It's been a while since I've posted. BM has been relatively quiet due to airtight custody agreement signed by the judge a couple of years ago, and also she has been distracted by drama with her new BF's wife. (Yes, her new boyfriend has a wife. And she's fighting with her. I'm just glad to be off the radar.)
A couple of things have happened over the last 9 months or so that have been concerning, but we haven't had enough info to do anything about it. In the first instance, SKids had a sleepover with a friend while at BM's house. When they got back home they tell us that the girl's parents had called after she went home because some pills (vicodin) fell out of her sleeping bag. There was some question as to who's pills they were... never could pin down anything, so we let it go and just made notes in our journal.
Then a couple of months ago SKid #2 comes home from BM's house, and tells us that while she was over there she accidentally took some pain medication. (Haha, real funny.) Apparently BM was keeping prescription meds in the aspirin bottle, and 13 yo took one. Again, can't prove it, and no point trying to pin down a compulsive liar, so just noted it in the journal.
So this weekend my husband gets a text from BM asking him to call her at her work number. She is an RN, and can't talk on her cell at work, so he called her. Apparently she thought she texted someone else, and thought that's who was calling... and she asked him for drugs before she realized who it was. Once she did, she promptly hung up. But he called her back and got it recorded. Of course, on the recording she is lying through her teeth saying she thought it was something else, etc, but it is clear on the recording that she is lying. She is VERY nervous and changes her story multiple times.
So my question is - what should we do with this information? My first thought is that we should take it to her supervisor at work because (1) she used a work phone to call someone for drugs, (2) she's obviously using drugs, probably while at work, and (3) she was in a patient's room when she was making the call. That's who's phone she called from.
My concern is that going to her work is kind of one of those lines that I think you should never cross. And I know that if we cross it, she's going to think that kind of thing is fair game and we'll have no end of drama at our workplaces.
But on the other hand, I feel like I have an obligation to the patients in her care to protect them. I also know that we would have a hard time getting concrete proof that she's using. But if we take it to her employer and they do a drug test - that is something we can use.
Any thoughts?
A couple of things have happened over the last 9 months or so that have been concerning, but we haven't had enough info to do anything about it. In the first instance, SKids had a sleepover with a friend while at BM's house. When they got back home they tell us that the girl's parents had called after she went home because some pills (vicodin) fell out of her sleeping bag. There was some question as to who's pills they were... never could pin down anything, so we let it go and just made notes in our journal.
Then a couple of months ago SKid #2 comes home from BM's house, and tells us that while she was over there she accidentally took some pain medication. (Haha, real funny.) Apparently BM was keeping prescription meds in the aspirin bottle, and 13 yo took one. Again, can't prove it, and no point trying to pin down a compulsive liar, so just noted it in the journal.
So this weekend my husband gets a text from BM asking him to call her at her work number. She is an RN, and can't talk on her cell at work, so he called her. Apparently she thought she texted someone else, and thought that's who was calling... and she asked him for drugs before she realized who it was. Once she did, she promptly hung up. But he called her back and got it recorded. Of course, on the recording she is lying through her teeth saying she thought it was something else, etc, but it is clear on the recording that she is lying. She is VERY nervous and changes her story multiple times.
So my question is - what should we do with this information? My first thought is that we should take it to her supervisor at work because (1) she used a work phone to call someone for drugs, (2) she's obviously using drugs, probably while at work, and (3) she was in a patient's room when she was making the call. That's who's phone she called from.
My concern is that going to her work is kind of one of those lines that I think you should never cross. And I know that if we cross it, she's going to think that kind of thing is fair game and we'll have no end of drama at our workplaces.
But on the other hand, I feel like I have an obligation to the patients in her care to protect them. I also know that we would have a hard time getting concrete proof that she's using. But if we take it to her employer and they do a drug test - that is something we can use.
Any thoughts?