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Hi all this is my first real post but I am having some difficulties making the post. The problem is that I am an abused wife and it is very hard but I am willing to share it with you an hope you can suggest a way out..
My husband was extremely abusive through our marriage. He beat me up all the time. I have had a broken nose, a cracked skull, bruises and many other injuries. I have had to have medical treatment many times and have been in hospital after his assaults. His family always blamed me for his violence. His excuse for beating me was that he believed I was fooling around on him. He said I was always looking at other men. This is simply untrue as I am a Muslim and it is forbidden. But it was him that was fooling around. He always brought diseases home and we had to always be taking pills and getting shots to get rid of them. But he would blame me for that too saying that I gave him the diseases. Every time this happened he would beat me with a piece of wood because according to him it is a right given to him by Allah through the Qu'araan.
But there is nowhere for me to go when he beats me. Once I tried to see someone at the mosque but I was told that my husband has that right and that I must never ever call 911 because then the authorities would investigate my husband again for having undesirable connections in the Middle East (Tareq, my husband transfers donations made to the mosque to the UAE through his business which he registered to me. Also they say that we as Muslims must not appear to have the same domestic violence problems as the kafir and so our problems must be settled within our communities and always according to Sharia Law.. But my husband continued to threaten me with a gun, he has a trunk full of new AK's and often said he would use one on me if I try to run away.  He put in some kind of a gadget on the telephone so he said he would know if I ever called the authorities.I am truly scared of him.  He now says we must soon return to the Middle East so that he can do his duty for Allah by helping out with Jihad but will not give me details. What can I do?I do not want to go back there again I would rather stay in Norcross (Atlanta).
The other problem is that I am worried he will either take the children with him when and if he leaves but in either scenario there will be no child support and most certainly no money for me.

 Please help with advice if you can because I am running out of options.

Badreya Al-Mariri

Norcross GA

Hi Soc!

State: Virginia (support until age 18 or 19 if still in high school or graduation which ever comes first).

I am the non-custodial parent. Child turned 18 on the 13 of this month. Dropped out of school at 16 in the 8th grade.  No contact in 3 years in the interest of self preservation (false abuse allegations).

Voluntary garnishment goes without saying.

Contacted my employer human resources department to make sure child support would terminate according the written court order (verbatim as stated above, no fine print). HR (located in California) states that VA closes cases at the end of the month, pay until then, standard proceedure.

Contacted case worker who states:

No VA code nor is it written anywhere at all  that the support is to continue until the last day of the month. Worker states it is standard procedure in *most cases* (emphasizes most cases).

 I ask what most cases are? Where the state garnishes? If I wasn't garnished could I just stop paying?  She only repeats "most cases". The order clearly states eighteen NOT until the end of the month (she had file). She repeats "Paying support until the last day of the month is standard in most cases" & then "that's all I can tell you".  *THUD*

Contact HR department, tell them to refer to the court order, not to make up something that isn't there. HR FINALLY concedes to stop garnishment. Yippee

1.  Am I missing some Federal Law that would prevail? Have searched for hours, even VA case law finding nothing..

2.  If arrearage letter is sent is it worth taking before a judge (mainly this is the principal of the matter but also good chunk of change $1,343).

3.  Do you think that  *most cases* means in most cases NCP's keep paying just because CSE says so?

Thank you!! You are the best!!!

Kindest regards;

KAT