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Orignal order (from when she had custody and I paid support) still in place regarding tax deductions.  We alternate.  This is my year, Her's will be next.  Her mother pays NO support and barely sends her gifts for holidays.  She lives with me 10 out of the 12 months (the other two months she visits her mom in FL, but doesn't stay with her-stays with her grandparents).

Does the court order trump the "whoever has the child the most" card?  Will I have to take it to court to get the deduction and child tax credits?  I do NOT want child support from her as it would make my life much more difficult in the long run...

I have had custody now for a year and a month. The custody agreement signed by judge states "temporary custody shall be awarded to the father with the mothers right to visit the child at any reasonable time and place"--the original document stated CUSTODY-not temp-but she crossed it out and wrote temporary next to it.--

She also did NOT agree to IL being the homestate, but did not contest (ie cross out and change) that IL had the jurisdiction to change the original custody agreement.

She did however agree thatt she did NOT have to pay child support (obviously) BUT she disagreed that I should get the tax deduction every year-- SO the orignal order that states they alternate it stands.

 ALso, not sure if this matters or not but she forgot to cross out and write NOT AGREE/Temporary above the portion of the order under "it is herby ordered" that custody is awarded to the father. So really it is not 100% clear whether we have regualar custody or temp. We've consulted our attorney in IL and a FL one and they are both unsure.

So we get to claim daughter for 2007. BUT in 2008 her mom does. IT IS NOT FAIR! She pays NO support for her and only sees her for about 2 months out of the year. When I was non custodial I paid support and still paid support during the 3 months out of the year we had her.

So do you think we should go back to court and at least have it chaged that we get the tax duduction every year--- unless she starts paying support OR should we let it go as it may open a can of worms due to the wording of the order????I think I need to get the order clarified stating i have custody now, not temp, as I have had her over a year...but again everything is going smoothly I'd hate to have her screamin mad again...
We had no problems sending her down for xmas break and getting her back...

Child Support Issues / WWYD? would you pay it?
« on: Jul 12, 2007, 07:40:22 AM »
Not really a question, but more of a rant!  So I get a call from my daughter's grandfather (ex's dad).  My daughter is in FL visiting them now.  Well when he bought the ticket roundtrip (notice how he does everything not his daughter) i told him i'd pay 1/2.  He said no, I nicely rejected his offer and paid on 1/2.  For some reason he either told me or i'd thought he said that he paid 230 something roundtrip NOT including the 80 for the unaccompanied minor fee.  he hadn't yet purchased the unaccompanied minor portion of the ticket yet.  So that brought the total to  my 1/2 would be about 155, right?  Well I had a credit on when I cancelled her ticket in Dec.  So I went ahaead and paid the 80 on the unaccompanied minor fee and then I sent them a check for 75.00. Bringing my total to 155.

 When I call to talk to my daughter he told me "im very embarrassed by this but you will be getting a letter from my wife"  I was like.  Um okay. He then stated. She thinks you didn't pay your share on the ticket.  he said, as far as im concerned where're even.  I was like no, where does she think I came up short.  He than said, me and her were "discussing" things and i think she misunderstood me.  

What im thinking is because I paid the unacompanied minor fee and she didn't SEE the money that I just paid it, she didnt' realize I did pay it.  He also told me that the ticket was for 162.00  So it looks as if I did short them 15.00 and I WILL send them acheck for it with a calculation for dear old grandma.  It makes me MAD because here I am NOT GETTING A DIME TO SUPPORT MY DAUGHTER from her mother.  ANd if you ask me it should be my ex calling me/writing me a letter not them.  I didn't have to let them have my daughter the entire summer ykwim.  She hasn't even seen her mom but ONE TIME since she's been there.  BUT i wouldn't withhold her from them-   Im supposed to get hte letter today.  I wll let you know what it says!

eta:  I believe that she is also gonna ask for the 50.00 dental bill.  The gma set up the appt. for me as my daughter wasnt' gonna be back to IL until 2 days before school starts and she needs one for the sixth grade.  The divorce decree states that my ex is to pay for 1/2.  Should I only send 25 of that or just buck up and send it all because it was me that asked her to schedule the appt.  BUT it was them that wanted her to stay so long and in turn leave NO Time for anything cuz when she gets back it's back to school for her!

Child Support Issues / Looking back over the past 5 years..
« on: Jul 09, 2007, 09:12:13 PM »
I just did a search of my username in the post search.  I am literally in tears now rereading all the different emotions I have gone through the past 5 years that I have been on this board.  I found posts from when I hadn't seen my daughter in 2 years due to visitation interference.  Everything looked so bleak like there was no light at hte end of the tunnel.  I found posts were my ex was trying to nail my butt to the wall milking me for every dime of child support she could get.  I found posts were I had "won" my day in court because I got good visitation and child support jurisdiction was held in IL.  

