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I was listening to the recording of it and was really laughing when her lawyer told the judge that we was cohabitating at the time of the divore. I got police reports to prove thats wrong. I mean she is lieing to the judge that who is going to decide who has custody, thats why I really don't have to say much.

The ex has our daughter on her food stamps (I have permanant custody) and all of our children on Access health care. They are all covered under Tricare 100% since I am in the military. So why are they on Access I don't know. It was the CPS investigator that told me that when he called me and said he was still trying to find the ex to talk to her but he found no reason for me not to be able to take care of our children. Then today she sent a text that said I called the cops I got to go. She had been staying with her mom and grandma. I think she wisened up an ounce and realized that they were a big problem in our relationship and told them she was leaving. They told her that she could leave but not take the kids and that if she left that they would do everything to take the children away from her. She sent me a text last night-I need a car can you help me, then today-can you get me a rental car, and I just need $2000 to get a car. I ignored her request for money but offered to get her and the children away from there which she turn down. I did tell her she would have had a car if she would have gotten a job to pay for it, and she is the one that left why should I be obligated to buy her anything. She didn't want to work on our relationship. Now she is down and out, no place to live, no transportation, and no money. When I talk to her on the phone she tells me she can do everything on her own and doesn't need help from anybody, so I asked her why she was asking for money. Of course that pisses her off and she said that I dont care about the kids. I told her that I did and thats why I offered her a ride. I told her yeah the grass is always greener on the other side until that bull called life comes charging at you.
And to top it all of everything is all my fault that has happened between us, according to her.

Its a Resolution Management Conferance to see if we have agreed to anything.

Before we even get into court her lawyer ask for me to sign a HIPPA release. I said no. We get into the courtroom and her lawyer starts talking about our divorce and she was never served and didn`t know nothing about it. I told the judge that the respondant file for a motion to set aside the decree in Nov 01 and that motion was dismissed. Judge said ok your divorced. Then on the parternity he ask if I am the father she said yes. He goes thats settled. The he talkes about how he starts with joint 50/50 and asked if we have been seeing the children, I told him that she has talked to our daughter on the phone and has been texting her but I have not been able to talk or see our other children. I told him that I have offered to meet in a public place so the children can be together and see each parent and she refuses to cooperate. She or her lawyer doesn`t say a word. The judge told her that vistations needs to be made and don`t sway him from a 50/50. Her lawyer made her aligation of DV and the judge didnt budge and said that 80% of DV cases is false. They then asked for the HIPPA release and the judge said that if I had to sign one then she had to. He also said we had to go to Conseliation Servies. Her lawyer said that she is on limited funds and has no job. The judge said well she hired an attorney and we will discuss that later on, and that we were going to it. We got a temp hearing set for next month and a trial for Dec. All in all I didn`t say much, really didn`t have to, and basically got what I wanted. A temp hearing and a trial.

the stuff the ex comes up with. According to her I have to let her know everything about our daughter but she doesn`t think that she has to tell me anything about our other children. I keep asking her to get the kids together and she refuses but then tells me that I am a bad dad cause I won`t her see our daughter and I tell her that she can see her in a public place for my safety. Then when she finds out that I found a set of golf clubs for my oldest boys, she said bring them to me so he can have them. I told her to get a job and buy a set on her own she don`t take him to play golf. The she called me a malicious father cause I wouldn`t give her the clubs for our son. Then she tried to get me to feel sorry for her by saying tell our daughter to pray for me that I dont have tumors. But she would never say what the issue was. And I keep asking her if she wanted to work a custody agreement out like her lawyer wants us to but she keeps side steping and I keep asking to see my other children but she keeps refusing. But I keep telling her that she can see our daughter. Good thing for voice recorders and text messages. She will send me a text and I will say lets talk about the kids and how to work this for them. So I asked about how my youngest boys ent appt. went, she said fine everything is cleared up and he is ok. I said thats funny the Dr.s office has you listed as a no show. So whats going on but she couldn't answer.

It was good enough for me to get my daughter back after the ex took off for almost a month and put her in school. But because she has done that I think thats it reasonable for the mother to have supervised vistation. I am not trying to keep my daughter away from her mom, but I don't want to have to get the NCMEC involved again.

Did you have your decree domesticated in the state that your in? If so and you have lived there over 6 months according to the UCCJEA then yes they have jurisdiction.  I had to do a lot of studing on that one because my decree is from another state also.

So for the umpteenth time I am reading my decree. And it states she should have reasonable vistation. Who makes the call of what is reasonable?

Video record these acts and then motion the court for him not to interfer with BM and BF.

The court order is for the child I do have, not the 3 she has. That is what I am working on. The meeting is for us to see if we can "work" it out before it goes before the judge. The courts here make you do that. It is clearly obvious that he does not want to go before the judge now. The best part was that her family told them that we were never married so the divorce didn't count. I asked him if he wanted to see a copy of the marriage certificate, he said no thats ok and left it at that.

Well the meeting went ok. I showed up an hour early to talk to him (billed to her). Before we even started our conversation about a resolution statement he was commenting on how her family would not let her talk or make decisions. I was like yup. I told him what I wanted as far as custody was concerned and gave him a copy of my statement. He went on to tell me several things that her family wanted him to do but he said she would hardly say anything. Like them demanding him to supena my military medical records. When he asked if I had a place for the kids and I told him what I had, he asked what about her. I was thinking you are her lawyer you should know, but I told him what I was told but I could not verify. He immediately went to talking about mediation and not going to trial. He made the point that he doesn`t want to trial. Of course he asked a loaded question. She isn`t too bright is she? I replied that she is doing what her family is telling her to do. He responds I can see that. He said she is not thinking for herself or doing anything for herself. I made the comment that if she was him and I wouldn`t be having this conversation. He says I agree with you. So all in all she got billed for 45 minutes of his time for me being there and that she still had to show up and talk to him. So she will get billed for that time also. All told I have a 48 minute recording of our conversation. I only supplied information that I thaught was related to questions he asked. If he only knew what else there is.