pets" are a lifetime commitment. I had my Dusty for 18 years and I was deeply affected by her passing. Some may say she was just a cat, but she was way more than that to me!! She was my "first born" so to speak, she was my baby and I loved her dearly.
My children and I were talking just last night about adoption, my daughter (8 y/o) had asked what it was about. I explained to her that often times when people find out that they are going to have a child but know they can't take care of the child, they put them up for adoption because they love them so much that they want to see them have a better life than what they could give them. To which she replied "I guess you didn't love me that much huh?" then giggled after...sigh.
My daughter is a Vet, and I can tell you that the word adoption isn't placed on a pet in that manner. The word was put there to encourage people to feel a sense of responsibility to a loving animal companion. It was a buzzword.
And, I have animals I didn't adopt. They adopted me. They are my cats and dog and I am their human.
They only have a finite number of years with us. I lost my cat, Carmel of 14 years, and it felt like a family member died. I still get teary when I think about him, just like everyone else in my family does.
No my animals are not my children. But there is a relationship that is close and loving and caring.
>I cannot tolerate the word adoption being mis-applied to
>animals or highway lanes. I believe that I BUY a pet and
>adopt children. I believe that I COMMIT to clean a highway
>section. Neither of these situations is necessarily a
>lifetime commitment.
>I can give away my dog or cat if I develop allergies, or if I
>just get tired of taking care of them. I can declare that
>time constraints prevent me from cleaning up the highway. But
>I have a lifetime of devotion and love for my son who WAS
>adopted at birth. I have a commitment to him that in no way
>compares to a dog or cat. I can't quit when it gets hard. I
>can't walk away because I'm busy. Nor would I want to.
>Don't tell me that a dog or cat are just like children to you.
> Bull. They're pets.
>Using the word adoption in relation to buying a dog, cat or
>other animal cheapens the very personal and meaningful way
>that I built my family.
The dictionary defines adoption as:transitive verb
1: to take by choice into a relationship; especially : to take voluntarily (a child of other parents) as one's own child
2: to take up and practice or use
3: to accept formally and put into effect
4: to choose (a textbook) for required study in a course
So, while I hear what bothers you, maybe you have it backwards. That word has been around for hundreds of years. Maybe we should have a more meaningful word for the adoption of children?