You are right on. I have been in a relationship with a man for nearly 6 years and have watched the family court system strip him of his dignity and self-respect. His ex-wife has had him sent to rehab with no history or witnesses of substance abuse to only have her family forcibly admit her to in-patient rehab for meth addiction. When she was away, we had the 2 kids full time and his wages were still garnished for child support. For over three months her bank account was padded and the court refused to have her pay it back to us. She had him tested for alcohol for over 3 months, once a week and he passed all tests. The court stated she would have to pay 1/2 of all negative test and in the end she never paid for any of it.... and did I mention the whole time she was on meth.
I hate to say it by my honey is a dark skinned Latino and she is a very pale skinned, blond haired devil. The bias here in Silicon Valley, California was unbelievable. She submitted a print out of a police record with someone who had the same first and last name as my SO. The middle initial and birthdate were not on the report, conveniently. She used this to cite he was a violent criminal. No one looked at whether that was him or not. He was put on supervised visits and the whole time she was on drugs. Yes, I am a little bit bitter but I think I am justified.
In summary, the court system is designed to grease the squeaky wheel not make sound and safe decisions for the children. It is not fair that fathers are railroaded. This is coming from a woman who has a great relationship with her father. If someone would have kept me away from him I would have been half full. No child deserves that when they have a father who is trying so hard to be there.
I hate to say it by my honey is a dark skinned Latino and she is a very pale skinned, blond haired devil. The bias here in Silicon Valley, California was unbelievable. She submitted a print out of a police record with someone who had the same first and last name as my SO. The middle initial and birthdate were not on the report, conveniently. She used this to cite he was a violent criminal. No one looked at whether that was him or not. He was put on supervised visits and the whole time she was on drugs. Yes, I am a little bit bitter but I think I am justified.
In summary, the court system is designed to grease the squeaky wheel not make sound and safe decisions for the children. It is not fair that fathers are railroaded. This is coming from a woman who has a great relationship with her father. If someone would have kept me away from him I would have been half full. No child deserves that when they have a father who is trying so hard to be there.