State is WA
I have a 13 yr old daughter. X left when she was one year. We were not married. I have raised daughter soley and X has had liberal visitation when he has chosen to exercise it.
We have no legal agreements filed. He is not on birth certificate, nor has paternity ever been established.
He has paid CS about half the time. The times he has paid it has been at a rate of less than half of what he would have been required by the state (I am basing this off of the CS schedule for WA). He has always paid with cash, with the exception of last 8 months.
X now lives about 80 miles away. He has a history of drugs and has been in treatment numerous times. Has a few misdemeanor thefts, one as recently as last year. He hasn't had a job in 6 years. Supposedly due to a diagnosis of adult ADD. He has SO that supports him.
I have no record, drug problems etc...I remarried about 10 yrs ago. Marriage is extremely stable. DH has stable job, provides all medical etc.. I run a small home based business so I can be at home for my kids. We also have two sons 7 and 4 yrs.
Daughter is a 4.0 student. Participates in a couple of sports, takes acting classes, plays in school band etc...Daughter has stated desire to live with X. Says she is not unhappy here, just wants a chance to be with dad.
I handle all her business. Dr appts., activities, school stuff etc... X has never even asked to help with anything has always just let me handle.
I have always encouraged the relationship between X and daughter as I believe it is in her best interest to know her dad. Not that a I think he is the best influence. His family is wonderful, I am close to them and daughter also spends time with them on regular basis.
X filed a parentage motion with a temporary parenting plan listing him with physical custody, me EOW, holiday etc...His reason stated is that my DH is verbally abusive to our children, which is a total lie! When I asked X about the abuse, he says we yell at our children and that is domestic violence. Mind you, yes we sometimes have to yell when remprimanding our children, but we do not call them names or belittle them etc....
1. In your opinion, what chance does X have of obtaining custody given the facts above?
2. How does the court determine the amount of back support owed when there are essentially no records on either side?
3. Does the fact that we have no legal custody agreement hurt me and render the typical "change in circumstances" requirement not applicable?
4. In your experience are courts willing to take the child out of a stable consistent environment into a lesser one just because the child wants to check out the other side?
5. Will the fact that I've always allowed visitation, even thought X is not most stable individual, go against me?
6. Will accusation of Domestic violence hurt us? Is yelling really considered domestic violence?
7. Can I get access to his therapy records?
8. If I ask for a pysch eval. will I need to take one as well?
I have a 13 yr old daughter. X left when she was one year. We were not married. I have raised daughter soley and X has had liberal visitation when he has chosen to exercise it.
We have no legal agreements filed. He is not on birth certificate, nor has paternity ever been established.
He has paid CS about half the time. The times he has paid it has been at a rate of less than half of what he would have been required by the state (I am basing this off of the CS schedule for WA). He has always paid with cash, with the exception of last 8 months.
X now lives about 80 miles away. He has a history of drugs and has been in treatment numerous times. Has a few misdemeanor thefts, one as recently as last year. He hasn't had a job in 6 years. Supposedly due to a diagnosis of adult ADD. He has SO that supports him.
I have no record, drug problems etc...I remarried about 10 yrs ago. Marriage is extremely stable. DH has stable job, provides all medical etc.. I run a small home based business so I can be at home for my kids. We also have two sons 7 and 4 yrs.
Daughter is a 4.0 student. Participates in a couple of sports, takes acting classes, plays in school band etc...Daughter has stated desire to live with X. Says she is not unhappy here, just wants a chance to be with dad.
I handle all her business. Dr appts., activities, school stuff etc... X has never even asked to help with anything has always just let me handle.
I have always encouraged the relationship between X and daughter as I believe it is in her best interest to know her dad. Not that a I think he is the best influence. His family is wonderful, I am close to them and daughter also spends time with them on regular basis.
X filed a parentage motion with a temporary parenting plan listing him with physical custody, me EOW, holiday etc...His reason stated is that my DH is verbally abusive to our children, which is a total lie! When I asked X about the abuse, he says we yell at our children and that is domestic violence. Mind you, yes we sometimes have to yell when remprimanding our children, but we do not call them names or belittle them etc....
1. In your opinion, what chance does X have of obtaining custody given the facts above?
2. How does the court determine the amount of back support owed when there are essentially no records on either side?
3. Does the fact that we have no legal custody agreement hurt me and render the typical "change in circumstances" requirement not applicable?
4. In your experience are courts willing to take the child out of a stable consistent environment into a lesser one just because the child wants to check out the other side?
5. Will the fact that I've always allowed visitation, even thought X is not most stable individual, go against me?
6. Will accusation of Domestic violence hurt us? Is yelling really considered domestic violence?
7. Can I get access to his therapy records?
8. If I ask for a pysch eval. will I need to take one as well?