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Last summer former spouse abducted child, was missing for 6 weeks.
Had court hearing in Louisiana establishing jurisdiction in Texas.
Had Texas hearing (after former spouse was a no show on three occasions) tempory orders were written-up as to the judges decree.
(If thats not enough to spark your memory, I'll post more)

Former spouse has not signed temporary orders, and Thanksgiving visitation is a week away.  The vague previous custody orders were the reason a recovery by law enforcement was not initiated during the abduction, the new orders are concrete with no gray area on the dates involved...but remain unsigned, unfiled in court. Over a month has passed from the hearing, the temporary orders were written as per the judges instructions, and in opposing counsels hand 5 days after hearing.

Do I have to follow unsigned temporary orders and send my child on Thanksgiving visitation with a person that abducted my child not more than a month and a half ago?

Is this just a tactic to run with my child, with my former spouse knowing that not signing the temporary orders buys her time before the court will react?

If I have to allow visitation without signed, on file, enforceable, temporary orders, and I say hell no, am I looking at contempt, and how bad is it? (With prior abduction this summer, I'm thinking a lot stronger language than hell no, btw)

Thanks for your time Soc.

I'm concerned about my childs mental health, I suspect clinical depression.  He's on summer visitation with me, and lives the rest of the year at his moms.
Can I get him checked out by a local psychologist without her consent?

My former spouse is blocking all calls to my daughter, hanging up on me, family, even my daughters friends.  We live states away from each other, and its going on three weeks with no contact.

My daughter was to be returned from summer visitation on July 31.

What methods of contact can you folks suggest?
Certified letters...can they be sent to children, or can anyone answering the door sign for them?

Ever hear of a priest making a house call in a situation like this?  Maybe my parish priest can call a priest local to my daughters last known location and have him swing by.

I just want to know if she's even in the same state/address as the last I knew she was.

Do cops make "check-up" calls?
Should I call CPS?  Is this grounds for abuse?
The judicial system is dragging on returning my daughter, and this is getting too hard to stand, so please any advice?

My former spouse and I agreed nine years ago to her having summer visitation, alternating major holidays.  Court ordered decree, up until this visit, relatively smooth sailing.

A week before my 12 yr old child is to come home, she is telling me she doesn't want to.  This is not the first time she has flip-flopped as to where she wants to live, and I am allready in contact with an attorney...making sure jusrisdiction is in our home state (interstate-visitation, not fun), that the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act is accepted and ready to roll...

But I am absolutely sick in my heart.  I've been this little girls Daddy for 12 years, and 9 of those years it's been me taking care of her, while Mom has been "disneyland".

Soc is giving some excellent advise as to court motions and enforcement ideas...but oh my god this hurts.  Please someone throw me a bone that things are not as bleak as they feel right now.

There is no way, short of false accusations of abuse/neglect/etc..., that I won't be able to bring her home with the help of local law enforcement in the town she is visiting at.  Atleast thats what I think, but please correct me if I'm wrong.  And once she's home, in a while, and with some family counseling to get to the bottom of all this, I really think a way can be found that makes everyone more or less happy.

But while courts take a kids opinion on the matter, when my daughters opinion shifts like the wind, I hate to say it, but is she so unreliable that they would discount what she expresses as her wishes?  Does what a kid says really have that much weight?  Only to have it change in a month or so?  I know in my heart of hearts I'm a better parent and able to provide for my daughter's emotional/prepubescent needs...but I've been fighting the predjudice against custodial fathers for 9 years, and now that my daughter is going into her teens, she says she doesn't want to come home.  

Any ideas or encouragement folks?

Deleted for senseless drivel.
Sorry, been a rough 3 weeks.