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#1
Received school records from child's private school. Had sent a FERPA-type letter stating request for all school ... the line requesting the school records read...I would also like to request a complete copy of xxxxxxxxx's entire school record from the time she entered (name of school) until the present day, to include any correspondence with parents, records of disciplinary action, grades, and any other notes which teachers and parents may have placed within.

What was received was a packet containing two letters to NCP copied to the school, several (but not all) years of achievement testing sheets, forms from two teachers outlining contents of parent/teacher conferences (child has been in the school six years). There is a copy of a letter from NCP's attorney, which had been forwarded to the school by CP after an incorrect address was used, but not the letter the CP attached to that letter stating how unreasonable NCP was being (this letter was copied to NCP at the time by CP). There is one report card from 2nd grade and one interim report from this year. There are no other grades. There is a copy of the child's original public school registration form, but no registration information for the private school.

 There are no attendance records, although there is one note from NCP excusing child from school because of a cold. There are no records of disciplinary action, including detention, and we've been told that she has had detentions over the years. There is no emergency card. It seems very spotty, incomplete, and random. Is this the way school records are? Do they not include disciplinary and attendance records? The principal and a teacher in the elementary school each wrote certifications for previous court motions, and these are not included, although a copy of a restraining order against NCP which is dated the day that the CP left the marital home and was dismissed before the hearing by the CP, and before the child entered the private school, although it could have been placed in the file by the previous public school, was included.

So, am I wrong to think this is hinky?

Thanks,
#2
Second Families / Memorial Day fun...
Jun 06, 2006, 01:09:59 PM
In NJ.  12yo sd.  Parents have joint legal w/mom parent of primary...

SD has asked that arrangements for "unscheduled times" ie, holidays which are ordered to be split but require parental communication to arrange times, be arranged through her because of her mother's family's beratement of her father and the negotiations which must go on to allow anything.

This was followed for close to a year when dad decided that this wasn't doing sd any good, because she was afraid to speak up when she wanted to see dad, especially if she thought mom might have plans.  So, for Memorial Day, dad sent an email explaining this and asked to see sd on Memorial Day.  About 41 hours passed before reply (abnormal, typically reply is immediate upon reading), which says that daughter will be available from 1-6, and that grandmom will pick sd at 6pm at neutral drop off location.  We knew, from sd, that mom was getting married that weekend, but sd had insinuated that mom would be hanging out with her on Monday at a friend's house, so we gathered that there was no honeymoon.

Pick up at 1pm... sd was with mom's best friend, and not Mom.  
Took sd to fly a kite, sd passed out after 45 minutes from heat exhaustion.  Paramedics were called, instructed dad on what to do.  When sd was asked where mom was, were told that she was on the other side of the country on her honeymoon.  Dad called Mom to provide information and left a message stating an emergency.  Over an hour later, she called back, he advised as to the condition, said that he felt that it was in sd's best interest to be with a parent that night who could authorize medical attention, rather than her grandparents.  He told her he could drop sd back to the grandparents the next day.  Mom would be on her honeymoon apparently until Thursday.  Mom asked to speak to sd, asked sd if she wanted to go home.  SD said that she had homework to do.  This conversation was on speakerphone.  Phone went back to dad, still on speaker, when mom informed him that he was to have sd back by 6:10 at the latest, or she'd take the necessary steps of calling her lawyer, and his personal counselor, and the police.  She hung up on him.

At 6pm on the dot, the phone rang.  It was a police officer, calling from grandma's cell phone, wanting to know if dad was going to return sd.  Dad explained that it was in sd's best interest to remain that night with a parent who could authorize her medical care.  Police officer said he thought that it was in sd's best interest to go home where her school uniform and school books were.  Dad advised the officer that he had no problem picking those things up, but that for the night, he felt that sd needed to stay with a parent.  Police officer threatened to write his noncooperation in his DV report.  Dad said he understood.  Police officer asked to speak with sd, who very reluctantly did.  She told him that she had a headache and wanted to stay where she was.  Finally, it was worked out that sd would be returned to the neutral spot and her grandparents at 6:30am the next morning.  No further mention was made of her school books.  She fell asleep by 8pm and didn't wake up until the next morning when it was time to go.

Exchange was done without incident.  According to sd, she talked to mom, who offered sd the chance to stay home from school, with the understanding that she would have tons of makeup work.  Sd decided to stay home (wise choice, and one we had advised her on, as it was supposed to be 95 degrees, high humidity, and her school does not have very good air conditioning).

At 9:30am, the counselor called because mom had called her.  It seemed from the conversation that she had no knowledge of a medical emergency, and simply had been told that there was a disagreement over whether sd should go home on Monday night.  Mom had asked her to call back, but counselor advised that she was not going to because this was not her place, but did allow us to schedule an emergency appt. for the weekend (sd has been attending the counseling sessions as well)

SD was brought for dinner on wednesday night with a bottle of water and snack in case she was taken to the park again.

No further sounds have been heard...

Does anyone have any thoughts or ideas?



#3
Imagine a female child who visits her father in a suburban apartment high rise apartment complex.  There are security cameras in the lobby and a doorman on duty from 9am-6pm daily.  There are laundry facilities on the first floor, adjacent to the lobby. There are 228 units in the building, and approximately 50-75 people in the building who know and are known to the child by sight, including obviously both of the doormen. At what age do you deem the child capable of riding the elevator to the lobby to do her laundry, a chore which she loves (weird child).

Riddle me Batman...