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Father's Issues / Re: Travelling outside the country with the child
« on: Sep 11, 2019, 03:58:55 PM »
Hi,You would have to ask for a change in visitation to include a specific vacation. Something like: "father would like to bring child on vacation to xxx for xx days next summer. He is willing to give the mother/courts full itenrary with flight information, daily access to child by phone/facetime. This would be in the best interests of child to see father's family. Mother will give father passport for this trip.
Not sure if you will win this but you can file yourself usually without court fees at the family court where your papers were filed the very first time. Good luck!

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Custody Issues / Re: Hi all! I'm grandparent seeking custody
« on: Jul 05, 2019, 08:28:28 AM »
Did father serve you custody papers? If this hearing is for your child support, then that is what the judge will want to hear and not deal with custody until papers are in front of him. Does dad have/take any visitation now?

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Custody Issues / Re: Hi all! I'm grandparent seeking custody
« on: Jul 04, 2019, 08:29:14 AM »
Are the parents fighting for custody now? How old is child? At any point you can ask to stop hearing and say you would like time to get lawyer. Also, you may qualify for free legal aid at family court. In my state, the state child support office will file child support for you if you have anything saying you had custody now. Good luck!

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Custody Issues / Re: GAL, legal complaint, DV issue
« on: Jun 04, 2019, 05:17:10 PM »
We went through this. Suggestion: File to have counseling court ordered for you and child. Find a therapist near you that is willing to take this on. Go see them first. Then file in court naming this therapist so that you can child can start to form relationship. Child needs outsider to help you without mom being there. Keep up with any visits you are allowed and just make a relationship for the two of you and not bring up mom. If child does, just answer honestly and move on. We fought the good fight and lost as mom PAS the kids to death. As child gets older and if you are still there, hopefully they will start to see mom true colors. If their is another incident with the school, ask them to get CPS involved.Sounds like the child may need counseling other than the relationship for you so maybe the counselor can use some time to deal with school/other issues too. Good luck!

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Custody Issues / Re: Ugly Custody Battle
« on: Mar 29, 2019, 03:28:43 PM »
Try not to stress over all of this....just keep texting or emailed offering times to see son. Then your lawyer can use the texts or emails to show you tried to get dad to come for a few visits to meet son again. No response to any craziness is necessary. Just ignore and keep as evidence. Let all phone calls go to voicemail where he can leave a message. What did the principal say?

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Custody Issues / Re: Ugly Custody Battle
« on: Mar 28, 2019, 05:30:59 PM »
When is your next court date? Until court, keep offering to meet at a public place for a few hours each week (library, food place) so child can get use to him again with you there. Who is driving him to the school? Are they going inside? His lawyer is telling him ways to see child without you. What is the school policy on coming into school? Ask to talk to the principal about what they will/will not allow. Here a parent can not just walk in and have lunch, they can sign child out only or come in if invited by teacher. Who does dad live with? Does he have a bed/room for child to be there overnight?  Split custody probably will not be given anytime soon since he does not live in school district and can not drive to and from school. Is there any schedule now in place?


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Custody Issues / Re: Ugly Custody Battle
« on: Mar 28, 2019, 04:43:20 PM »
If the father is on the birth certificate he has laws the protect his rights as a father and he is protected to get school records, change school records to include him, and unless you have a court order with his days he would be allowed to sign child out of school. Many fathers use the school to have access to child when in a custody battle as the other parent is not allowing access. Do you have an court ordered visitation order now? If so, give it to the school and child will only be release if it gives end of school day on certain days to dad. If not, then file temporary custody and visitation as dad is showing up to school after 2 years of child not seeing him. Keep it about child. What brought this on for dad to file? If dad is serious, then maybe do a step up schedule where he sees child a few hours each week, then 1 over night , then every other weekend....Good luck!

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Moms Without Custody / Re: Hurt Strong Falsely Accused Mother
« on: Mar 20, 2019, 03:47:31 PM »
You can go down to family court and ask to see if you qualify for a free lawyer (legal aid) to help you through family court. You would probably need to petition the court next to have unsupervised visits next and see if they grant that. Then after a while you can ask for more time and overnight visits. If the kids are old enough to be in school, get involved , go to school activities, ask to read in child's classroom, go on school trips. If the kids are involved in outside activities go watch them at dance class, base ball practice....You should be allowed in all public places to watch your child as long as it is not against a court order. Let us know if you qualify for legal aid. Bring your court documents with you and a one page history in order of what happened so they can catch up on the case. Good luck! (We are not lawyers, just people who have been through family courts for a very long time)

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Moms Without Custody / Re: Hurt Strong Falsely Accused Mother
« on: Mar 19, 2019, 03:18:24 PM »
Where are babies #1 and #2 now? Have your rights been taken away through court? Do you have visitation with them at all? Is this a Child Protective case still?
Depends on what is going on but you need to jump through CPS hoops to get your children back. Call your child worker or their boss and ask what needs to be done next for you to start seeing your children and gaining custody back. What state are you in?

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Father's Issues / Re: Legal shared custody being asked to change
« on: Feb 16, 2019, 12:58:04 PM »
Why is this an issue now? How old is child? About picking schools?

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