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Visitation Issues / Re: I'm baaaaack!!!
« on: Aug 29, 2014, 06:25:11 PM »
Hello my friends! Well, it sure feels good to know I am remembered. And Waylon, I too wish it were under better circumstances.
Here's what's going on. Gr8dad has been vigilant in fostering the relationship with the Wicked Witch of the West. (WWW) Back in 08 & 09, she hardly ever talked to them & rarely saw them, even though she only lived about 12 miles away. When Gr8dad got transferred in July of 09, he switched to normal long distance visitation. Prior to moving he gave her very liberal time with them. Suddenly, she became some super devoted mom who's heart was breaking because they were moving.
He took them back for a long weekend in October, (900 mi each way) and again for Christmas. He took them for 6 weeks the summer of 10. He repeated that schedule but when they went for Christmas in 10, she announced she was pregnant. DGD & #1 were graduating in June of 10. Gr8dad told her that since they were 18 & 19, he would no longer transport them to see her. If she wanted them to visit, she would have pay their way & they didn't want to go. They wanted her to come to their graduation. It was so important to them. She promised she would be there.
To insure she would show up, Gr8dad told her he would not allow DGS#2 to go if she didn't show up. She showed up at about 9:30 at night. The kids were heartbroken. She was almost 7 months preg. She stayed for about 1/2 hour, loaded #2 & left.
There was lots more garbage that happened but I will jump forward. Every visit ended in more drama for #2. As he bonded with his new little sister, he would come home from visits filled with anger over the way she treated the baby. She was smoking pot while nursing. She did prescription drugs that she bought on the street & meth. The baby just turned 3 & she is still nursing her 2 or 3 times a day so the police won't put her in jail. She is over $10,000 in CS arrears. We tried to report her to CPS but were told they don't worry about pot & since we couldn't give them exact details about the other drugs, they wouldn't investigate it.
When he came home from Spring Break, this year, he said he thought his mother was changing & getting herself straightened out. We were surprised but happy for him. We should have known better. He let it slip that when she picked him up at the airport & they were leaving, she lit up a joint & shared it with him. When he came home from summer visit, we all felt something was different but couldn't figure it out. Last week, he had a major melt down & wound up in the mental hospital, where they discovered that she had set him up selling pot. He said that she had taught him how to avoid the police & not get caught. She also has #1 selling it back there. The therapist said that she is a mandatory reporter & they will listen to her. Since then the WWW will not answer his calls & he is so worried about his little sister. On the positive side, he did well & is now out of the hospital. I told him to put it behind him cuz everyone makes dumb mistakes. He said, "Grandma, I didn't make a dumb mistake. I made a whole bunch of dumb mistakes."
Now we wait & pray that his recovery holds. He has a good counselor & a very good attitude. It has been a long hard road & only 2 more years to go. Enough about our insanity. I actually came back to help my friend develop a new parenting plan. My sweetie was supposed to move to rehab today but took a strange turn. He is improving but they decided to keep him in the hospital over the weekend. He keeps me hopping so I will post about my friend tomorrow.

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Visitation Issues / I'm baaaaack!!!
« on: Aug 28, 2014, 10:15:45 PM »
Hi everyone. Well, after several years of reasonable peace, the **it has hit the fan again. I am also helping a friend who has no internet access. First I want to say hi to Kitty, Mixed bag & Ocean, and any of the other old timers. Sure hope y'all haven't forgotten me.
I'll try to bring y'all up to date. Gr8dad is doing well. He has remarried to a winner, finally. She is a nurse & they are so happy. He got transferred to Colorado about 1 1/2 years ago. My SO & I followed them here in February.
Believe it or not, DGD is 22 & stayed in MS. DGS #1 is 21 & went back to TX, & DGS #2, (my baby) is 16 & here in CO. with his dad.
Unfortunately, the wicked witch of the west has managed to get her hooks into #2 & caused a major breakdown. I guess you might say she has completed the set. Now all 3 have been driven into a mental hospital by her bs.
There is so much more I want to share but my Sweetie is in the hospital & I am exhausted from being there all day, everyday. I will be back tomorrow. Hugs to all.

