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I love my boyfriend but lately I've been considering if being alone with my kids is the
inevitable-which in my heart I think it is. Words cannot describe his ex wife in any way

its been a mental struggle more time than I care to admit, but it's hard to see someone

use their own child to tear apart another. I have never had drama like this and cant get

how someone can do it without batting an eye. I'm personally uncomfortable when my stepkids come for weekend visits, my personal things disappear and I feel like I'm losing my mind.

My first priority is to my children and I don't want them to think living like this is acceptable

I don't really want to go out when  they come over cause they never have any good clothes

to wear and the fact that their mother has so much of a negative influence on them-which

other family members think 'she's crazy but is very good with the kids'.  My boyfriend and his

X always say the kids are 'genius' and scholars' which I'm not jealous of (my kids are happy

all around and self sufficent) but that cant be true when book wise they do homework in

bulk  eg. whole week's work is done by Tuesday, and thy're always with a spelling list, but

socially they're very selfish, demanding and lie when they dont get their own way, they're

like little phsyco kids and won't put much past them.  This truly bothers me cause personally

I'm not like that with children-of all people, I'm definitely out of character especially since I'm

in school for pediatric nursing. To know that I feel like this is not something I like at all. What

is left to do I don't know. I find myself thinking negative thoughts about children that's not

my own, that energy can be directed elsewhere positively.

Thanks for the reply, the order says that she gets the financial support, joint responsibility (I belive) and nothing about visitation, that was something they agreed on and notified the court of their decision. Although it will be hard I'll try to not have to deal with her, but she has been like this for years, it's like her reasoning is waay off but she knows what she's doing, everything has had great detail and thought put into it-nothing is on a whim.



She even has the kids talking very secretively when they call her 'to say goodnight'. I belive she has them giving her detailed info of everything day by day. Can't understand how a 7yr old can have a converastion on the phone and not make a sound, she has them trained, sad to say. The hard part for me personally is that the kids are the ones losing out because they don't seem as happy as they should be to me, especially because I have a 7yr old and the mentality is completely different. It is an  exhausting situation to be in. Feel as though I can just take my kids and leave so that they both can be miserable. Will definetly check out the website.

My boyfriend and i have been together for 5yrs and for 3.5 of that time he's been in court with his ex-wife mostly over support money. We have a blended family of a total of 6 kids combine, but when it comes to X dropping off the kids it's going to be drama for the weekend GUARANTEED. Our latest is that since June of last year they've been back and forth with support we had a son in 07 and she doesn't belive her money should be decreased since there's another child. We live in PA, X in Montgomery County, us in Phila, court cases is done in Mont. Co. They decided, after back and forth because she didn't agree with the mediator and anyone else, it got to the point where it was about to go to trail, they decided she keep her money she's getting and the kids come over every other weekend. We've been keeping to the aggrement but since last October when they made the aggrement. In Nov she complained that when I comb the daughter's hair it falls out, Dec she sent them with their own OJ cause she wasnts them to drink it eveyday, Jan she sent a walkie talkie-cause she has to say goodnight everynight, cause something might happen and she might not se them again and now in Feb she's threatening to go back to court cause he told her he can't have them on their next visit-she's pissed he's not able to make up the one missed weekend. My problem is this, the entire time he has delt with her, I've tried talking  to her woman to woman but it seems as though she gets he rocks off by inconvienencing him when she can. We only had the kids for a holiday last Xmas for half the day, they don't do birthdays or holidays with us at all. She's only wanting to do that when it's good for her, I'm sorry for making this so long but I'm trying to summerize the hell she's been causing for 5yrs. I told my boyfriend to play her game with her when she goes to court this time put in for joint custody. I have kids but never had to deal with a psycho like this before but it seems like thisn is the best thing. I'm more vocal this time arround meaning that if there's a problem I'll call her and address it, cause at this point the less he says to her is what he prefers, cause she lives for the opportunity to annoy him. Should I stay out or help him fight fire with fire, cause when she talks to me she tries to be so nice and when he's gets on the line it's bitch mode and I think she's getting angry that I now address things he wont cause she know he hates talking to her.

My boyfriend and i have been together for 5yrs and for 3.5 of that time he's been in court with his ex-wife mostly over support money. We have a blended family of a total of 6 kids combine, but when it comes to X dropping off the kids it's going to be drama for the weekend GUARANTEED. Our latest is that since June of last year they've been back and forth with support we had a son in 07 and she doesn't belive her money should be decreased since there's another child. We live in PA, X in Montgomery County, us in Phila, court cases is done in Mont. Co. They decided, after back and forth because she didn't agree with the mediator and anyone else, it got to the point where it was about to go to trail, they decided she keep her money she's getting and the kids come over every other weekend. We've been keeping to the aggrement but since last October when they made the aggrement. In Nov she complained that when I comb the daughter's hair it falls out, Dec she sent them with their own OJ cause she wasnts them to drink it eveyday, Jan she sent a walkie talkie-cause she has to say goodnight everynight, cause something might happen and she might not se them again and now in Feb she's threatening to go back to court cause he told her he can't have them on their next visit-she's pissed he's not able to make up the one missed weekend. My problem is this, the entire time he has delt with her, I've tried talking  to her woman to woman but it seems as though she gets he rocks off by inconvienencing him when she can. We only had the kids for a holiday last Xmas for half the day, they don't do birthdays or holidays with us at all. She's only wanting to do that when it's good for her, I'm sorry for making this so long but I'm trying to summerize the hell she's been causing for 5yrs. I told my boyfriend to play her game with her when she goes to court this time put in for joint custody. I have kids but never had to deal with a psycho like this before but it seems like thisn is the best thing. I'm more vocal this time arround meaning that if there's a problem I'll call her and address it, cause at this point the less he says to her is what he prefers, cause she lives for the opportunity to annoy him. Should I stay out or help him fight fire with fire, cause when she talks to me she tries to be so nice and when he's gets on the line it's bitch mode and I think she's getting angry that I now address things he wont cause she know he hates talking to her.