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Custody Issues / Re: Legal authority
« on: Nov 26, 2018, 10:09:23 PM »
We held a child study through our school district.   The child study team felt it was more of a settling in issue.  Yet, they continued to send home behavior contracts and daily reminders of her bad behavior.  I went through the pediatrician at that point. 


At the end of the pediatric appointment the only thing for sure is we are in agreement on counseling.  However, mother will not answer if she will pay anything toward it.   And more than likely we are not going to agree on a counselor.  Mother is adamant that she has to agree or it cannot happen. 


My attorney said to take child to counselor who can see her soon and that is best for our household and let mom know.  She can come if she chooses to. 


But, now we are looking at our case being pushed back.   Mother sent certified letter last week that she is moving in with her boyfriend on the day of trial.  Now, GAL says time is needed to investigate new home and the occupants living there. 

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Custody Issues / Legal authority
« on: Nov 26, 2018, 08:43:15 AM »
Situation:   Grandparents have primary custody for the past 11 months after sharing joint custody for 3 years.   It has been very difficult with joint legal as parties do not agree on anything.   Mother does not respond to important matters, but argues once a decision is made.   Public pre-k, mother argued but did not respond when it was brought up.   Mother had planned on sending child to public pre-k at age 3.


Now:  Child has had trouble adjusting and behavior issues.  We don't know how child would have reacted had mother not told her two days before school began that she and boyfriend were fixing up place for all of them to live in.    Mother filed for sole custody days later.  Child had to visit with GAL, whom she remembers from last year.   


Child study referral was made by speech therapist and I took the opportunity to file a referral for concerns with handwriting and behavior as well.    Mother attended child study and used the time to down us and try to reference everything as in some way our fault.   She fought any suggestions we made.  She threatened to leave the room more than once, but never budged.


Child's behavior worsened.   We emailed mother about possible assessment for ADHD and therapy. Mother did not respond.   The next week, when assessment was done, her only input was asking if teacher asked or if we asked for it.  I had been plain that I had requested and reminded her of email.  She claims she responded but will not forward response.    She is in agreement that therapy is necessary, but wants it closer to her.   I am okay as long as it is not someone she sees.   I want unbiased, local, and available soon, and someone that has been referred.  The place she has mentioned she says she knows nothing about.   The one referral I have had that can see child soon is over an hour away from mother.  Mother says we have to agree.


Okay....went to pediatric appointment and mother instantly went on attack, threatening to end meeting until her lawyer could attend....asking if I knew what HIPPA was.....she was stepping out if I did not stop.  Honestly, the doctor asked about family history and I said dad and mother have ADHD/ADD.   When mother spoke up that she would answer for herself, not me..  I did ask that we focus on child, but said I would let her answer for herself and I would stop.   I repeated this a few times as she continued to threaten the lawyer and HIPPA....


I feel she does these threats to take over the meeting.  Professionals do not want to be involved in legal matters.   They baby her after that to calm her.   She disagreed with everything I said; and made it about discipline style again.  She was rude and so was her mother.


They are not going to pay anything toward counseling.  There is no order for them to pay or to say they do not have to pay.   We have joint legal - if she is not going to pay, would I be within my rights to take child where is local for us and we have heard good things about?


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Custody Issues / Re: Custody Battle
« on: Sep 19, 2018, 10:31:16 AM »
We have not hired an attorney for this matter yet.  I am trying to look into how to file this myself.




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Custody Issues / Re: Custody Battle
« on: Sep 08, 2018, 11:40:25 AM »
I will look into that.  The judge who awarded us with primary was a circuit court judge after we appealed from J&D.  Now we will be back in front of that J&D judge.

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Custody Issues / Re: Custody Battle
« on: Sep 06, 2018, 07:46:09 PM »
Yes, here all you have to do is file. 

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Custody Issues / Custody Battle
« on: Sep 06, 2018, 04:26:07 PM »
We have primary custody of gd as of January.  GAL and judge cited multiple issues with bm.  No one thought any change was possible.  Then she got a new boyfriend.  Someone has her under control and giving her the words to say.  She suddenly is not ill, not staying in ERs, not talking gangsta or flipping out. 


She has filed for sole legal and physical custody.  She is taking coparenting courses and now invited us to join her.  That class is court ordered.  I took mine last year and that helped us in court .


Two days before gd began prek, bm told her that she was coming to live with her and bf..  Gd is acting up in school.  Bm blames us saying it's a lack of household rules.


I really don't know how to fight this battle.

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Custody Issues / Re: Show cause?
« on: Apr 24, 2018, 05:10:24 AM »
That is probably what I will do.   I just.....I don't think he is a good person.   He is 34 and seems very immature.  He calls people "retarded" and "gay".  His advice to mom when she was lonely back in January before they started dating was to "Go get drunk."  He has an 11 year old child and within two weeks of mom dating him, she was posting videos with lots of pics of them in bed together in his house.  Pics of his daughter riding around with them.  Mom spends all of her time over there.  And I believe there are other adults in the house too - his parents.


On top of that, he is willing to lie and go along with her against a court order.   And mom has asked for one of her full weeks she gets to be in May....conveniently right after she introduces child to him. 

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Custody Issues / Show cause?
« on: Apr 23, 2018, 03:27:09 PM »
My husband and I have custody of our grandchild.  The mother has every other weekend and a few hours each Wednesday visitation.  The GAL put in court order no new boyfriends to be introduced to child until 6 months continuous dating.  The mother began dating a man January 30th, the date I am sure of.


She quickly basically moved in with him and on weekends went back to her mother's home to see child. But she exposed child to video chat with him.  Today I told her we would like to meet him mid July before child does.  She informed me that she will be introducing them next week, claiming to have dated since November.


He is willing to lie with her.  I have told them we will be in court as they are breaking a court order .  I believe I have proof of when they began dating.She refuses to as much as show me a pic of them together in the fall.  I have told her to give me proof and I will let it go.


I know she is lying and this is why it was put into order. She cannot stay away from a man.  She is willing to risk contempt so that she can be with him all the time.


Thing is...we just got an order signed in January after a long battle and wait for judges decision. I don't want to make the judge angry but they are breaking court order.


What do you think?

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Custody Issues / Re: Okay to Ask?
« on: Mar 10, 2018, 03:20:21 AM »
After 12 days in the hospital, the mom was discharged without leg surgery.  She said her white blood count was a little too high.

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Custody Issues / Re: Okay to Ask?
« on: Mar 01, 2018, 01:01:46 PM »
Thank you!  Hoping her mom will do the driving for exchanges. 

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