I'm sure you hear this type of thing all the time, so I will be brief.
My wife recently took our two young children and moved in with her parents. She closed our joint accounts, first emptying them and transferring the money to an account of her own. I have not seen my children in seven days, and I have been told by the police that they will not intervene. At this point, I just want to see my children, but I also need help with custody in the long run. I have worked at an academically elite private school teaching 4th grade for the last 11 years. I have never been arrested for any violent offense, and certainly not one that involved any sort of abuse. My older daughter currently attends kindergarten at my place of employment, but I imagine my wife is working on stopping that. My ex-in-laws are very wealthy, and have always disliked me. They have hired an expensive lawyer, and I am just getting by on gift cards my students gave me for Christmas.
When I tell people my story, they always come back with the question, "What happened to make her do this?" There are two factors, neither of which reflect particularly well on me, but neither of which preclude my being a good father.
1. My marriage has been bad for a long time. Last year I had an affair, confessed it to my wife, told her I thought we should divorce. Then I backed off because of our two young children, went to marital counseling 26 times in the last 8 months, and tried to repair. I realize now that she never forgave or forgot, that she was just biding her time while scheming with her parents. I am not defending the affair, I know it was a terrible thing to do.
2. When I learned that she had taken all the $$$ (Earned almost exclusively by me) I demanded that she give me access to the new account. She refused and I called the bank to see whether what she had done was legal. They told me that it was and that there was nothing I could do. I, very very foolishly, threw the phone in frustration. The back panel for getting at the batteries popped off, but the phone is functional. My wife told the police that I had destroyed the phone to keep her from getting help. Not true. As a matter of fact after I threw the house phone she walked outside and used her cell phone to call the cops and all of her relatives.
Thank you for any time or consideration you can give me. I am not an abuser looking to mess with a spouse. I am a decent man that misses his children, and is worried for them. Please help. I miss my children.
My wife recently took our two young children and moved in with her parents. She closed our joint accounts, first emptying them and transferring the money to an account of her own. I have not seen my children in seven days, and I have been told by the police that they will not intervene. At this point, I just want to see my children, but I also need help with custody in the long run. I have worked at an academically elite private school teaching 4th grade for the last 11 years. I have never been arrested for any violent offense, and certainly not one that involved any sort of abuse. My older daughter currently attends kindergarten at my place of employment, but I imagine my wife is working on stopping that. My ex-in-laws are very wealthy, and have always disliked me. They have hired an expensive lawyer, and I am just getting by on gift cards my students gave me for Christmas.
When I tell people my story, they always come back with the question, "What happened to make her do this?" There are two factors, neither of which reflect particularly well on me, but neither of which preclude my being a good father.
1. My marriage has been bad for a long time. Last year I had an affair, confessed it to my wife, told her I thought we should divorce. Then I backed off because of our two young children, went to marital counseling 26 times in the last 8 months, and tried to repair. I realize now that she never forgave or forgot, that she was just biding her time while scheming with her parents. I am not defending the affair, I know it was a terrible thing to do.
2. When I learned that she had taken all the $$$ (Earned almost exclusively by me) I demanded that she give me access to the new account. She refused and I called the bank to see whether what she had done was legal. They told me that it was and that there was nothing I could do. I, very very foolishly, threw the phone in frustration. The back panel for getting at the batteries popped off, but the phone is functional. My wife told the police that I had destroyed the phone to keep her from getting help. Not true. As a matter of fact after I threw the house phone she walked outside and used her cell phone to call the cops and all of her relatives.
Thank you for any time or consideration you can give me. I am not an abuser looking to mess with a spouse. I am a decent man that misses his children, and is worried for them. Please help. I miss my children.