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My Hubby's ex - without notice or discussion - has blocked our home phone, hubby's cell phone and my cell phone on both his kids cell phones so he cannot call them and they cannot call him.... Kids are 14 and 15 (16 in May).   We offered to buy them new phones for x-mas but ex said she was going to.    Ex relocated the kids to another county and they are busy with school and sports.  The cell is best way to communicate with the kids.  Hubby is also responsible for picking them up at their activities.  He feels this is also a safety issue should he have problems on his 50 minute drive to get them.... Any thoughts or suggestions? 

Background, ex took hubby back to court November 07 to reduce visitation to 1 day per month.  Judge stopped the trial and said he is not taking any time away and to settle the matter.  That was finally done in April, 2008.   Everything has been going according to the court order in place.

It seems that when things are going fine, the ex finds ways to create problems....

ex has brought petition to modify visitation from every other weekend year round and 1-2 nights during the week during summers months down to 1 day (sat-sun) per month citing that the kids are busy and have numerous social obligations.   At first, the children told law guardian they want the 2 weekends with the second being flexible and they can pick when they come.  We agreed.  Now, the children have changed their position that they only want the 1 day per month.   All parties believe the ex aided in their changed position but it is what it is.  The children are 13 and 14.  Father has never not gotten his children since the parties first separated in 1995.   Is the children's new position enough for a judge to reduce the visitation?  Father has been flexible all these years in allowing the children to attend activities on his weekend and working his visitation around such events.  Help ! This doesnt seem right.

short overview.. divorced when kids 6 mos and 1 1/2 yrs... visitation was every mon and wed and every other weekend.  ex remarried and never had kids when married to second hubby - either with us or her mother.  ex married third time and moved about 45 minutes away.  dad agreed to waive weekday visitation (too hard for the kids) and retained weekday during summer and every other weekend.  ex taking to court to reduce visitation to 1 day per month citing kids are 13 and 14 and social lives are busy.   Every time we get the kids, they say they did nothing on their weekend home.   The kids are happy and have fun when they come on the weekends..  we allow them to go to whatever events fall on our weekend and work the visitation time around it - ex refuses to switch weekends.  1 day per month works out to 12 days per year to a dad.. this is not fair - how can he maintain his relationship with his kids when he wont see them.   Both kids complain that they do not like the 3rd hubby... can a court honestly take reduce visitation to this with a father who has always paid support and been involved with the children's lives... this is dad who in 13 yrs has never gotten a sitter when he has his kids !   HELP !