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« on: May 10, 2006, 05:09:17 PM »
I want to start out by saying that I have custody of my 7 year old daughter and have had it since 2003 from a Texas court. She lives at my residence with me, my wife and kids. I share joint custody with her maternal grandmother. The grandmother has EOW and holidy visitation and is in charge of supervising the relationship that my daughter has with her mother. The mother has various felonies and can no be left alone with children unsupervised. The courts allowed the GP's to supervise the relationship with the understanding that mom was not to be living there. As you can already tell, mom is living there. I am taking the grandmother back to court and the judge has sent us to mediation with a current TRO in place. I know this will not work because we have been there and done this before.
I am seeking full custody for the protection of my daughter. While she has been visiting with her grandmother, it has been brought to my attnetion through school personel and child protective services that my daughter is being sexually abused by her cousin at their residence, being told by her grandmother not to tell her "secrets" or she will never see her mother again, and the gmother allowing the child to be left alone with her mother unsupervised. The child is under the age of ten and Texas Law states that there is nothing that they can do legally to this child. CPS just offers to have a saftey plan where the kids can not be left alone unsupervised and then strongly urge me to take the matter to court and have the order changed to no overnight stays and supervision for all partied involved. Granmother has emotionally abused this child stated by her forensic psychologist, therapist, teachers, and others who have been in contact with the child. We have all these people coming to help us and testify for us. I am torn about what to ask for. I know in my heart that these people should never be allowed bakci nto her life unsupervised, but at the same time I do not want this change to negatively affect my daughter by her felling guilty for telling what has happenend to her and now everything has to change.
I want to have some opinions on: do you think the GP's can do damage to this child if they were allowed to take the child for 4-6 hours two days a month unsupervised for visition with brief time also allowed for holidays? We are definately only allowing time with mom unsupervised by an ouside source but what do we do with grandmother and not look unreasonable with the judge or effect my daughter and make her fill like she is being punished for coming forward and telling the truth. I am so confused ,angry, and upset. Angry that this is happening to my daughter, angry that the GP and mother can not just do what the court order says, and angry that they have manipulated the situation with my daughter to make her eventually fill like she did something wrong. Please help!
Sorry if I have mistyped words or even spelt them wrong, I am so mad right now I could spit nails, if it was possible!
Desperate AggieDad