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Title: boy's and punching
Post by: gipsy on Oct 16, 2005, 10:05:52 PM
Ok Here's the deal , I come from a rough and tumble family .  Hard sports are in !
   SOOOS My record 12 -5-7by KO
  Ok So I teach My son to punch , He is 6 yo ,  But Encourage this as a sport with boxing gloves on , He is quite coordinated , And caught on quite well ,I have friends and their children also have the gloves on a bit , I also wrestled , And kick boxed and teach Him How to rough house , He has quite an advantage ,
   The problem is He seems to derive power out of it and take advantage  Of other kids his age ,
  I absolutely do not Teach him that it is Ok to Be  Mean ,  I teach and rough house with him , and reinforce the sporting nature of it all ,
   And specifically Tell him not to rough up other kids ,
    He  tends to go the wrong direction with it . I don't think this is way out of the ordinary , Many Dads wrestle with their boys ,
 My deal is just a little on the skilled side ,
   So what do ya think as far as how to make the distinction? , I have talked to him a few times and he seems to get it , But then once in a while he gets kind of rough with other kids , He seems to want to win ,
Title: RE: boy's and punching
Post by: worriedmom on Oct 18, 2005, 07:26:56 AM
I have 3 boys (2 old enough to hit) and I put my oldest in karate bc of his rough tendencies. It has helped alot. my son loves the karate motto and repeats it all the time and that helps him remember to not use it on other kids. Try it if u want, it worked with my 5 yr old. It is "I will always respect my parents, I will listen to my teacher, I will never misuse my karate" It worked great with my son. Instead of karate you could say, " I will never hit or get rough with my friends" or something like that.On top of that just keep telling him that it is not good to hit or get rough. Eventually he will understand. Hope this helps....


WorriedMom

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