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She can still get SSI and medicaid and continue with child support. SSI will determine what they will pay then subtract from it what you pay as CS. Either way CP gets the same amount. She better watch out though cause there is a lot of fine print. Once you put a disability on record it is never removed so if he is high functioning and goes to college he will have a hard time getting a job because of disability on record. Insurance will exclude his disability for life. If he chooses to live in dorms or move out of moms or has to live in a facility (state center,group home,etc.). Mom is not entitled to keep the money. I have a special needs child and I have never revealed anything in court. I even agreed to a minimal (100$/month) fixed rate on medical support. I am CP and I pay all premiums and out of pocket (NCP only pays $100/mo.) even though it costs me about 500/mo in medical alone for one child. He is high functioning and I dont want it in court documents as it may limit him in the future. One good indicator would be to ask that CP apply for SSI if he doesnt qualify then the courts will not accept the disability claim. Disability has to be a significant impairment of mind or body. Basically she has to proof he cant function in day to day activities. Get a full workup mentally and physically (IQ testing,psychologist evaluation, and head to toe physical) and go from there.

They had the hearing and he has orders. They said she called throwing a fit and said she wasnt signing them or picking them up so they needed to serve her the orders so she cant claim she had no knowledge. I dont know!! It is almost impossible to get her at work or home because she hides. She is used to hiding from CPS and the police.

I live in Texas but my understanding is that it is cash only and must be paid by a specific date. Have you checked to see if there is a warrant for her? If she is arrested for it then she is not allowed to bond out or be released until the 500 is paid. If she spends 60 days in jail and doesnt come up with the 500 then she will have to stay longer or sometimes they can do work release. It sucks but they let them get away with it for a long time before they finally have enough of it. I wotked at the county jail and I did have a few men and one woman for criminal non support and they stayed for about 9 months before the judge lifted the bond.

My husbands ex has 3 children with 3 fathers. She lost custody of them due to abuse/neglect and drug use. The BF of one child went to a child support hearing (BM didnt show up) and was awarded support. The child support office now says they are trying to locate BM to serve her. They have talked to her on the phone and her response was catch me if you can. My question is will they still garnesh wages for support since the judge has signed the orders? Do they just have to serve her the orders to give her notice and the opportunity for appeal? They had no problem serving her notice of the hearing because she wasnt expecting it but now she is playing hide and seek (and pissing off the attorney generals office). My husband has a court case filed now and she has an attorney on record for it. Can the attorney be served with the orders? We live in Texas.

Does anyone know how to calculate child support in texas? the NCP BM has 3 children with 3 fathers. 1 child lives with BM and other 2 live with custodial fathers. How will that be calculated?

What state do you live in? I am not sure you are giving all the facts. Parents dont usually get supervised visits with nothing against them. Maybe you dont believe you did anything but there was obviously something. My ex the NCP BM doesnt acknowledge she did anything wrong either and it is all my fault. There were several positive drug tests, child didnt go to school for days at a time, no immunizations, child abuse/neglect (substantiated), the list goes on. To hear her tell it she did no wrong and I am out to get her. Do you really think he cares that much about you?

We live in Texas and my husband CP has filed a motion to modify seeking supervised visits for BM. I get my information from my husband and I am a bit confused. He had to file a motion (not sure what it is called) because it had been less than a year since last hearing and a motion to transfer the case (because BC has lived with him over 6 months) and the motion to modify visitation. The BM was served in April the case was transferred in June. Now the attorney told  BF there is a 45 day wait and he has to give some time after serving BM with notice of hearing. If anyone knows about this please explain.

Is it 45 days from transfer before hearing can be scheduled or 45 days from transfer till hearing takes place?

I have been going through this for five years with my ex. You are doing the correct thing. Document everything,take pictures,call DYFS, and very good on going to the pediatrician. It took me three years of doing all of that to finally get custody of my BD. It is okay that DYFS isnt persuing further. Sounds like they substantiated it but used a "safety plan" and then closed the case. That will happen a lot but the more reports they get the more action they will take. I have learned they dont have to remove the children but they will be used in court if you end up there. It shows that there is concern and if it continues a pattern. I live in Texas and it is very easy to modify orders and get no contact with child by boyfriend. It is not so easy if they get married. It is up to you on modification. I know have custody but this has continued with ex and two more boyfriends. She gets a little slap on hand and boyfriends get excluded but she drags in more. Definately document,take pictures,and report anything. Start talking to your child about honesty dont let the crap of keeping secrets start. You can counteract mom by stating if your mom makes good choices then you still get to see her.

I dont know anyone that has done this but I dont think I would take it without an attorney.

I have been on both sides. I was the NCP and paid every dime of support on time, carried medical insurance, and paid for most everything for our BD (even though courts didnt order it). The BM had her on medicaid anyway and was using meth. When I finally got custody there was no food in the house(but BM was on food stamps), no utlities on for 6 months, living in a condemed house, and BM and boyfriend tested positive for meth. Now I have custody and she is well taken care of but BM doesnt have to pay as much as I did (because she was always on welfare). The laws arent fair but they are consistent. The one thing I would like to change is if a parent is paying support and the CP gets neglect substantiated then they should owe the NCP all the money back. My BD went without food but I paid her BM weekly (support) to cover food.