I have a 33 year old son, whom I believe has been alienated from me by his father. I see my son as also participating in this. He seems to have adopted all the negative views his father holds about me. Then he sets up situations that will inevitably result in a "to do" which I am sure confirms for him all of his negative beliefs about me. This has been going on since I was separated, when my son was four years old. His father broke all the visitation rules, repeatedly sued me for sole custody (which he did not get) and kept my son away from me by,for example, taking vacations with him during the only times I had vacation. His father remarried and has become extremely successful and has all the toys, etc. There are two (lovely) step sons from my ex's new wife. I had hoped that by now my son would have some insight into what happened. Instead, things are getting worse all the time. We hardly have any contact and when we do, it has to be on my son's terms. Making plans to get together is a huge struggle that usually results in an emotional fight over the telephone. Recently, he refused to tell me his arrival time, coming to visit me. After trying several times to get this information, I suggested that he not come visit me unless it was what he wanted to do and it seemed like he did not want to come. That was a first. Very difficult. I have always been available to my son. He does not value what I have to offer as a mother. It breaks my heart.