Thanks for the advice. I have been trying to settle this out of court for 10 years now. My ex is an expert at dodging child support though. He knows the extent of our son's illness because I had a phone conversation about it with him. He is also extremely adamant about not seeing the boys. He said that they don't know him and he does not want to see them at all. It is a very sad situation. The child support person here in Arizona told me that because he has not seen the boys in 10 years (since they were small babies), chances are that a judge will probably not grant visitation even though he will have to pay. I guess I'm torn because it's a can of worms that I am wondering if I should open.