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I now realize whether you when or lose is according to the lawyer one has the money for. God forbid you don't have enough for any legal representation. That's what happened to me. Ok, I thought you simply be honest and forthright and justice will prevail. Wrong! I lost and every time we would be in court a new accusation would come up. The court addressed all of his accusations (without any proof) and dismissed mine with proof attached. I think all of the men seen me as vindictive.
The last accusation was leaning towards sexual abuse and thats when I pulled back. I have never been in trouble with the law and have no plans to start. He got all he wanted including my self respect and my children. He  would call and try to draw me back into his web which I put a stop to. An answer? not in my case. To all I say have a savings stashed just in case. I wish I would've. To think I lost simply because of my financial situation. It's wrong! How does one get past it? How do you sleep or eat or exist? Yes I am alive, yet I truly feel empty. Do you ever overcome it or do you just exist? I can see or hear and feel like a lost soul. It's been 3 years and sorry it's not getting better. I love my children very much and feel so hopeless. I keep hoping the nightmare will end. And it has'nt.

That has been my experience as well. I'm drowning simply because my spouse has wealthy parents and are getting him the best representation. It's amazing how racking up so much hours with ones lawyers can teach them how to lie so completely and effectively and these top paid liars are so damn good at upholding a lie even without evidence. And even when they are back into a corner on a lie - they can easily downplay it or at the very least the judge turns out to be chums with your spouse's lawyer.

My heart aches so much I can barely function these days.