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For the record, we live in Prince William county and we did finally beat mom at her own game.

Dad and I live together, with my three girls, and now his two boys.  She BM dropped the boys off on mothers day, told us she couldn't take care of them financially anymore and off she went.  She visited when she wanted, picked them up from school and didn't tell anyone they wouldn't be coming home on the bus, and  missed every school event.

She got married like a year after this, and wanted the boys back.  As much as they say its not true, I believe the courts always give the mother the child.  NOT THIS TIME, stood our ground UN MARRIED and won.

Keep the faith.

Is anyone else in Prince William County, going through a custody battle.  Getting ready to do the home study, and just wondering what I should look forward too.  First appointment, we take the kids, his and mine and go to Social Services, and then well who knows what hoop next.  Just want to be prepared for everything.

I am the "girlfriend" the kids live with us.  X is asking for them back, she is recently married.  Got a guardian too, insight into her would be helpful, but we are her first case lol go figure!

preach on brother, child support orders and what it takes to raise kids is totally different.  What a man pays for support and what a woman pays for support are totally different.  

The ground should be leveled, but HOW?

I agree, call your child support office, I have 3 kids and my x pays 315 a month cause he doesn't work.  They can only take so much and they would never expect you to live on 4 or 5 bucks a month.  The quicker you call them the quicker the payments will be lowered!

GOOD LUCK!

I didn't mean to sound bias, and you are probably right, the courts feel more sorry for a woman than a man.  Didn't mean to step on anyones toes if I did!

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my x is behind because he is lazy and thinks that because my mom has money and the guy I live with makes decent money that he shouldn't have to pay.  He does pay 3 or 4 hundred bucks in a years time.  He did fight Hepatis for the last year where he was taking medicine and while he was doing that I didn't hound him or CSE but, I think that was all a ploy to make me feel sorry for him.  

I had been writting to CSE and everyone else I could think of in Kentucky which is where he lives so I guess I will start sending a letter a week to my case worker in Virginia.

I just personally think its unfair that some parents don't have to pay their support and its maybe just as many moms as it is dads.  It only hurts our kids.  

So I just go to the court house and tell them I want contempt papers for a dead beat dad? Even if he is out of the state? Can it be served out of state?

Least I know that I am not the only one to make a bad decision on who to have my children with.

Here is my question, how do I get CSE to go after contempt charges? Is that something I can do against DH on my own through the court here? I was told if I try to run him through court in Virginia then CSE will drop my case.

WOuld greatly appreciate any information you have that you think would be useful for me. Hate to say it but, I would love to fry his ass for making me work so hard to support my kids while he takes the high road.

OK here is my story, thought someone out there might have some useful information for me as I am at a dead end!

I live in Virginia with 3 kids, he (dead beat dad) lives in Kentucky with for the record a nice lady. He owes me in excess of 29,000 dollars.  I have written to Kentucky child support enforcement (CSE), of cource they won't talk to me because I don't have a case there, mine is in Virginia.  I have written to the head of CSE in Kentucky, as well as some congressment, governors, and anyone else that looks important.

I know he holds a CDL drivers license and is working somewhere.  I do from time to time get a small bit of money.  He is adminstatively ordered to pay 315.00 for 3 kids, plus half of what it costs to have medical insurance.

I have tried to enlist the help of those  place that promise to get you money, but, I have had no help.  I thought child support was a felony and as sad as it is to admit, if he isn't going to pay me I'd just assume see him locked up.  I know this sounds bitter, but, come on I didn't make them alone shouldn't he help support them?

Any ideas?

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Cusodial mother(thats me) lives in Virginia (Prince William County) with three daughters.  NCP lives in Kentucky.

NCP is 51,000 behind in child support.  He hasn't paid again this time in 3 months.  Support is set at 315 a month.

Virginia points at Kentucky they have to enforce, and well Kentucky does in my opinion NOTHING.  NCP has a CDL license and works just like everyone else.

1.  What can I do to force someone to force him to pay?

HI!  If you remember we live in Virginia and have custody of his two boys.  We are unmarried ( you said they wouldn't approve).

We won against the BM, she got joint custody which we weren't opposed to, we kept physical custody.

1) she is filing for an appeal so the rumor has it.  Do you automatically get an appeal or do you have to show reason for it?

2) Does that mean another trial like this one with a GAL and a home study and the court room?

Thanks for all your help, and for the record the judge lectured him for 15 minutes about living in "sin" for 7 years.  How could he in good faith live like this in a house with 5 kids, his and mine.