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Title: Can't speak to child privately
Post by: sprocket on Nov 29, 2019, 11:05:51 PM
Hello everyone!  I am surprised by how little recent activity there is here.  I hope someone is still reading!

My questions seems to relate to visitation.  I have 50/50 custody but live thousands of miles from my ex, who has full time placement.  I only see my kids once a year.  The rest of the time all I have is the phone/facetime.

My ex is always in the same room as my kids when I am talking to them.  The ex not only listens, but also interferes.  If I mention any subject the ex finds sensitive, the ex butts in and takes over the call.  I can tell my kids are not speaking freely in front of the ex.  I've addressed the issue with my ex repeatedly to no avail.  Do I really have to go to court to have the ex told that I can have private conversations with my own kids?
Title: Re: Can't speak to child privately
Post by: sprocket on Dec 01, 2019, 12:16:19 PM
Wow, this thing has had 17 views but no responses?  I've searched the forum and can't find the answer anywhere.  Any suggestions at all?
Title: Re: Can't speak to child privately
Post by: ocean on Dec 01, 2019, 05:03:05 PM
How old are the children?
Title: Re: Can't speak to child privately
Post by: sprocket on Dec 04, 2019, 11:53:27 AM
They are 12 and 9.
Title: Re: Can't speak to child privately
Post by: ocean on Dec 04, 2019, 05:07:02 PM
Pick you battles.....They are getting older and soon will have cell phones and will walk away on their own. You can text them soon too.

You could file in court to have mother not interfere with phone calls (but will it actually stop her)?You can ask to have counseling and have calls when kids go to the office.
Send them letters with the phone calls so they get mail, another form of communication.

Do you have contact with the kids school/teachers? Many schools/teachers have websites and apps they talk to parents on (Remind app is one of them used here). Ask the teachers if you can be added so you have info to talk to kids about.
Keep trying and just ignore ex trying to butt in. Talk about school, activities, upcoming next trips....
You can try sending ex a certified letter stating "ex, I have been trying to communicate with the kids but you have been taking over the conversations when I am trying to speak to them. If you continue to interfere with the communications with the kids, I will be forced to seek court intervention. The kids need both parents in their life and I try my best to keep communication open even with the long distances between us. "  Something like that....but pick your battles and only you know if you should spend time and money on this.

Good luck!