I would NEVER have believed that I would get my daughter again.  I would never have believed that in 5 years I would have CUSTODY.  I saw so many posts that really helped me.  Posts mostly from the same people.  I was just curious as to if there people still frequent these boards and what is going on with their cases.  

Obviously there is mixed- youve been with me since I began here.
what about wendl, mysonsdad, stpauliesgirl, ref, MKx2- sorry if I missed any of the oldies.  Just curious as to who is still around and if you all remember me!

Im in IL ex is in FL-  

child support for ME when ex had custody was set at 301 bimonthly at me making approx. 25,000 gross per year.

NOw that I have custody ex makes 24000 a year and pays 0.  

So right now I've had custody for almost 7 months.  Right now my daughter is visiting her grandparents and MAYBE mom for the summer 2.5 months.  When I didn't have custody the visitation was reversed and I had my daughter the entire summer.  Child support FINALLY stopped being taken out of my check on JUNE 1.  So my ex got child support when custody was mine from jan 1- june 1 totalling approx. 1500 dollars.  not a lot, but still.  She was supposed to send back any checks received from the state depos.  YEah right that never happened.

When I first filed for divorce 6 years ago.  I also filed for child support (for my ex).  It was set.  Ex was mad that it was only 140 a month.  But I worked at walmart and only mad 9 per hour and worked 25-32 hours a week.  When I lost the first custody fight shortly after I went into walmart management and made approx. 32000 a year.  Ex went immed. for a child support mod and it was based on a year starting fromt he date filed so child support was set at 301 per month for 25000 a year.  

During this time I lived in a 300 square feet eff. apartment with my new wife paying only 250 per month in rent.  When my daughter came to stay with me and my wife got pregnant I upgraded into a modest home 860 sqare feet with mortage payment of 500.  It was diff. to pay all bills with child support but I budgeted around it.

NOw that I have custody.  Ex has not sent ANY money and child support was set at 0 because she had no job.  Well she got a job about 3 months ago and makes 25,000 a year, but my lawyer doesn't want to go after child support because :

1.  ex got evicted for not paying rent (her name is not on lease only her husband) and she's living from hotel to hotel and at her sisters.

2.  it will make me look bad taking money from her

3.  She's on medicaid

4.  she has an infant son.

5.  She's broke

6.  Has no cell phone or any phone because her bill got too high and she couldn't pay it.

S0 here's my question.  

1.  Why the double standard?  HELLO I made 25000 lived in a 300 sqare foot home, had an infant, paid for ALL unpaid medical benefits resulting in hospital debts in the 1000s BUT was GOOD with my money and budgeted well.

Here she was living in a 1200 dollar a month apartment, spends hundreds monthly on manicures and clothes, tans daily, had a nose job, basically blows her money having no sense of adult responsibility.  Her husband is a pilot making 60000 she makes 25000 she shouldn't even be getting medicaid, but is.  But because she is horrible with money all her own fault she's not held responsible for her daughter and shouldn't pay child support.  Why?  if it were me they'd nail me to the wall milking every dime they could!

Child Support Issues / when to file for child support.
« on: May 28, 2007, 07:34:38 AM »
i have a temp (or maybe perm-not sure as in the "facts" section it states temp custody, but in the ordered section it states "custody") custody AGREEMENT- although my ex isn't in agreement anymore.
My daughter is set to visit her maternal family in FL for the ENTIRE summer.  about 2.5 months to be exact.

I am in IL, ex is in FL.  when I paid CS IL had jurisdiction and did all the calcs- she tried to get it changed to FL, but lost.

1.  Which state will figure her cs, IL or FL? I will file in IL though, i do know that.

2.  SHould I wait till after my daughter is returned (actually scared that mom is going to try to keep her as she says she is because i "tricked" her into signing the agreement) to IL from FL to file?

the order says taht she doens't have to pay cs until she finds a job.  Well she found one making roughly 28000 a year.  FL calcs that to be at 400 a month, IL figures it to be 300.

Child Support Issues / insurance and kidcare
« on: Jul 30, 2006, 08:53:11 AM »
[posted on soc as well.  It's me wally, im back :(]

I live in IL (divorce originated in IL) Ex and child lives in FL (visitation order/transportation now has FL jurisdiction. IL retained jurisdiction over childsupport (which has insurance order listed for it to be provided by me).

Ex didn't understand that with insurance there is usually a deductable AND copay-out of pocket expenses. My insurance WAS 500 ded., but I recently changed it to 100.

