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I love the Republican Party but...

http://www.chippewa.com/articles/2007/05/03/ap-state-wi/d8osm1l00.txt

http://www.masslaw.com/news0406.cfm

Just trying to post good news for once!!!!

read....

hopefully this comes to other states....

http://www.timesunion.com/AspStories/story.asp?storyID=578503&category=OPINION&newsdate=4/6/2007

Hi,

Could I ask the judge to forgive back child support arrears if the CP "doesn't want that"?

Thanks

I am tired of waiting on freeadvice to get information that is biased and sexist.

However, when I post anywhere else, including here, it takes forever to get an answer.

I have the following problem:

I have a 6 year old son in Florida. I am the NCP. The CP and I have an agreement that we drafted and had signed by the judge in the child's legal jurisdiction (in Florida) whereas both parties split the financial cost and transportation of the child.

The agreement allows the child to come to Virginia several times per year.

My distance from the child is approximately 1000 miles.

The CP has opposed the following:

1) Use of any escort to accompany the child during his 2.5 hour trip.

(The CP insists that 3 round trip tickets are to be purchased...one for CP, NCP, and child for that trip) (The 2 other round trip tickets would be for the adults to transport the child)

2) Use of any form of transportation besides an airplane.

The above will hinder my ability to accomplish visitation due to my financial abilities. The dates of travel are all during blackout dates, and even after "deals" are found, even the CP finds it expensive.

A bit of history:

(When the child was 2 and I lived only 250 miles away the same judge considered transportation via a vehicle to be unreasonable and forced me to excercise visitation in the child's locale.) The child is 6 now though, and the judge has allowed interstate visitation with no indication of how it is to transpire.


I have the following questions:

1) If our present agreement does not provide any restrictions concerning the method of the child's travel, can I still pick him up by car?

2) Could my picking him up by car (especially for short durations that are legally intended to be excercised in Virginia) be looked down on by the judge and stopped if the CP decides to take me to court? (Remember transportation functions are to be split, so he could come home on a plane)

3) In our agreement, we specified that "financial responsibility is to be split by both parties", what if the CP's trip is more expensive than mine? Am I still liable for half of the overall cost for transportation, or have I effectively taken on half by driving him?

Thanks in advance for your advice!!

Hi,

I recently filed a pro se petition to modify visitation with my son.

I filed it with the 17th Circuit Court in Florida. (Broward County)

I live in VA and he lives in FL.

I could not find any real guidelines for that jurisdiction (although it contains over 2 million people)

I managed to get some guidelines online for NCPs who reside 150 miles or more away from the child but it was in a county about 300 miles away.

The schedule I asked for based on what I saw was about 45 days in the summer and some time during spring break and winter break....some time in the child's locale when I am in the area etc.

I just did the best that I could as I have not been able to get any Pro Bono or legal aid assistance.

Could you please answer the following?

1) We have been to court quite a few times since the dissolution.
The ex never negotiates. If I decide not to waste time and mediation money by refusing to negotiate this time around, does it hurt me? Could I politely refuse to negotiate?

2) The ex wants to allow me only 1-2 weeks during the summer. Does the judge usually see it half way? Or does the judge mix our requests to come out with some new average?

3) The ex wants to prohibit the use of escorts for travel of the child. Wants me to come down and pick up the child on a plane, while paying for both of our return tickets. She does not "like" escorts. My son is only 6, but I understand that he is legally allowed to have an escort accompany him on this 3 hour trip.

Is it likely that the judge will make me pay for all responsible for financial responsibilty of his visitation time with me?

Can the judge say no escorts, you pick him up?

She doesn't want me to pick him up in my car.

Can the judge say plane only?

4) The ex wants me to visit the child on thanksgiving in his locale as opposed to my own and refuses to explain why.

Can the judge force me to go to Florida on the dates she wants for unknown reasons?

I know that no one has a crystal ball, but I have to ask these questions.

I don't have much assistance or much money to play with.

Thanks

Hi,

I recently filed a Pro Se petition to modify visitation to allow visitation time with my son at the interstate level.

In that petition, I filed for shared parental responsibility (which I never had when the order was drafted 3 years ago)

The ex is refusing to give me shared parental responsibility citing that I am not the one who takes him to the doctor when he is sick...it is her.

I reside in Virginia, my son resides in Florida.

Won't the judge see things the same way?

The reason that I want this so bad is that the ex perpetually comes up with fake illnesses for herself and my child.

She said that she had HIV and Lyme disease then later changed her mind.

Last week, she indicated that my child was urinating blood. I think that this is yet another lie.

The final dissolution of marriage does not say anything at all about shared parental responsibility.

However, it does say that she is the primary residential parent.

It is my understanding that shared parental responsibility is presumptive.

It is also my concern that joint custody in Florida is presumptive, but it rarely happens!

What are my chances of getting Shared Parental Responsibility and will my efforts be thwarted because I now reside out of state?

Thank you so much!!!

Could someone possibly give me some ideas on obtaining my child's medical records?

The CP refused to disclose them to me, until I sued her Pro Se and obtained Shared Parental Responsibility.

The child has "allegedly" had some serious health concerns.

Could someone give me an "angle" to obtaining his medical records?

Thank you

Hi,

It seems that no matter what message forum I go to, there is someone (or more than one person) who needs to go beyond telling me what I don't want to hear. It seems that when I post a simple question about how to proceed legally I am greeted with alot of animosity even though no one knows the particulars of my situation. Are people out there that eager to blindly defend their greed and do anything that they can do to maintain the status qo concerning custody and child support?

For example:

Question:

I just relocated, how do I file for modification?

Answer: Why didn't you file before you left?

Answer: You left your family, bla bla bla.

Question:

How do I get child support arrears forgiven?

Answer: Why do you want to get them forgiven?

(Because I am living out of my car eating ramen noodles....hey none of your business anyways)

I am noticing this more and more, even on this forum.

If I ask a question, I expect and honest answer. Not what I want to hear or what I don't want to hear.

Just wanted to vent and post the particulars of what I have noticed.

One of my points would be that it seems that many people have a hidden agenda out there and are willing to deliberately give you bad advice to deter your individual efforts and to further secure their lofty world of keeping a child away from the NCP and leeching the NCP fincancially dry as a form of revenge, effective visitation interference, and for their own personal financial benefit.

Sorry, but I needed to vent!