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Thank you for the comments I really appreciate them. I will let everyone know when I have more questions.

Hello all, not to happy to be looking at this type of board as I'm sure most of you are, but I think looking for support and advice is good for the soul. My situation is that wife and I have been somewhat mutually separated for 5-6months. I want it to work and she is pretty much done. I recently found out (and have documented proof) that she got pregnant by someone and had an abortion. That has pretty much changed my mind and I see that I can't go back now. We have one child together who is 4. Currently we both work full time and have a nanny that helps care for our daughter while we work. I have adjusted my schedule at work to spend as much time as I can with our child. If I break it down far enough My wife and I are with our daughter about 40% each and nanny for the other 20%, hours in a week. On the nights that either of us stay with our daughter we stay in the home so that our child never has to sleep in another bed. When we are away we each have a separate place to stay, both of us with kind friends. I am starting to talk to lawyers about divorce proceedings. I might be wrong in what I think is best so I look forward to some other opinions. I would like to keep the house and pretty much divide all other assets evenly. I am the breadwinner, making about 3X what my spouse does. She can't afford the home on her own. In exchange for me having the house and all bills associated with it, I am willing to help for X years for rent or mortgage help so my spouse can find decent housing that is suitable for her and our child. I want 50/50 time with our child, once school starts I realize that may not be ideal but we have a year before that. There's so much more I have to ask and vent about but thought this was a good start. Thanks for reading and any thoughts are appreciated.

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