My gf has a daughter, who will be coming to live with us at the beginning of the up-coming school year.
Her custody order states they are to share the child yearly (as parents live in different counties). After child enters high school, she can choose where she wants to live - She's chosen to live with Mom.
Mom, my GF, is debating whether to open that can of worms and ask for child support... she's afraid that the X (the AH that he is), will try to take her back to court for custody.. even though her daughter is definately mentally capable of stating where she wants to live.
HE are the factors;
We have a 3 bedroom 3 bathroom home in a nice neighborhood, brand-new high school a few blocks away, we both make decent money. I have custody of my two boys 13 & 12, both are to start high school this year also.
He BD, has just moved from a home they lived in belonging to BD wife's father to an "ify" neighborhood in a city where there are gangs in the area. THe house is a 3 bedroom 2 bath and wife decided she wasn't going to work, while BD claims he makes 30.00 an hour.
BD has older daughter who ran away a few times and is now living with her mother, and that mother is going for child support, he has 2 boys 12 & 10 with current wife wh olive with him.
They've 'technically' been married since 1995, while BD and my GF were still in divorce proceedings. THen they got married again after the divorce was finalized... anyways they are not sure if we have this info or not....not that it makes a diference, unless he takes us to court...
Since the agreement was for the child, my GF's daughter, to live with one parent one year and the other parent the year after, and so on... the child is dead set against living with her father anymore - especially after this last school year...Mom wants to prepare for college for daughter, as she is an A/B student and wants to go to college. But we can't afford 3 kids going to college at the same time - she wants the BD's help, but he whines too much.... then threatens to go to court. Which we're not afraid of...
So, the question is; SHould she, my GF, open a case for child support?
Her custody order states they are to share the child yearly (as parents live in different counties). After child enters high school, she can choose where she wants to live - She's chosen to live with Mom.
Mom, my GF, is debating whether to open that can of worms and ask for child support... she's afraid that the X (the AH that he is), will try to take her back to court for custody.. even though her daughter is definately mentally capable of stating where she wants to live.
HE are the factors;
We have a 3 bedroom 3 bathroom home in a nice neighborhood, brand-new high school a few blocks away, we both make decent money. I have custody of my two boys 13 & 12, both are to start high school this year also.
He BD, has just moved from a home they lived in belonging to BD wife's father to an "ify" neighborhood in a city where there are gangs in the area. THe house is a 3 bedroom 2 bath and wife decided she wasn't going to work, while BD claims he makes 30.00 an hour.
BD has older daughter who ran away a few times and is now living with her mother, and that mother is going for child support, he has 2 boys 12 & 10 with current wife wh olive with him.
They've 'technically' been married since 1995, while BD and my GF were still in divorce proceedings. THen they got married again after the divorce was finalized... anyways they are not sure if we have this info or not....not that it makes a diference, unless he takes us to court...
Since the agreement was for the child, my GF's daughter, to live with one parent one year and the other parent the year after, and so on... the child is dead set against living with her father anymore - especially after this last school year...Mom wants to prepare for college for daughter, as she is an A/B student and wants to go to college. But we can't afford 3 kids going to college at the same time - she wants the BD's help, but he whines too much.... then threatens to go to court. Which we're not afraid of...
So, the question is; SHould she, my GF, open a case for child support?