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Well, as it seems, women don't appear to be accountable for c/s like father's do.  DH just went through four years of court, in which the district court judge gave him full legal and physical custody.  She was ordered to pay child support (full guideline child support - she can't work full time, it's "too much"  boooooooo hoooooo).  She pissed and moaned enough that in the appeal that was remanded, the district court judge cut her child support to part time and gave her a FOUR THOUSAND DOLLAR CREDIT!  Now, let's see that happen to a father!  THEN she appealed yet again and the appeals court just recently reversed the custody and child support.  My guess, by reading their appeal, they didn't read the facts of the case and just wanted to get it off their desk, thereby putting two children BACK in harms way, so looks like now, DH gets to raise the kids full-time AND pay back all her child support that she's paid to him in the last two years.

Nice, huh?  This woman has never (outside of the child support she's paid the last two years) paid one red cent towards her children!  DH has had school year custody since inception of their divorce decree.  He's paid all their fees for school, sports, etc.  Not one dime from her!  She and her boyfriend are always taking vacations together (never with the children), they just bought a new boat, etc. etc. etc.  The list goes on.  

So, my best guess is since she's a woman, child support won't do anything.  Because that would somehow be injustice!

Sorry.  This whole issue really makes my blood boil!  How the courts seem to think that a father can raise his children, pay for everything without child support AND pay back thousands of dollars in child support to the non custodial parent is just completely beyond my train of thought!

I'm sorry.  I certainly hope that reply was not to me.  If that is the case, "What is wrong with me?"

What is wrong with me is that this woman cannot take care of her kids and finds every opportunity to stick it to her ex husband.  And I believe the question was "There is nothing happening in MN?"

Screw you!  This is a place to vent and discuss.  

Absolutely nothing new on my end.  Still waiting for someone to send me a copy of her memo that was attached to her order.  ;-)

Still at the mercy of BM who seems to find every reason in the book to not take her own children to their sporting activities that "interfere with her visitation".  AMAZINGLY right after that big publication of the vote of how many people believe that the gas prices will cause them financial hardship, THAT became her new issue.  "I can't afford the transportation."  So, we never know one day to the next whether she's actually going to take them and can never make plans because when we do, she decides to act like a 2-year-old and throw a fit that she can't afford to take her own children.  And that DH is the one who wanted full custody, now he has it, so he's responsible for taking them if she cannot.  x(

I cannot write publicly what I think of this woman, but suffice it to say, it is no where near good.  Her own children suffer from her playing the victim role.  She pays full time child support, but thinks that if she plays the woos me card and goes broke and is so poor she can't afford to take her kids that the court will overturn that decision.  

I really don't want to get on a role here, so I'll end my post while I'm ahead and still have some dignity left.  lol

Hi!  I generally only read the posts here, but am in dire straights of some information and our worthless attorney can't seem to give us an answer.

In 2002, DH won sole legal and physical custody of his two boys.  Previously, there was a school year/summer split, with DH having them during the school year and BM during the summer.  He was awarded full legal and physical custody and child support.  

BM only works PT, claims FT is "too much to handle".  She was ordered to pay full guideline child support.  She appealed.  The appeals court remanded it back to the district court for more information.  Apparently, the judge didn't put in enough information.  

The district court judge redid his order.  Essentially, the same order only reducing her child support based on PT income and giving her a CREDIT to the tune of $4000 that DH is responsible for.  <>

She appealed again.  This time, the appeals court found that the district court abused its discretion (MN Appeals Court #A06-91) in modifying the custody arrangment and therefore abused its discretion in applying child support.  If you read the order (see above case), it's vague.  

They upheld the district court judges ruling on the parenting schedule, but reversed the custody:

1)  I'm not sure if this means she gets her summer custody back or if the parenting schedule is in effect.. ????

Also, and most importantly,

2)  because the custody and child support was reversed, is she entitled to reimbursement of the child support she paid?  

Because if that's the case, that is ridiculous!  How can they expect DH to pay her back all that money AND support two boys full time.  Retorical question.

I can't find any case law regarding that.  

3)  Do you know where I might find case law for this?

I would think that reimbursement would be just as silly as saying, "Oh, the custody was reversed; therefore, you get all that time back that you haven't received in the last three years".  

Our attorney won't return our calls on this question and no one else I talk to seems to know the answer.

HELP!!  ;(

I guess I'm not one to play games.  I know that the court order needs to be followed and that chances are he is waiting in the wings to be able to say, hey, she didn't show.  HOWEVER!  As I said, I'm not a game player.  I'd send him an email (or a certified letter in my case, my ex doesn't have email) or perhaps both - informing him that he has now missed X number of visitations with his children and I will no longer be a part of his hurting his children.  In the future, if he would like to exercise his visitation, he needs to let me know two days ahead of time.  If I don't hear from him, I will assume he is not going to exercise his visitation and will wait to hear from him if he decides to exercise his NEXT visitation.

But, that's me.  I don't beat around the bush.  I get extremely irritated when DH does with his PBFH.

I just figured out what my username was and got my password.  I couldn't pass this up.

I was going to leave this one alone too; however, thought I'd share too.  Although our custody battle is over as far as the courts go.  PBFH lost all custody,  SO got full legal and physical custody and PBFH has to pay full guideline child support because she refuses to work full-time.  Something about full time work interfering with her access schedule to "her" children.....   anyway!

While we were in the process of the whole court dramas, she put in one of her motions that ... don't laugh too hard.... after one of the SS's basketball tournaments, that was on HER weekend (of which she has told SS's that it's her weekend and they are not allowed to talk to dear old dad on said weekends) while walking out of the building AFTER the game -- prepare yourselves - SO followed her and her "fiance" out to the parking lot.  Thus, SO should be barred from attending games that are on her weekends.  LMAO.  Now, I believe this is the SAME parking lot that we were ALL parked in.  Unless, of course, they assumed we parked in a DIFFERENT parking lot!