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The Pierce County domestic violence court says my co-parent has the right to have a restraining order, based on domestic violence, against me. When in court I am told to stop using the phrase "falsely accused of domestic violence", because the state issued my co-parent a DVPO which says I am. I am told to stop acting as if I am a victim. Multiple Judges, Commissioners, Pro Tems, my co-parent's attorney (who regularly testifies in court on my co-parent's behalf), my co-parent, and possibly some attorneys I've hired claim I'm a sophisticated manipulator who portrays myself as a victim when in actuality I am dangerous, out of touch with reality domestic violent individual who is fixated on seeing or being with my co-parent. I am not what they say or want me to convince me and others they say I am. These people have no idea who I am or care to know. I am an advocate for anti-violence, equality, and justice. So, I encourage anyone that is a victim of domestic violence to seek protection. I am a dedicated and loving co-parent who only wants to be actively involved in raising a beautiful child which I share with my co-parent. Only in the capacity of being a co-parent, I have no desire to be with romantically involved with my co-parent. I am a veteran who values honor and integrity. I believe in doing the right thing and leading by example. If I did "assault" my co-parent I would admit to it. I am scared and intimidated by how the court makes decisions that consistently place me in a inferior position with no voice. I am perplexed. I will never react with negative behavior. However, I am determined to continue standing up for being a equal parent. I am an exceptional parent. I will not allow relevant Washington authorities and government to label and persecute me as domestic violent person or any type of deviant. I was not arrested, charged, or convicted of domestic violence or any crime. I did not commit domestic violence against my co-parent.

The months leading to the night that I was falsely accused of domestic violence my co-parent audio recorded our exchanges, at police stations, with an iPhone. Knowledge of this fact made me extra vigilant to limit any interaction between us. However, I allowed myself to be set up for failure by coming too close in proximity to my co-parent. In my attempt to avoid our child from stepping into puddles of water and soiling my vehicle, I picked up our child, my co-parent made physical contact with me to keep me from our child and we soon were pulling on our child. During the struggle with our child in my arms. I was struck and shoved. I used my butt and back to shield the blows. I never struck back or shoved my co-parent. Eventually my co-parent screamed for help and accused me of assault. Everything about the exchange that night was different from past exchanges. It was a strategically move derived by my co-parent's attorney. My co-parent's attorney is a Pro Tem in Pierce County and counseled in a high profile case (Letourneau v. Letoruneau). While representing my co-parent, my co-parent's attorney has made every effort to prejudice me to the court. The attorney has testified on behalf of his client with no sanctions by the courts. The attorney has provoked me by stalling resolution of this matter in a timely manner. The attorney To avoid returning to mediation to complete a CR2A agreement, which gave me more visitation, the month prior and to minimize my involvement in the then recent discovery of our child having special needs. Due to my co-parent's attorney's unethical practices I have reported him to the WSBA. In order to vindicate myself of the false claim of domestic violence and prove to the "powers that be" I've video/audio recorded the attorney with my iPhone to document his unethical behavior and practices.

I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THAT THOSE OF YOU WITH ATTORNEYS DOCUMENT AND/OR HAVE A WITNESS PRESENT WITH YOU WHENEVER YOU COMMUNICATE WITH ANY ATTORNEY. The experiences I have had with attorneys that I have hired is that they work closely with my co-parent's attorneys to determine which individual they want to support. As a former attorney stated to me, "You rub people the wrong way, that is why nobody wants to help you..." That comment shows how things have faired for me.

My issue is that I didn't commit domestic violence against my co-parent. It is explained that since the co-parent claimed being assaulted by me before I made my claim of being hit and shoved, makes my co-parent the domestic violent victim. The court says the parenting plan, that doesn't restrict either parent, takes precedence over the DVPO. However, I am placed in a precarious situation that can lead to me being arrested by police if my co-parent decided to accuse me of violating the DVPO. The court states that in the "field" it is understood that the parenting plan takes precedence over the DVPO. That I need to consult with an attorney if I don't understand that. When I have consulted with attorneys they inform me to follow the DVPO. When I consult with police officers and chief of police of several departments, I'm told they will abide by the DVPO over the parenting plan. That their relationship with the district attorney determines how they make arrests in the field. When I am before the court I try to relay the information I am given and I'm told I am incorrect. I believe the court is setting me up for failure and do not play a neutral role in this matter. It appears that the climate and culture in the WA state courts is to make a solid case of me being a domestic violent perpetrator to avoid any further resistance by me in any fashion.

