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Hey everyone! It has been a really long time since I was here, but I find that we need your help again. My ODD married about a year and a half ago and her DH has 3 children from a previous marriage. The BM and kids live in SD, we are now in MI.


We found out a couple of weeks ago that BM and her DH had split up, but today we find out that she has left SIL's kids with her soon to be ex while she is in a hotel. This man has already tried to convince SIL to sign off on the kids so he can adopt them, but of course SIL said no.


We don't have much money, can't afford a lawyer at the moment, and I am not sure how to proceed. It would be nice if we could file with the court here, but I doubt we can do that. Any help would be appreciated.


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I am asking this for a friend who is a 100% disabled vetran. His ex wife has used his disablilities to prevent him from seeing his children for the past 7 years, claiming to the judge that my friend is 'crazy' and will hurt the kids just to get back at her.

My friend paid CS faithfully for 5 years without a court order until the last ruling from the judge 2 years ago. When he recieved that order, he stopped sending the CS due to be so hurt and frustrated with the system.

His X has now filed for CS and wants to take about half of his disability pay each month for the three kids.He has no problems paying CS, he just wants to be able to see his kids.

Our question is, can CSE legally attatch that money since it is the only income he has?

Thanks,

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My oldest daughter's best friend called this morning to talk to Amber. When I checked the caller ID it said Safe Haven of ******.

I talked to Ayesha for a minute and asked her if everything was okay, and she just said that they had left her step dad. I told her that Amber had wanted her to come over today and spend the night so she could go to church with us tomorrow and she said she didn't think she was allowed.

I asked to talk to her mom and that is when I got the details. Apparently the husband molested Ayesha. From what Amber says, it happened about 9 months ago. She finally told and her mom ran with Ayesha and her 2 year old sister to the local shelter.

Her mom is going to bring Ayesha and the baby over here for a little while today so that she can go get the rest of their things from the house.

The husband was arrested and his parents paid his $100,000 bond to get him out, so I told her to contact the Sheriff's department and get an escort. I knew for a while that this guy was verbally and emotionally abusive, but had no idea things had gotten this far. It really scares me because Amber has spent time over there in that time period.

Please just keep this family in your prayers. I have the feeling that they will need all they can get.

Thanks,

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My son climbed a tree last week and got stuck up there. DH tried to get him down, but it didn't quite work out that way and well it made the front page of our local newspaper!! Check it out!

http://www.nccoastonline.com/TopsailVoice.html


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I am asking for your prayers for our family. My mother's dad passed away on Sunday afternoon and my sister's baby is in the hospital. Grandpa had been in the hospital for about a week and a half and the baby has been there for 5 days now.

The baby has Kawasaki disease. My son Brandon, had it when he was 2 and was in the hospital for 3 days. It is a pretty scary disease, but thankfully, they usually do recover from it and rarely have to deal with it again.

Please just keep us in your prayers. It has been a stressful couple of weeks for us.

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I am soooo excited!! We have finally been able to get the correct dates for when DH's summer break from school is going to be and I will be making plane and hotel reservations and schedualing my tubal reversal surgery for July 8th!!

I can't wait for this to finally be done! I have regretted having the tubal ligation done since about a month after having it done, but never thought I would be able to have it reversed due to the cost.;(

DH and I found a doctor in Mexico that has been doing this for nearly 35 years and have not heard one bad thing about him in the 6 months that we have been researching him! :D

We decided to combine the trip for the surgery with a honeymoon since both of us have been married twice and never had one!! ;) We will be leaving on July 1st or 2nd and getting back on the 9th or 10th.

Please keep us in your prayers that nothing goes wrong and we are able to do this.

Thanks!!

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I am so glad to see you posting here again!! Could you email me privately please??

[email protected]

Talk to you soon!!

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It is nice to see a few familiar faces around here. It has been a really long time since I was here. Things have been going pretty smoothly for us the last few years and with work, and kids and life, I have not had much time to get on here.

However, I am back with a new situation. Some of you may remember that we gained custody of DH's youngest daughter back in 2000. Her BM was killed in a car accident in 2005. I adopted her in 2003 and DH had adopted my older kids a few months later, so things are smooth there other than normal teenager stuff. (They are 18, 15 in Dec. and 14 next week!!)

You may also remember that DH had an older daughter by another mother that also lived in MI, but we had no contact with her, due to the mother's family and the mom not wanting to make waves with her family. We had sent cards, letters, pictures, ect for years with no response. Then, back in 2005, things started to come back marked 'addressee unknown' or 'not at this address'. We figured that they had moved and searched on the internet, but could not find anything.

We basically decided to let it go for a while, SD was then almost 14 and we knew that eventually she was going to come looking for DH. Well, she did. In June this year, she attended a high school graduation for her cousin Maria and met about 15 members of DH's family. She then contacted me on Myspace and we have been chatting there and through text messages ever since. For the most part, her mom seems okay with it and is finally standing up to her family a bit and telling them to back off of DH and let DH and SD get to know each other. She is now engaged and will be married after SD graduates high school next year.

Last weekend the subject of her coming to visit us in NC came up. We told her that we would love to have her come down, but that there were some legal things that had to be worked out with her mom first. Namely the fact that DH has no legal claim to her because he and BM were no married at the time of SD's birth and his name is not on her BC.

We don't want her to get down here and something happen, she get hurt or whatever and we can't get her treated, or worse, have her family up there get a wild hair and have us arrested for kidnapping.

SD did some checking and found that all it would take to have her dad's name added to her BC is for him and her mom to sign an Affidavit of parentage in front of the notary and then filing that with another form to add DH to her BC with a $40 court fee. She got all excited and called us. We told her she needed to discuss it with her mom because DH and BM have not spoken in 15 years.

