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I am asking what anyone's thoughts are on taking my ex back to court for more child support. A brief history.  

BM and I separated when son was 1 year old.  I gave her physical custody so long as I could have ample "visitation".  I was paying $175/wk for support.  Visitation turned out to be more than 60% on my part.  Shit hits the fan when she petitions to leave state.

 After a few years, tens of thousands of dollars, and a few years taken off my life, I win physical custody and she pays me $150/wk.  That was 9 years ago.  Son about to go to high school now(14 years old).

Should I take her to court for more money? Keep in mind, in my state we fall out of guidelines as our combined income exceeds guideline standards, so I am not guaranteed there will be an increase.

 Rison facing 20 days for failing to pay support
 
 
   
DECATUR, Ga. (AP) - A judge ordered the arrest of former star receiver Andre Rison on Monday for failing to pay $107,000 in child support.

Superior Court Judge Cynthia Becker said Rison should be jailed for 20 days and asked that other jurisdictions outside the state assist in arresting the former football player.

Rison's attorney, Max Richardson, declined comment. Rison was not at court Monday.

An attorney for Raycoa Handley, the mother of two of Rison's children, said he thinks Rison is in Michigan or Florida.

Handley's attorney, Randy Kessler, said this is the fourth or fifth time Rison has missed a child support hearing involving Handley.

Rison last played for the Oakland Raiders in 2000, finishing with 41 catches for 606 yards and six touchdowns while helping them reach the AFC championship game. He was suspended for four games in 2001 for a repeat violation of the league's substance abuse policy and has been out of football since.

Rison, who played from 1989-2000, had 743 catches for 10,205 yards and 84 touchdowns in 12 seasons with seven teams.

I've spoken to my 10 year old already about this, but was looking for anything else I should add.....At my mother-in-laws house he went on the computer to play games....but when they checked later he had gone onto porn sites (boob.com, penis.com, vagina.com, etc)  Curiosity stuff I'm sure but one was EXTREMELY graphic (oral sex), another included some gay men together (not in the act but pretty darn close).  I told him I wasn't angry, but didn't want it to happen again, that if he has questions/curiosity that he should talk to me.  He said he felt embarassed.....do you think I should tell school (to warn other parents)? Or just keep it at that and hope it doesn't happen again?

....I just can't understand what she's thinking.  My boy is in the school play tomorrow (he has the lead).  However, if school gets cancelled because of snow the play will be Thursday instead of Wednesday.  Well, PBFH claims that if it is Thursday she can't make it because she is going away with new boyfriend. (Weekend trip within state).  Now boy is all sad about possibility of school getting cancelled.  Over the years there have been a total of 15 plays/assemblies/science fairs....and mom (lives 90 miles away by her choice)has shown up for how many? TWO...sometimes I'd just like to say to him "Mom has more important things to do with her life than to see you sing three solos and star in this musical".  I'm always left to pick up the pieces of her selfishness and guilt trips....sorry just had to vent.

PBFH recently got divorced from husband #2 (married for 5 years).  He was a good guy and she ended up cheating on him (they work together).  She told me she was worried about his "stability" around our son (now almost 10 years old) and to tell her when ex #2 wanted to see our son.(ex #2 and son are very close).  I did that at first but then he called me and said she was not answering emails, phone calls, etc...So he wanted to go through me to see son (BTW, I am the custodial parent but she has liberal visitation).  After talking to him I asked him about selling their house.  Well, he tells me he was so concerned about the divorce and moving having an effect on my son that he signed the house over to her with the stipulation that she wouldn't move so as to provide a stable home for my son during the tumultuous divorce.  Well, you guessed it, she sells the house (no regard for our son), keeps his money and doesn't even tell him! Here's a guy who was a step-parent and is so concerned about my son's welfare that he gives up about 50K of equity in his home so his ex-step son can have some stability only to have bio-mom do what's best for bio-mom...I fucking can't stand this woman and her selfishness....just can't fucking stand it!

Ex asks me if I still have same lawyer, then starts requesting all sorts of school stuff.  Yup, she is trying for custody again.  
My son is 13 and going into 8th grade.  I have had physical custody since he was 5 (ex lives in NH, I live in MA).  Since that time she has tried on 3 occasions to open the whole thing up and try for custody.  3 times she has failed.  The new reason is that he is not doing great in school.  He grades are ok but he gets in trouble frequently.  I had him tested to see if it was a ADD or ADHD issue and doc says no.  He has an IQ of 135 so he should be doing great grade-wise, but he is lazy and does minimal work. The whole 8 years she has been trying to get him on her side about everything.  I must say she has succeeded.  He and I argue frequently.
Her goal is to get him with her for high school.  I work weekends so I am not sure when I would see him if that happened(holidays and summers maybe).  He also lives with his  4 year old sister and two year old brother from my current wife.  He has expressed interest in living with her on occasion, but I don't think he really wants to, just afraid to tell her he doesn't.  Opinions and comments are welcome.

Brief synopsis...BM voluntary tries to move out of state because she knows the best way to get back at me is taking my boy away (this was 1999 and boy was then 5).   After trial is over and I'm awarded custody...BM from day one makes Son feel guilty for not living there. ("Mommy is sooo sad when you are not here"..etc).  Since then there have been 4 occasions she has tried to re=open the whole sha-bang with every little blip in this boys life (mis-behaving at school..).  EVERY time it is shot down by the judge (I am remarried with a 2 year old and another on the way--God bless my new wife).  BM gets divorced from husband #2 and is now engaged to be married again.  The whole time the guilt trip on the boy.  The straw that broke the camel's back was that we punished boy for mis-behaing (sent to his room for a few hours) and he cries to BM that he doesn't want to live here anymore, gonna run away, etc (all this while he was still angry).  The kicker is that she has told him "I tried to get you to live with me several times but the courts wouldn't let me".  Why would  one say this to a 10 year old??!!  My guess is that I'll be going to court on the new tack that she believes he wants to live with her. (in actuality take him from his siblings and time with me would be next to nothing as I work weekends.  Opinions, please...what should I do?  I feel as though it will never end with this woman.  I just want to let him be a kid, yet all I do is damage control without trying to trash his mother...

I was reading Baby Einstein Babies by Julie Aigner-Clark to my 10 month old.  Pictures of babies.."this is a baby"..."babies have happy smiles..."Daddies love their babies...."Mommies love their babies, too." Kudos to Ms. Aigner-Clark for putting the daddies first.  I know it was such a small step..but it certainly meant a lot to me...