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I am the original poster of this string.  I have been ordered to take my son to all activities his mother decides he should go to.  The judge however did not order my ex- to do the same on her weekends.   I do feel like a baby sitter and my son and his sisters from another marriage like spedning time with me.  Its very unfair, even though I have legal joint custody.  The important thing is that my son enjoys being with me and doing things together and is alright with missing every other soccer game, this way he has the best of both worlds (his words).
But for the judge to order that I have to take him where ever my ex-says, and she doesn't have to do the same, I think is unfair and typical of the slanted legal system that always treats fathers as part time baby sitters and insignicant entities.
My ex treats me as a nusance, and is irriated by having to share our  son.  He is being used as a pawn.  I have taken him to plenty of activities in the past, now that she has the court order, she is planning to sign him up for every thing under the sun, just to impact my time with my son and his sisters.  His two sisters are impacted because they will have to ruin there weekend time with me for a two hour activity in the middle of a Saturday afternoon, on my weekend instead of being on sailboat in the Poconos or doing whatever we want...
Things need to change with regards to fathers rights.  
I need suggestions!!!!!        

I am the original poster of this string.  I have been ordered to take my son to all activities his mother decides he should go to.  The judge however did not order my ex- to do the same on her weekends.   I do feel like a baby sitter and my son and his sisters from another marriage like spedning time with me.  Its very unfair, even though I have legal joint custody.  The important thing is that my son enjoys being with me and doing things together and is alright with missing every other soccer game, this way he has the best of both worlds (his words).
But for the judge to order that I have to take him where ever my ex-says, and she doesn't have to do the same, I think is unfair and typical of the slanted legal system that always treats fathers as part time baby sitters and insignicant entities.
My ex treats me as a nusance, and is irriated by having to share our  son.  He is being used as a pawn.  I have taken him to plenty of activities in the past, now that she has the court order, she is planning to sign him up for every thing under the sun, just to impact my time with my son and his sisters.  His two sisters are impacted because they will have to ruin there weekend time with me for a two hour activity in the middle of a Saturday afternoon, on my weekend instead of being on sailboat in the Poconos or doing whatever we want...
Things need to change with regards to fathers rights.  
I need suggestions!!!!!        

Thanks for all the replies regarding my situation with taking my son to all his extra curricular activities.  I failed to mention that when we go to the Poconos, we sail, motor boat, water-ski, snowboard, fish, hike and swim.  I consider all those important sport activities as well as soccer and baseball.  My son is content to play every other game as he did all last soccer season.  He wasnt svery much to go to the Poconos and is encoraged to invite his friends as well.  Its been like this for years!  Until now.   He also likes to bowl,  as I mentioned, but my ex- refused to take him on HER weekends because it wasn't convienient.  I think whats good for the gander is good for the goose.  My ex and I don't get along, and I believe she has done this on spite.      

I get my son everyother weekend, We have a house in the Poconos where we enjoy boating, sailing , fishing, snowboarding etc.. and playing with his two other sisiters from another marrige.  He's 10 years old.  My Ex- Girlfriend just took me to court, because I take my son every other weekend to the Poconos.     Well, the judge ordered that I have to take him to anything my ex signs him up for like soccer, or baseball on one of my two weekends.  That means we can now only go up to the Poconos once a month!  And the kicker is that she doesn't have to take him to anything I sign him up for, like bowling on her weekends!  Talk about a double standard!!!     Hes content to play have the season, and come with his dad the other two weekends.   I thought that if its my weekend, I can do what I want with my son.  I don't tell her what to do on her weekends!  I don't get it!!!  
Please help!!!!!!