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I am a happily married mother of 3 boys. My oldest boy (lukis) is 5 and visits his biological father every other weekend. I have tried to get his father to go to mediation and parenting classes but he refuses and is 900 dollars behind in child support. My son has been coming home telling us that his dad says he doesnt have to listen to us and that we are not his family. My ex and I were never married (in fact) he didnt even want to be in his life until my son was 4 yrs old. Just recently my son told us that if he calls my husband dad then his dad will spank him and take his toys away. He has also been extremely violent to my 2 yr old and tells me that if he doesnt hurt his little brother that the "bad guys from jail" will come "kill" him. I dont know what to do. Ive contacted state, they wont help and lawyers tell me i have no case. What am I supposed to do, just sit around while my son is being mentally and emotionally attacked by his father? Anybody been through this that can give me some insight in this? I lose sleep, getting depressed  I just feel alone....

My son's BF wants my son to get a 2nd opinion from a psychologist but refuses to use his medicaid so that he doesnt need me to show up. He told me that I am not allowed to go but a lawyer told me he can not do that but I am afraid if I go anyways it will cause a scene and upset my son. I dont trust his intentions but i have nothing to hide. I am afraid he is going to mess with my sons head and I cant stop him.... What do I do?

I am a happily married mother of 3 boys. My oldest boy (lukis) is 5 and visits his biological father every other weekend. I have tried to get his father to go to mediation and parenting classes but he refuses and is 900 dollars behind in child support. My son has been coming home telling us that his dad says he doesnt have to listen to us and that we are not his family. My ex and I were never married (in fact) he didnt even want to be in his life until my son was 4 yrs old. Just recently my son told us that if he calls my husband dad then his dad will spank him and take his toys away. He has also been extremely violent to my 2 yr old and tells me that if he doesnt hurt his little brother that the "bad guys from jail" will come "kill" him. I dont know what to do. Ive contacted state, they wont help and lawyers tell me i have no case. What am I supposed to do, just sit around while my son is being mentally and emotionally attacked by his father? Anybody been through this that can give me some insight in this? I lose sleep, getting depressed I just feel alone....

 

Ok my son has been going to a psychologist for about a year now to help him deal with all the changes that has been going on in his life. His psychologist told us (me and my husband) that her OPINION is that he has Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Attachment Disorder. I am still doing research on these disorders to find out how she sees that. She has NOT made an official diagnosis though. BD asked to consult with her about my son. She told him about what has been going on and what she THINKS is going on but after BD met with her, he told me to stop taking him to her or let him find another psychologist. He was very irritated with the fact he was going to her AFTER his visit. He is now having his GF call me and ask for Medical Info to take him to another psychologist. I told her I would get back with BD and that she is not to be a messenger in our decisions about our son. I do not agree that taking him to another psychologist is the right or smart thing to do considering he is making excellent progress with this psychologist and that his behavior problems (that have been very challenging) have started to cease and disappear. I am afraid that his trust factor in people will diminish if every time BD doesnt agree with what is being said then he decides to change. (We have joint custody but I am sole guardian) Any advice would be helpful. I dont want him to interfere with his progress but at the same time i am so tired of fighting with him and I know if i tell him no there will be a fight. How do I tell him no easy enough to cease any fuses going off? Plus insurance wont pay for it and i dont have money to pay half(like the court order says). I told him that but he is still insisting. Please help if you can........

I am a married mom of 3 boys. My oldest son sees his BF every other weekend and some holidays. We agreed on joint custody but I have sole guardianship. Everything was going great with his BF until I got married to my husband almost a year ago. Since I have been married my ex has been saying things to my 5 year old son. My son comes home and tells me that he is scared of his BF because he told him that if he listens to my husband or calls my husband dad he will get spanked and his toys will b taken away. He has also told me that if he doesnt hurt his 2 yr old brother then the bad guys from jail will come kill him. My son wants to call my husband dad bc my husband is more of a dad to him than his BF. We dont force the issue but I told him when he is at our house he can call my husband whatever he wants. We dont force him in any way. Its all up to him. I called his BF last night to tell him that our son has to stay home from school bc he has a 103.8 fever. He wasnt there so I told his new GF. He never called to see how he was or anything...He doesnt show up for any extra cirricular events that the school puts on and he never called him on his first day of kindergarten to see how his day went. He has yet to ask me about how he is doing in school. My son gets his heart broke everytime he tells his dad to come to a school event. My son started karate and asked me where his dad was bc his dad said he was coming. I dont know how to let him down easy. I just tell him that maybe he had to work late. He is always late picking him up and early dropping him off. He has also lied to me everytime he talks to me. He was arrested in front of my son and told me he was working. We have mediation scheduled but I dont know exactly how to address these concerns to where he doesnt get mad and say something to my son while he is in his custody. He has been threatning him and he does pot and meth. Which i cant prove. I am worried about my son and the state wont listen to a 5 yr old. HOw can i make the mediation successful or how can I get him away? Lawyers say I have no case and my son is going to a psychologist to help him deal with his father. Please help....

I am having an issue. My ex is taking me to court for custody on false accusational grounds that I will get him on later, however for right now we have had joint custody for a year and a half now and he wants revenge on me(hence the suit) He has no job, $1100 behind in child support, no license, no car and just moved and hour away. My son went over for normal visitation and today I find out that he once again called DFS on me for malnutrition(he called a few months ago also that was dropped) The DFS guy came over and nothing came of it and he left. But I found out from my 6 year old that his dad and his dads gf forced him to lie to a police officer and he was not at all happy about it. He also told me that him and his dad did something he was not allowed to talk about and started crying. (He came home and buried his face in the couch) My son came home with ticks alllll over his body and he told me that he didnt eat breakfast lunch or dinner at his dads and ate like it when he got home. I am worried about my sons health and my ex gets him for the whole month of july. What can be done and are there any comments about what I can do to stop this crap before I lose it on my ex? Any comments are appreciated I feel like I am losing my mind....Please help.....



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I have a good home and my ex is making outrageous lies to get custody from, most of which i have documentation that it is false... I dont know what all I might need in this if someone whose been through this can let me know some pointers itd b great. thanks

I am not asking for any legal advice or what I should do, but I dont understand something in my custody order. If anyone can put it in lamens terms (because I cant read court jibberish very well) I would really appreciate it.

1. Attendance at school

The child shall attend public school in the public school district where the petitioner (me) resides. Future decisions regarding the schools attended shall be shared equally.

? Does that mean I have to get his permission to change his school if I were to move out of that school district?


If anybody knows what exactly this means could you please let me know. Thanks