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Visitation Issues / anyone have LD visitation with toddlers?
« on: Jul 24, 2006, 06:58:36 AM »
Long story short (hopefully) bf's son is in CA with BM.  Son is almost 18 months and because of her claim that she is still nursing (doubtful that she still is) refuses to let him see son for more than 4 hours at a time (and it was a fight to get that).  4 days in a row - 4 hours, 4 days off, 4 days on, 3 days off.  That is how it has been all summer (with him renting a house out there).  Before that he was flying out 1 week/month and seeing him every day.  We live in MI.  No schedule set after August.  She refuses to give in to any extra time, and will schedule things or claim she has things going on so he cannot see him any time other than what is in the agreement.  Lawyers worked out schedule, not judge.  His attorney has had a lot of personal issues, and isn't doing the best for him that she can, but she is one of only a handful in the county that she lives in.  BM is borderline neglectful - working on proving that.  Only wants CS from him, and lots of it.  She refuses to work.  BF wants to be a part of son's life but she is making it VERY difficult, unfortunately.  He is going to file for full, and hope for 50/50 custody.  Has anyone come across this situation before?  He's hoping for 2 weeks here (with us), 2 weeks there (with BM) and has the means to get him every 2 weeks and then return him.
Any help is appreciated.
Thanks..

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Visitation Issues / Interstate custody/visitation?
« on: Jan 13, 2006, 04:04:35 PM »
Hi - I'm new here - my bf has an 11 month old and they are both wanting full custody of the child.  She moved to CA when she was pg, and didn't tell him when she was due, etc.  He had to find out from someone else, and by chance happened to pick a good time to go - and he was there when his son was born.  He requested a DNA (family financial reasons - his family is well off).  DNA came back - he's still not on the BC, no orders in place yet - they've gone through discovery and now have mediation next week, no depositions yet, trial scheduled for end of April.  She receives a good amount of child support - without orders.  He flies to CA for 1 week/month and up until a couple of months, would see him each day at her house, with her there.  The past couple of months he's asked for time alone and she refuses, her excuse being that she is still nursing (he'll be 1 in Feb).  She is nasty to him, and constantly brings up things from the past - and he just doesn't want to deal with her - he wants to spend time with his son - PERIOD.   His lawyer is OK - but I think she needs a fire lit under her ass.  Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated...  It's SO frustrating.

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Custody Issues / Custody Eval - update of sorts
« on: May 02, 2007, 07:30:12 AM »
Custody Eval is done, report not in yet - not due until June.  Home visits were done, met with the evaluator to go over everything, BM is being VERY difficult to work with.  Evaluator has come up with numerous schedules, BM not giving much input at all, refusing to answer emails about schedules, etc. Still refusing to give overnights (which would start this week according to evaluator's recommendations).   She doesn't like that he gets overnights and it works towards 50/50 (that would affect her child support amount).

And yet more proof this is all about money?  She asked the evaluator to look into liquid assets of Dad.  Arrgh!

What happens if all of a sudden she completely refuses to cooperate with the evaluator that SHE insisted on having?  She's also being "very difficult" according to her attorney, too.  Is there a snowball's chance in hell of us being awarded primary custody of a 2 year old?

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Custody Issues / Custody Eval. ??
« on: Apr 02, 2007, 07:44:46 PM »
OK - maybe this is a new one?  BM requested the custody eval day before the trial was supposed to start (yet another delay tactic).  Gets one.  Doesn't have the money to travel to evaluators.  BF provides that to her.  Has parenting ?? and psycho-social questionnaires due yesterday at 5.  His was late (but cleared by the Dr.) but in last night.  Hers?  STILL not in.  Why?  
Has anyone ever had an uncooperative other parent to deal with as far as a custody evaluation?  I just don't get it.  

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Custody Issues / Question on fees
« on: Feb 27, 2007, 07:58:34 AM »
In California, if one parent (NCP) has more money than the other (CP), does that mean that the NCP will HAVE to pay attorneys fees for the CP?  I've been going around and around with the attorney on this case.  CP has over $28K in her bank account, yet she continues to ask NCP to pay her fees.  He's a high earner, and she's claiming that she can't pay.  The attorney for NCP in this case seems to be rolling over on it and saying that he needs to pay according to CA law, and I'm just not buying it.  

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Custody Issues / custody eval for a 2 yo?
« on: Feb 09, 2007, 04:33:43 PM »
BF's son is in CA, he maintains a residence there for the purposes of visitation and is hoping to eventually have 50/50 to where he can have him here at our home in MI.  BM is very difficult - won't let him see him more than 4-5 hours a day, no overnights, etc. (driving factor is amt of CS depends on time spent with CP vs NCP).  
She has requested a custody eval.  What should he expect?  And it's one that they chose, so how do we know that this woman isn't biased against dads that want 50/50?  Any help is appreciated.

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Custody Issues / question re CA custody
« on: Sep 30, 2006, 07:47:44 AM »
bf has an 18 month old son, lives with BM in CA.  a little background...
she got pg right before they broke up, then moved from MI to CA.  BF is high earner. Borderline neglectful, but not enough to lose custody.  BM stole well over $50K from BF (case pending). Case is more about money than child, unfortunately.  He pays $2K CS now, she's look for 3x that amount.  Refuses to work.  He is in school full time in MI, but spent majority of summer in CA, and now flies out every other weekend, with extended weekend 1x month.  She refuses to allow more than 4 days in a row, no more than 5 hours at a time.  She claims to still be nursing, but is not.  She will not bring child to MI to see his family, because of check fraud case (afraid she'll be arrested). He's a great father, wants nothing more than to see his son more, she's refusing.  Keeps missing co-parenting class, which is pre-requisite for mediation.  Can't go to court until mediation done.  He's had evaluation by child psych. numerous times, and psych is in his favor.
What are his chances at 50/50 custody with 2 weeks here/there visits?  He's trying to avoid having to move to CA, because of school and life here.  
Unfortunately, BM wants 100% control and more money - this is all about the money, and not the child.  
Any help is appreciated.

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