Thank you so much for your reply. I have spoken to DH again, and he is finally with me. His parents are coming to our house Christmas evening. I appreciate your advice.
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Second Families / Am I wrong?
Dec 20, 2009, 05:53:30 PM
I just don't know what to do. I am soooo mad.
So a little background. My husband and I married earlier this year. We are a blended family- I have two kids, he has one. His son doesn't live with us, but he gets him at 4 pm on holidays (Thanksgiving/Christmas). Ever since we have been seriously together, we have spent holidays at his parents, with my family's holiday celebration worked in around his family's. This consists of two Thanksgivings, and one Christmas. Last Christmas wasn't a big deal, because my kids were with their dad.
This Christmas they are with me, and I want to spend time with my family. I don't want to fit my family in around their celebration. I am not asking to not see his family. My solution was for us to have Christmas at our house, and have both my parents and his parents/brother come over.
His parents are refusing to do this. They said that they are having Christmas at their house, end of story. To which my husband says, "Can we just go over to your parent's in the morning, before we pick up my son?"
This really hurts, and really makes me mad. I feel as though my family really doesn't matter. And as far as doing mine in the morning, I don't want that either. I feel like DH's son is mine too, and that we are a family all together. My family has, from the first second, treated his son as a grandson. The same as the other kids. Family is huge to my family and me, and once you become part of it, however that happens, you are there forever.
Am I wrong? I told my husband that I may just still have it at our house. That he can go to his parent's. I REALLY don't want to seperate it, but I feel like if I don't stick up for myself and my family, we will be slighted forever. What do I do?
So a little background. My husband and I married earlier this year. We are a blended family- I have two kids, he has one. His son doesn't live with us, but he gets him at 4 pm on holidays (Thanksgiving/Christmas). Ever since we have been seriously together, we have spent holidays at his parents, with my family's holiday celebration worked in around his family's. This consists of two Thanksgivings, and one Christmas. Last Christmas wasn't a big deal, because my kids were with their dad.
This Christmas they are with me, and I want to spend time with my family. I don't want to fit my family in around their celebration. I am not asking to not see his family. My solution was for us to have Christmas at our house, and have both my parents and his parents/brother come over.
His parents are refusing to do this. They said that they are having Christmas at their house, end of story. To which my husband says, "Can we just go over to your parent's in the morning, before we pick up my son?"
This really hurts, and really makes me mad. I feel as though my family really doesn't matter. And as far as doing mine in the morning, I don't want that either. I feel like DH's son is mine too, and that we are a family all together. My family has, from the first second, treated his son as a grandson. The same as the other kids. Family is huge to my family and me, and once you become part of it, however that happens, you are there forever.
Am I wrong? I told my husband that I may just still have it at our house. That he can go to his parent's. I REALLY don't want to seperate it, but I feel like if I don't stick up for myself and my family, we will be slighted forever. What do I do?
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