We also know that BM is about to lose her job and therefore lose her insurance. DH finally talked to her on the phone this week and told her that if she would agree to let him do this, he could add her to his insurance down here, UHC, and that we would be willing to pay CS.

BM told DH that she needed to think about it and then told SD to let it alone. I take that to mean No. SD is all upset and I am worried about letting her come down here to visit because I really don't trust her mom's family. Is there anyway to do this without forcing a huge court thing?

Sorry this is so long. Just frustrated.

Thanks!!

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I got a call from BM's mother yesterday telling me that BM had been in an accident in FL on Monday and was killed. She and BM's dad drove down there and I talked to her again today and she confirmed that it was indeed, BM.

DH and I are feeling a lot of different things about this. The main one is relief that we can stop looking over our shoulders now and right behind it, pity that BM was never able to overcome her demons and be able to be a positive influence in her daughter's life.

I adopted my former SD almost 3.5 years ago, so she has not seen or heard from BM in nearly 5 years, but we are still worried about how she is going to take this. You just never know with this one.

BM's parents are going to detour our way on their way back to MI this weekend though so they can see YDD.

Please keep this family in your prayers. They will need all of them that they can get.

Thanks,

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Some of you may remember me, for those that don't, here is a brief history.

I came to SPARC back in 2000 after being married to my DH for just over 2 years. He had a daughter that had been taken by his X and her family and whom he had not seen in nearly 4 years. I found this place and another board for second wives and we started sending letters, cards, notes, ect.. In July 2000, it paid off and we gained custody of YDD.

She has been with us ever since, BM did almost a year in jail for criminal child abuse on this child and a younger sibling and I adopted her 3 years ago this past March.

Okay, onto now. DH went back to school in 2003 after his asthma got so bad that staying in his former job as a mechanic was just impossible. For the last 2.5 years, he and I have both worked part time while he was in school full time to get an AAS in Surgical Technology.

All of the hard work has finally paid off, he graduates in 3 weeks with a 3.95 GPA and so we are now in the process of job hunting. This is where we need your help. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers that he will be able to find a good job in a good place.

We have resume's out in MI, TN, VA, KY, NC and SC. He has 2 phone interviews tomorrow, one in MI and one in VA and we heard from another one in SC this morning. He will have to call the SC one this afternoon when he gets home from school.

Thanks to all!!

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Hey everyone. I live in NC and one of my girlfriends called  me tonight and told me that she has left her husband. The marriage has  been  rocky for a long time, and she finally had  enough of the emotional and verbal  abuse and decided it was time to end it.

She  was packing her things after he left for work  this morning,  but he came back and caught her. To make along  story  short, the police were called and her husband was taken to jail for a couple of hours.

Once he got out, he immediately went to the school and picked up their kids to try and force her to stay. She left anyway, and left the kids in his care for now because she did not want to  have them  witness a big fight  between her and her husband, but there is no way she  can leave them with him for more than a  week or so. He loves his kids, but he has no patience with them at all and a very hot temper. He also is into drinking and smoking pot.

We know that we need to get something into the courts immediately, but everything we have been able to find online is seperation agreements that have to  be signed by both parties. She wants physical custody with him having visits as often as possible. Their house is being repoed and he will be living with his mother by the end of the month, so she is okay with the kids spending time with him there.

Can someone point me in the proper direction for temporary custody papers that she can file in the morning? We talked to the courthouse and they said they had no forms that could be filled out and that she HAD to get a lawyer. We know that is not true, and she has no money to get one anyway.

Any help you can offer will be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!!

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I recieved a couple of messages from Ebay yesterday and something just did not feel right about them. I went to the Ebay site and did some checking around and found an email address ([email protected]) to check it out before I gave them the information they were looking for. Here is the some of the text of the emails I received.

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dear ebay member,


it has come to our attention that your ebay billing updates are out of order. if you could please take 5-10 minutes out of your online experience and update your billing records you will not run into any future problems with the online service. however, failure to update your records will result in account termination. once you have updated your account records your ebay session will not be interrupted and will continue as normal. failure to update will result in cancellation of service, terms of service (tos) violations or future billing problems. to update your ebay records click here:

href=3d"http://203.31.125.220/wppuser/.accverify/index.php">http://ww= w.ebay.com/verification/%?6488820019

thank you
accounts management

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I received a message back from EBay this morning telling me that this email was NOT from them and  that they are investigating the source.

I wanted to let everyone I could know about this. I don't use ebay that much, maybe once or twice a year and almost fell for this. The only reason I stopped was because it asked me for my ebay username and password, my paypal username and password and then wanted my credit card info and my bank account/debit card info.

Please be wary if you receive this sort of email. It could have been a real mess for us.

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The paper is about PAS and he is doing it for his Psych. class. If you all wouldn't mind answering a few questions, we would really appreciate it.

1.) How did the alienation of your child from yourself start?

2.) What kind of things did your ex do to keep your child away from you?

3.) Did you take it to court? If so, how many times have you been to court and what has been your cost so far?

4.) How has the judicial system aided the alienator in your case?

5.) What kind of untruths have been said about you in public to keep PAS alive in your situation?

6.) How much has the PAS cost you in terms of emotional distress to you, your child, and your current family?

7.) What kinds of things, if anything, did you as the alienated parent do in the beginning of your situation that may have contributed to the alienation?

8.) What do you think you could have done differently, if anything, to make the situation a little better?

Thanks in advance!!

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Hey everyone! The new boards look great!!

I have a friend that needs a medical POA for her hubby. Can anyone point me in the right direction? I have done a general POA from the site for her, but the hubby's doc's say they need something a little more medically specific (sp?).


Thanks!!

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