Topics

We need some advice from those of you who have been through this before. My husband has a 9 1/2 year old daughter. We live in Cali (husband is in Navy), his ex lives in Florida. They were divorced in Mississippi. Over the summer his ex gave us a very hard time when we were in talks about getting his daughter. He is allowed 4 weeks over the summer. On a few texts she told him his daughter would not come back to see him. We were supposed to have her from the 26th of December through the 3rd of January. She flat out refused. We have a few texts from her telling us she would not fly her out. Her reason was because they were going out of town to see her boyfriend's mom. We even offered to fly her out near where the mom lives. She still refused. He now has a court date set for contempt of a court order. We are trying to be prepared for everything that might come his way. He is representing himself. Do you guys have any advise for him? For those who have gone through this, has the issue of whether the child even belongs with the custodial parent ever come up? We have plenty of issues we could bring to the table (including the child being around criminals, cps cases, mom having dui and driving on suspended license, child being left in car alone, I could go on and on.) We will be printing out his dfas allotment history to show him paying support on time every month. We have print screens of the text message conversations. Thanks in advance!!

I just recently got married to a wonderful man and he has a daughter that is 4 and a half. He divorced his former wife because he caught her with another man. Because he is in the military and was going to be single- he didn't have a chance to get custody of his daughter. Since the divorce the mother has had numerous boyfriends, moved so many times that we almost have to ask her every time we talk to her if she is still at the same home. Her husband (we think she is married) just recently got out of jail for 3 counts of domestic violence and assualt in the first degree. And now this man is her babysitter everyday. My step-daughter tells us about this man breaking stuff in her room and hitting her mom- and her mom hitting him. One time they both were arrested for domestic violence. I could be here all day typing up everything that has gone on. We are worried not just because of the situation but she is also very behind on her learning! I think because no is paying enough attention to her to notice. It is very hard, as most fathers know, to get custody of their children! We are worried that we may spend every last dime we have- and get no where! Who else is in this situation and what advise do you have?!

       I am reposting this in a different place b/c no one has answered me and I really need help! I just recently got married to a wonderful man and he has a daughter that is 4 and a half. He divorced his former wife because he caught her with another man. Because he is in the military and was going to be single- he didn't have a chance to get custody of his daughter.

       Since the divorce the mother has had numerous boyfriends, moved so many times that we almost have to ask her every time we talk to her if she is still at the same home. Her husband (we think she is married) just recently got out of jail for 3 counts of domestic violence and assualt in the first degree. And now this man is her babysitter everyday. My step-daughter tells us about this man breaking stuff in her room and hitting her mom- and her mom hitting him. One time they both were arrested for domestic violence.

        I could be here all day typing up everything that has gone on. We are worried not just because of the situation but she is also very behind on her learning! I think because no is paying enough attention to her to notice. It is very hard, as most fathers know, to get custody of their children! We are worried that we may spend every last dime we have- and get no where! Who else is in this situation and what advise do you have?!

We have an update! Just yesterday we received a letter from the husband's mother! She was letting us know that mom and Step daughter are not living we them anymore. The mother was screaming and cursing at the in-laws the day she left- in front of the step daughter! She told us that the mother has been lying about a lot of things and that she is very unstable! We have never met this lady who wrote the letter- but she stated that she knows the Step daughter would be better off with us!! Would the letter hold up in court?!