So my boyfriend and I are fairly new to this forum. My boyfriend you may know is Fatherforever, whom all you wonderful people have been giving advice, encouragement and necessary cautions to. And I am sure you have heard of his crazy ex and his two children, whom are stuck in the middle of this hellish battle. We are planning to file for child support and a motion of contempt at the beginning of 2010 for the complete lack of financial help she has given for the children. And our ultimate goal is for Fatherforever to file for sole custody later next year. All we wish to accomplish is to have a safe loving environment that these children can grow up in, and that is being destroyed by the continued actions of R.
Personally, I am new to this world of divorce, child custody and angry, unagreeable parents, but I have fallen in love with a man and this two beautiful boys, so I am in for the long haul! This topic is for idea, opinions and emotions that the following information may elicit.
About 6 months ago I began documenting all interactions that R had with Fatherforever and the children. They became known as incident reports. Since I have personal/emotional ties with the subject matter it is very hard at time to make an unbiased opinion or judgement about a situation. Many of you who read these interactions will find similiarities to problems in your own child custody issues. Please give us honest, unbiased opinions for the following reports. Thank you to all those whom have helped us, and to all those who read this. We will keep you posted as things unfold.
~Des
(The following is the standard outline I created for an incident report, they became more and more detailed as the 6 months have gone on!)
INCIDENT REPORT
Date: 6/30/20 Time: 11:00am
Situation: I sent R a text message about paying some money towards bills and child care ($100), she refused.
Action: I reminded R of contributing half to bills signed in our divorce decree as well as her share (35.2%) in child care and education costs for the children.
Result: No answer.
INCIDENT REPORT
Date: 7/02/2009 Time: 7:45pm
Situation: I, Fatherforever, and my girlfriend, MissDesire, stopped by R's mother's house to pick up some money from R. The children were supposed to be with her Thursday and Friday as arranged. She told me to take them immediately.
Action: R gave me $100. I took the children home with me. R told me she had gotten kicked out of the house by her mom, because of R's boyfriend.
Result: No babysitter for Friday. Don't know where R stayed that night. Upon arriving home, my youngest son (age 2) exclaimed that their grandma (R's mother) had told both him and his older brother (age 5) that R's boyfriend was a "bad man". I later found out that R had not been kicked out, but left after a verbal fight with her mother, in which the children were present.
~Des