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I have asked you a question in the past in regards to evaluations. I have now attended my first meeting, and my ex finally attended his this week. I just received a call from the doctor that states my ex, I, and his new wife all have a meeting this coming Tuesday.

#1. Is it normal for us all to be in a meeting together?

#2 Is the purpose in this to see if we can get along together for the best interest of my daughter?

Okay, to give you some background in regards to my issue. My ex has had custody of my daughter (age 7 almost 8) for the last two years. I had custody for the first five years.  He is remarried, and up until the point he got remarried we got along just fine. I allowed him to see our daughter whenever he requested, and in most cases would drive my daughter eight hours to see her father. (we lived in seperate states at the time). Now we have a reasonable and liberal custody arrangement, that due to the new wife is not working at all. I have requested for a modification and the judge has ordered an evaluation before he makes any decisions. My first visit is this Friday, and there's is the following week.

The sMom will not allow me to talk to my husband at all in regards to our daughter, she denies me all visits, communication, and any request to see my daughter. She states since she is the one that takes care of my daughter I will speak with her and not my husband. If I write my husband a letter, she calls me to respond not him. She is verbally abusive to me, and just downright nasty.

My questions are as follow:

#1. The Smom has decided that she needs to sit in on all evaluations with my ex, and be a part of them. Will the evaluator allow this, and if so will he include her in his report (generally speaking)? Also, if he does will the judge consider this in his decision making? The reason that I ask is because she has a very controlling personality, and I believe narcissistic,  and I have a firm belief that if she included she will make it known by her attitude and actions that she is the one that is truly causing the frustration of the relatioship between my daughter and I.  

#2.  During the evaluation with my daughter, does it normally span several sessions where he will encourage her to talk about all of her feelings, and will allow her time to open up..Or is the most emphasis generally placed on the "play sessions" and psychological tests? My reason for asking is I am scared that based on things my daughter has been told, by the Smom that when it comes time for the play time she is not going to want to participate with me.

#3. In this type of setting since a divorce has already been established will they still require/allow collateral contact to be given?

I love my daughter very much, and all of this is just very difficult. I just want what is truly best for my daughter. I know she deserves, and needs both parents in her life. Any answers you can give would be greatly appreciated. I have already read the Evaluation Guide and that was extremely helpful.

I want to thank you in advance for reading this request.

Here is a basic overview. My ex and I have been divorced for four years. Everything was going fine until he got remarried. The new wife is not allowing me to see, talk to, or write my daughter. She will not give my daughter any cards or letters I send.

I have filed for contempt of court orders, and a request for modification of the exisiting orders. Being as they currently state reasonable and liberal, which my ex does not interpret the same way. He considers reasonable meaning I never get to see her.

Our court date is tomorrow. I have it very well documented as to the dates and instances he has denied visitations. As well, as affidavits and witnesses. I really do not care if he gets held in contempt, as long as the judge will approve a modification so that I can see my daughter.

Question #1.  Is there any last minute advice you can give me about going to court tomorrow. I am more nervous than words can explain. But, I have researched and prepared to the best of my ability.

Question #2. Is the judge gonna allow my ex and his new wife to go on about what a horrible person they think I am (i do not do drugs, have stable employment, stable long term relationship, etc etc), or is this going to be a simple this is why he is in contempt, and he defends why he is not?

Question #3. Where is a good source of case law history that I can review cases in my state of similiar cases, which would be SC.

I am having an extreme amount of trouble with my ex, but most with my child's stepmother! I believe that my daughter is being subjected to PAS, and I want to know what procedure I would need to go through to have my daughter PAS specialized child psychologist. Is it best to address this issue in court, or can I take her to an independant psychologist?!? My daughter was told that if she wanted to come live with me she could, but she better say goodbye to all her brother, her bedrooms, all her toys, and all the sports she is in because I could not afford them...She was also reprimanded for taking some pictures of me to school, and when her stepmother found out she had done this she ripped up some of the cards and pictures my daughter had of me! To me this is beyond comprehension. ANy suggestions in regards to the PAS? or her being tested/seen for this?

This is not really a "legal" question perse...but, I need to hear some experiences from other posters!

I have an evaluation meeting tomorrow with my ex, his new wife, and the doctor! Can someone who has had to go through this before please give me a brief idea of what to expect....I was not expecting the new wife to be there, and there is a great amount of tension between us! I will just be calm, professional, and not get baited into any arguments by her...But, hearing someone who has gone through it before would be a gerat help...Not sure what kind of questions to expect.

Thank you for your support on the Socrateaser board!! I need any and all advice I can get..I am so discouraged! The judge even admonished my ex's new wife in court...And I quote "I can see that this relationship is being frustrated, as I see your wife shaking your head that no her mom does not need to be in her life" "She needs to understand that you had a child with someone else" "Let it be known that there is presidence that custody has changed parents because of interference with a court order"...But, I will stop ranting..just very sad tonight!! The judge would not even see my evidence.

I currently have filed contempt of court order against my ex husband, and we go to court this week! I am as prepared as I can be, and have done as much research as possible on the internet as what is needed to be prepared for this trial! What I am needing is any advice from anyone that has actually filed for contempt of court, and a modification order, that has done it pro se them selves?!? Do I need to have character witnesses, and affidavits..Of is this is a simple hearing where he has to show why he shouldn't be in contempt of court!? I am just needing to know what to expect. Any help would be greatly appreciated. THank you!

Has anyone used any online parenting courses? I am looking for a good, reputable, online parenting course? Preferably as low cost as possible, but I would appreciate anyone that has taken one. This is not court ordered, this is something that I am wanting to do for myself. Thanks in advance!

I originally posted this on the parenting forum, but I think this one would be better suited...I am having an extreme amount of trouble with my ex, but most with my child's stepmother! I believe that my daughter is being subjected to PAS, and I want to know what procedure I would need to go through to have my daughter PAS specialized child psychologist. Is it best to address this issue in court, or can I take her to an independant psychologist?!? My daughter was told that if she wanted to come live with me she could, but she better say goodbye to all her brother, her bedrooms, all her toys, and all the sports she is in because I could not afford them...She was also reprimanded for taking some pictures of me to school, and when her stepmother found out she had done this she ripped up some of the cards and pictures my daughter had of me! To me this is beyond comprehension. ANy suggestions in regards to the PAS? or her being tested/seen for this? And if she is in fact being subjected to this, is that considered enough for me to get custody back?