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Father's Issues / Re: Info needed
« on: Jul 03, 2012, 04:19:42 PM »
Thanks so much!
 

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Father's Issues / Re: Info needed
« on: Jul 03, 2012, 03:57:42 PM »
We are in Mississippi.

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Father's Issues / Info needed
« on: Jul 03, 2012, 09:08:49 AM »
Hi to all the old timers. I'm back. Can't post much right now but things are going fairly well for me & mine.
I am helping a friend who is a single mom, lives way out in the woods & being stalked. We have heard some bad things about the guy & want to know the web sites where you can see old criminal records for free, so we know just how bad he really is. If anyone knows, please post. Thanks.
 

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When they arrested her on the Capias warrant, the lady from the AG office told her she had better get someone to take care of the baby cuz when they got before the judge, she was going to jail. Just goes to show you what authority the AG has. NONE!!!

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Custody Issues / Re: Results of Court Hearing - need advice....
« on: Oct 07, 2011, 04:33:18 PM »
WOW, I thought our situation was bad but yours makes ours look like a walk in the park. I am so sorry you are going through this & wish I had some help to offer but the best I can do is tell you that we are praying for you.

The only thing I can think of is to see what technology is available to put a video camera & recorder in every room that is motion or sound activated & sending it to your computer. Then, you could have it professionally transcribed. If it is all in print, maybe it could be admitted.

Also consider taking her to a licensed child psychologist when she is with you. If she tells you she lied to someone about you. I would say something like, "I'm sorry you did that. I know that you know it is wrong to lie & I hope you will tell the truth from now on." It isn't much but maybe it is something you can use.

Good luck & God bless

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Father's Issues / Re: VICTORY---FINALLY
« on: Oct 05, 2011, 09:17:56 PM »
Congratulations! It is always good to hear of a victory. It keeps the rest of us trudging along.

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 and Judge Dockery Is a waste & has no conscience! After dismissing a Capias warrant & granting a postponement, two weeks ago, Today, Judge Dockery summarily dismissed all motions & charges. The CS enforcement office had filed a motion, on behalf of gr8dad, for an increase of CS. It has never been increased since being figured at minimum wage, in 2002. The PBFH had her free lawyer file for a reduction. Judge dockery added the additional arrearages to the account & told PBFH to start paying.
This means that after 3 months if PBFH hasn't paid, CSE will send her a threatening letter. After 30 days, if she still doesn't pay, CSE files charges in Judge Dockery's court which takes about 4 to 6 months to get a date & then Judge Dockery will do the same thing again, as she has for the last 10 years. It stinks!

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Father's Issues / Re: DGD is back home!
« on: Oct 02, 2011, 06:17:38 AM »
Thanks, Kitty. Yeah, I guess it proves the theory that we were always hearing about how it takes the kids till somewhere between 18 & 25 to figure out an abusive parent. Since we got home, the kids all got a text from PBFH telling them not to ever text or call her boyfriend again. It was devastating to the little guy, since she never answers her phone or responds to texts. They would contact him & he would answer & then hand her the phone. It sounds like they broke up but no one knows for sure. Maybe he got tired of her mother, who has not gone home yet. It seems that the son she was living with is in no hurry to get her back. LOLROTFLMAO! I would love to be a fly on that wall.

I do worry about the baby but nothing I can do. I guess that is a true case of NMP (Not My Problem) I think that she is trying to get the PBFH to go back with her & no one back there wants the PBFH living near them. I heard from DGD that she is filing a big lawsuit against the dr for several things. Some are just plain dumb & the rest are outrageous. Her incision hasn't completely closed & she claims he told her it may never close. She also claims that as they were wheeling her into the OR for the delivery, he told her that probably either her or the baby would die. But the wildest one is that when you are pregnant your back twists & during delivery the doc is supposed to straighten it & she is suing him because he forgot to do it & now she has back aches. LOL I can't believe she has found a lawyer to take that case. But it sure goes a long way to show what kind of a nut we have been dealing with all these years.

Oh yeah, she got her court date moved back from 9/15 to 10/4 because of her "condition". I'll let you all knows what happens.

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