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#1
Father's Issues / CS Account Closed
Mar 24, 2008, 12:46:42 PM
After 19 years of child support, we were finally emancipated in February of 2008 due to the child graduating early.  We were never notified by the school or the PBFH and ended up overpaying by a month.  CS office says they will send her a letter to ask her to refund us the overpayment, but we know we have no recourse and she will keep the money.  It took less than a week for our cs account to close permanently.  

We had kept a copy of every single cs payment made, every court order, letters, school records, insurance, threats, phone records, police reports, basically over 5,000 pages that we went through over the weekend before throwing everything in the fire.  We discovered in 19 years that PBFH was NEVER held responsible for any of threats made by her, we NEVER had a paternity test (husband lost by default), she never paid her attorneys and we saw her one time in 19 years.  

After paying $100,000 for 19 years to a child we have never seen or will never know is DH's and $20,000 in legal fees, we are moving on with our fabulous life.

The best advice I have been given on this site is "The fact that PBFH will have to be herself for the rest of her life is her own life sentence of self-punishment".  So true, since PBFH later married and refused to have her husband adopt the child, because she wanted 18 more years of child support.  She said if he was dumb enough to believe she was on birth control, he was dumb enough to pay her cs.  Her husband cheated on her, she filed for bankruptcy, house foreclosures, and her latest blogs on myspace on how miserable her life is.... (all info available on internet).  The second best advice was "When one person stops playing the game, the game is over".  Instead of reacting to all her malicious instigating, we decided to have no contact whatsoever.  The first year, every day was a harrassment, the second year, every week, third year, every month, until finally we had absolute silence for the last 13 years.  We never answered a phone message and never answered letters.  We put all our bills, cars, house in another name so she had no access to us.  The only contact she had was a p.o. box and our attorney.    

I will never know why we had to deal with this PBFH, who had no morals, ethics, values or basic human decency.  I wish I could prevent other men from having one night stands, so they don't have to go through the mental and financial pain we went through.  And yes, we forgave her a long time ago, it was for our benefit, not hers.  Today, we are forever free.

Signing off in Texas!

#2
DNA Shows Man Who Paid Child Support to Amber Frey Wasn't Child's Father

Sept. 22, 2005 — A DNA test has shown that a man who was paying child support to Scott Peterson's former mistress Amber Frey is not her child's biological father.

Anthony Flores, 29, has been paying $175 a month child support for almost four years, but a DNA test found that there was 99.9 percent chance that another man fathered Frey's 4-year-old daughter. A Madera County, Calif., Court judge ruled Monday that child services should drop efforts to continue collecting child support payments from Flores as DNA tests found that the probable father of Frey's daughter was Modesto, Calif., restaurant owner Christopher Funch.

At a press conference after the ruling, Flores said he was satisfied with the ruling but felt deceived by Frey. He said he had been thrust into the public eye because of Frey's references to him in her book, "Amber Frey: Witness for the Prosecution of Scott Peterson."

"I feel foolish and I feel betrayed," Flores said. "I otherwise feel I was being cheated on. She was very convincing when she told me I was the only person who could be the father.

"It puts me in a position where there's a lot of questions now I'd like to have answered," Flores continued. "I want an apology."


Former Frey Attorney: Former Biological Father to Blame, Too

Amber Frey and Christopher Funch have not commented publicly on the ruling. Attorney Gloria Allred, who represented Frey during the Peterson investigation and trial but was not involved in the child support case, defended Frey.

"Amber in good faith always believed that Mr. Flores was her child's father," she told The Modesto Bee.

"Only after the results of a recent DNA test taken by the true biological father did Amber realize that Mr. Flores was not the father of her child," Allred said. "To the best of Amber's knowledge, Mr. Flores did not [take a test] and ... he needs to take responsibility for his failure to do so."

http://abcnews.go.com/US/LegalCenter/story?id=1149018&page=1&CMP=OTC-RSSFeeds0312

More:

Court Commissioner Nancy Staggs ordered the county to stop collecting support from Flores. He'll receive a refund of money paid since Funch passed the paternity test in late June.

Wilson alleged that Frey deliberately lied in a bid "to get him [Flores] to marry her" after he dumped her.

Flores told Frey he was "not ready to be a father" and gave her $450 to pay for an abortion, Wilson says.

But in her recent tell-all book, "Amber Frey: Witness for the Prosecution of Scott Peterson," Frey said she never considered terminating the pregnancy.

"Well, she took the money," says Wilson. "It says a lot about her credibility."

Wilson said he thinks Frey "had to have known" all along that she had slept with Funch around the time her daughter Ayanna was conceived.

Still, Frey took Flores to court for support and when he fell behind at times, the state took away his driver's license. Frey also called him "a deadbeat dad" in interviews.

Flores, who still calls the child "my daughter," fought for visitation with the child. When Frey refused, Wilson says he notified the court he planned to seek a paternity test. Soon, Wilson was notified that, "lo and behold," Funch was the daddy.

"Anthony is hurt and stunned by this," Wilson says. "He still refers to the child as 'my daughter.' And his mother thought she had a grandchild. They were lied to."

#3
Father's Issues / In Defense of 'Deadbeat' Dads
Aug 04, 2004, 11:40:30 AM
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,127958,00.html

Article today on Foxnews.com

I've e-mailed the author before requesting for her to use the term deadbeat parent and sent her a message again asking her why she refuses to do this.  Most probably, because she is a feminist and has written books on feminism.  How can she be fair in her article to say in defense of someone she is slamming as a deadbeat?  No mention of women as deadbeats was ever mentioned in her article.  Also, how is it that their plight of being in debtors prison is coming to light just because the prisons are becoming overcrowded?  

If you send a reply it to the author it automatically cc:'s FoxNews.