Well that wasn't good enough for ex. She didn't like paying at all. So I am assuming that she applied for kidcare through florida as she asked me to drop my daughter from my policy so she could get her on kidcare-- I ademently RUFUSE.. She didn't tell them that I have my daughter insured. (I am assuming). She hasn't used my insurance in over 2 years; hence, why I believe she is using kidcare. So I have my daughter on my policy and use it when she is here for the summer.

1. Can I get in trouble if she did indeed file for benefits and lied about my daughter NOT having benefits provided by me?

2. CAn she get in trouble.

3. Should I call kidcare and tell them? I don't want to get in trouble.

4. What is the outcome usually for stuff like this?

5. Does it matter that I am in IL and she is in FL (as is my daughter?)

Child Support Issues / Anyone know what this means on my paystub...
« on: Jun 30, 2005, 09:23:49 PM »
Okay.... New order/amount was supposed to be deducted May 14 via wage withholding.   For some reason court NEVER sent over the new income deduction order to my employer.  I contacted them and they said a court order would suffice HOWEVER that because I was quitting employment with them it would be pointless at this time to enter it cuz by the time they got it started my employment with them would be over.  

So I have been paying the difference at my local court house.

The order mentioned that I could either pay the arreage off at once or pay 27 biweekly until it was paid in full.

I opted to pay it in full and did so.

Sooo.  Today I got to pick up my last check and  under garnishment where it usually says 70 it said O.


There was a new deduction for this:  FAM/CHILD CSFX  with the amount of 163.00--- This is the first time this has EVER appeared on any check.

WEll I did the math = My new cs order of 136 biweekly + 27 for arrearge (even though it SHOULDN"T be deducted as I already paid it) equals 163.  So am assuming that the courts FINALLY sent it to Walmart BUT of course didn't notifiy them NOT to withhold the 27 for arrearege cuz I already paid it.

I sent my new employer the court order with a cover letter stating to NOT deduct the arrearage as I have already paid it in full ; so hopefully lthe correct amount will be deducted when I finally receive my first paycheck.

1.  Does anyone know what FAM/CHILD CSFX is.  Does it appear on any of your paystubs\?  Do you think that I am right in assuming it is the amount for the new child support amount + arrearage?  (What is throwing me off is the fact that my child support taken out is always listed next to garnishment.

2.  How do I get my 27 dollars back.  May seem trivial to you guys BUT i am NOT willing to pay her 1 dollar too much as she has made my life a living hell and has cost me over 10,000 in lawyer fees alone just to see my daughter!

Child Support Issues / NOT DONE! CHANGE OF EVENTS
« on: May 18, 2005, 07:40:12 PM »
Okay, facts:

new order entered April 25, 2005.  IM in IL she's in FL.  IL has jurisdiction.  They aren't taking out the new amount as of yet.  I will find out tomorrow why and how to ensure they do.

I was just offered a job with the railroad.  The training starts out the same as I make now.  But it has a lot more income potential that what I have now.

I obviously know that child support services will be notified.

1.  How do I get the railroad to withhold the child support?
2.  How do I get an income deduction order if that is what I need?
3.  Do I have to notify my ex of the new job.
4.  Will child support notify her?
5.  Can she ask for a modification one month after a new order?

I am sure many of you remember me. I have a psycho ex who until last year withheld visitation for approx 2 years. She lives in FL me in IL. She gave me our then 5 year old in 2002 due to "not having time nor money for her". I took my daughter happily and still paid child support to my ex. Then I made a mistake or should I say my then attorney. My daughter told me her mom physically abused her. I went for custody, but bcause my daughter hadn't resided in IL for 6 months (only 5) my ex got her back. (it was my ex's parents behind everything becasue they had bascially been raising her in FL)

Then the visitation interference began. I went to FL 3 times from IL to see my daughter each time visitation was denied. Then in April of last year we went to court and this happened:

I was awarded every FULL summer
Every even xmas
every even yeard spring break


my ex has to do 1/2 the driving during summer (good as before I have done it all)

ANd Child support was to retain IL jurisdiction.

I got my daughter last summer and for the first time i got to spend xmas with her in 2004

now child support has been figured:

I have to pay 136 bi weekly (before I paid 70) BUT it is still A LOT less than I should her attorneys mistake--- OH WELL!!!

I have to pay 924 retro because the new amount is dated back to when she filed BUT they are subtracting 324 due to her oweing me that amount in unpaid DR bills... So again 600 is much better than 924!

AND the kicker which makes everything much much much better:

I get to claim my daughter for income tax purposes every odd year! YEAH! YEAH YEAH-- This was done per agreement wtih my ex as she didn't want to ocme to IL for an actual court date!

I feel that I have WON cuz this is much fairer than what she tried to con me out of last year my using my daughter as a pawn ( 450 per month cs, me doing all the driving, and no income tax deduction, FL jurisdiciton)

Tell me what you think!

I am done at last......

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