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DH and I started a family...we had two daughters together, plus, I had a daughter from my first marriage and he has three children from his ex....

She was stunned when she found out I was pregnant....and that it was planned!  She tried to make things miserable for awhile, but stopped when she realized that her tactics weren't going to work...LOL...

She's fine now...

I would honestly appreciate if someone could make up similar rules, for FOUR girls and TWO boys....seriously.  I am not good at that stuff, but I can sure use a list of 'house rules' to go by.

Let's see...I have one, although there's many to be told...:)

DH's ex decided a couple of weeks ago it would be a good idea to send their nine year old son (he has major behavioural problems) to live with her cousin in Nunavet (a northern Canadian province thousands of miles away from us) for five months....AND, her and my dh have JOINT CUSTODY....!!!!  What nerve for her to even 'think' she'd be allowed to do such a thing!  But, to make a long story short, he is really hard to handle and she sucks at it...she can't handle him at all and instead of letting him live with his dad and us, where he wants to be desperately, she'd rather send him with a cousin so she can still collect the cs....

Nerve?  Uh, ya, I think so....

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I've kinda missed ya....:P

Ah, I see what you mean.

Ok...do you think, perhaps, she gave the abbreviated/modified version here because she knew that her full story would be read on the Soc board?

Hey, I'm trying to be nice here....LOL!

How do you know she was a troll??

I've read both threads (the original and this one) and I can't believe all the assumptions that were made about this woman and her family...how awful.

This may be my first post as 'babymakes8', but I was originally 'sweetnsad' and I've been a member of SPARC for a couple of years, not necessarily posting much....but reading up on others, etc...and I'm honestly offended by how many of you have treated this girl...

She came here, asking for advice, as far as I could tell...and not one person had the decency to help her....and, if no one wanted to help her, the very least one of you could have done is politely tell her that she would be far better off getting advice somewhere else...not tell her to F*** off, etc...

I'm pretty sure that the majority of people on this site have been thru some rough times themselves with their ex's, etc...and you all know how it would feel to be attacked by strangers that you ask for help....no one is perfect...NO ONE.  But, I'm quite certain that when this girl was asking for advice, she never thought she would be treated this way...c'mon guys, back off a bit....

DH is being denied his court ordered visitation with his three children tomorrow (27th). All because his ex is p!ssed off that he didn't take them today, the 26th, because I was working and he couldn't get down to pick them up. Apparently she had plans to go out tonight and now that he isn't taking them today, she has no sitter and she is extremely TICKED OFF.

Originally he told her he'd take them today....but then he found out I was working and he told her it would be tomorrow.....

The court order says:

~DH shall have reasonable access to the children of the marriage upon reasonable notice to @#%$ which reasonable access shall include the following:

~(a) One weekend per month and DH shall provide seven days notice of the weekend access which he wishes to exercise;

~(b) From approximately December 26th or December 27th, as the parties may agree, for two to three days;

It says right in the court order that he can take them approximately the 26, 27.

So, because he couldn't make the 26th, she says no....all because she's in a dirty mood and extremely spiteful.

Do we have a leg to stand on? DH told her he would be there tomorrow morning (two hour drive one way) and to have them ready. She says that they are EXTREMELY sick....throwing up, fevers and diarrhea....there's no way she's sending them THAT sick.

DH tells her that he's their father....he can care for them while they are sick. She says no, they are staying home.....and they won't be there if he shows up tomorrow.

Um, you just said they were sick.....where are they going??????????

I don't freaking know what to do.....I could absolutely freaking kill her.....I feel so sorry for DH...he's devastated, but really ticked off.....I'm scared he'll do something stupid.

HELP...and thank you if you read all of this....

Ok, been there, done that.  We've learned our lesson with regards to my stepchildren's clothes.

My stepchildren see us once a month....and when my dh's parents buy them clothes for birthdays, easter, Xmas, etc..we send it home to their mother.  Why you ask?  Because what is the sense of keeping clothes at our house for children we see once a month for two days at a time?  Who does that hurt?  The kids.  Why should we hoard away nice, new clothing for kids we rarely see.

On the other hand, I can certainly see the point being made by other posters with regards to sending the children home in the clothing they have at their houses for the children.....my thinking on this is:  If the child's custodial parent refuses to send the child to the NCP in nice clothes because she/he is afraid that it won't be returned, then don't expect the NCP to send the child back with the nice clothes THEY have provided for the child as well.

*sigh*  May the mud fly at me now.

Also, notice how she brought up that she's a 'breastfeeding' mother....I hate when women use that argument to keep the father from their children....funny, breast pumps have been around for quite some time now....

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Congratulations!  How wonderful....:)