This has been most arduous endeavor of my life trying to be a parent to the child I share with my co-parent. It shouldn't be like this. I've spent more time overcoming obstacles placed before than being a parent. I've doubted and questioned myself many times. If I was the type of individual to do what the court or my co-parent says I wouldn't be in this matter. However, I know that having love for my child and carrying myself in a positive manner isn't wrong. I've determined that society has allowed the attorneys and the courts to create a forum in which they can remain gainfully employed and profit from the misfortunes of parents who genuinely want to be involved in their children's lives, yet don't possess the skill sets to have a positive co-parenting relationship with their co-parent. If we were less focused on disputing with one another we could come together to ensure that lawmakers, attorneys, judges, and government actually did what was in the best interest of our children. The consensus should come together and demand that this complex matter be addressed in a way that is most advantageous for our children rather than a profitable forum for attorneys.

Until we can make a change, who and where can we go to get actual help, because I need it.

I have been falsely accused of domestic violence by the opposing party. I was never arrested, convicted, or charged. I am unable to gain assistance from the court, yet the court allows the opposing party's counsel to ask and receive whatever they request. The attorneys that I have hired in the past do little to no good in providing any assistance. The opposing party has continued withholding our child from me, despite the courts stating that the parenting plan takes precedence over the DVOP and that the parenting plan isn't a recommendation, but an order from the court. I have finally started filing contempt after my lawyers in the past did nothing. The opposing counsel was able to get the Judge to modify the parenting plan with adequate cause and not filing a motion. They continue using stalling tactics, further abusing the court process. The judge also ordered that I would not be able to file any new motions with the courts regarding the matte. Basically, denying my any recourse or due process. I am requesting a reconsideration and if the Judge doesn't change his decision I will appeal. I have resorted to video recording the opposing party's counsel avoiding discussing their dilatory practices which contradicts what they have presented to the court. I've also video recorded mediation representatives confirming what the opposing party's counsel has been dishonest about. I will provide this information to the WSBA, Commission on Judicial Conduct, Pierce County Family Law Courts, and any organization that I can enlighten about how family law is handled in Pierce County.

If all parents that are in similar situations flooded the courts dockets with motions of their cases and were persistent, the laws would change. Do not hire a lawyer! Contact a knowledgable paralegal or individual(s) that have experienced family law matters in your area or state. Help one another navigate the family law courts. The courts would be overburden with family law matters without lawyers profiting from our misfortunes. The courts would eventually see the benefits of implementing shared custody to those parents truly wanting to be responsible to and for their children.

I live in Pierce county and have been falsely accused of domestic violence by the opposing party. I was never arrested, convicted, or charged. I am unable to gain assistance from the court, yet the court allows the opposing party's counsel to ask and receive whatever they request. The attorneys that I have hired in the past do little to no good in providing any assistance. The opposing party has continued withholding our child from me, despite the courts stating that the parenting plan takes precedence over the DVOP and that the parenting plan isn't a recommendation, but an order from the court. I have finally started filing contempt after my lawyers in the past did nothing. The opposing counsel was able to get the Judge to modify the parenting plan with adequate cause and not filing a motion. They continue using stalling tactics, further abusing the court process. The judge also ordered that I would not be able to file any new motions with the courts regarding the matte. Basically, denying my any recourse or due process. I am requesting a reconsideration and if the Judge doesn't change his decision I will appeal. I have resorted to video recording the opposing party's counsel avoiding discussing their dilatory practices which contradicts what they have presented to the court. I've also video recorded mediation representatives confirming what the opposing party's counsel has been dishonest about. I will provide this information to the WSBA, Commission on Judicial Conduct, Pierce County Family Law Courts, and any organization that I can enlighten about how family law is handled in Pierce County.

If all parents that are in similar situations flooded the courts dockets with motions of their cases and were persistent, the laws would change. Do not hire a lawyer! Contact a knowledgable paralegal or individual(s) that have experienced family law matters in your area or state. Help one another navigate the family law courts. The courts would be overburden with family law matters without lawyers profiting from our misfortunes. The courts would eventually see the benefits of implementing shared custody to those parents truly wanting to be responsible to and for their children.