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Hi all-

I am back again (new name..used to be sunshine1) as you may remember I inquired some assistance back in July for a good faith move out of state for cheaper housing and a job.  We made the move and are doing fantastic! 

However, I am back needing  some guidance on the new situation. My ex did not agree to the move at first but then we came to a pretty good agreement.  I was shocked at his overall compromise but figured??? He did not want to fight as much as I didnt want to fight.  I figured out why.  In our agreement, his child support was cut by way over half to offset his transportation costs in sending the kids back and forth.  I thought that was fair since I was moving. (background...he hadn't been in their lives for almost 5 years prior to us moving..saw them 7 or 8 times over the summer then we moved)

He had arranged for the children to go on a cruise this month and I contributed my last bit of money to help them to go.  He has since backed out of this and took my money with him.  He also has no intention of continuing to see his children.  (confirmed with a few phone calls and many lovely endearing emails from his wife) Mainly he agreed to let us move if I agreed to have his child support lowered...sort of like black mail...except I thought it was fair if he was going to actually see them.

My question is, if it was lowered, for the purpose of transportation and there are NO transportation costs, or transportation to see him, can't I request for it to go back to the way it was?  Here is the exact wording in our new order...

"The parties agree that commencing June 1, 2009, Respondent's child support obligation will be reduced by $XXX.XX per month (thereby making his base child support obligation $XXX.XX per month) in order to offset transportation costs he will incur for parenting time."



Anyone have this happen to them? 

Hi all- I am moving to Florida and I need to apply for medical assistance for my handicap child and transfer my CS case to Florida.  Can anyone direct me to a number or a website?  I will be in Pasco County.

Thanks in advance for the help!!

Hi all!! Thought I would send an update....

After a grueling few days, BF and I reached an agreement and we are cleared to make our move out of state.  We adopted the Sparc interstate/long distance parenting plan from the articles page ( the transportation section) we re-did all the holidays (also from the parenting plan) so he got more extended visits and we agreed to an amount for a child support reduction for his travel expenses.  After 3 revisions he sent it over to his lawyer (which he agreed to pay for) to write it all up and file it and get signed by the judge.

I am mainly writing to all that think things are completely and utterly hopeless. I haven't spoken a single word to my ex in 4.5 years and we have an insanely volatile relationship, he screams and then hangs up... end of conversation. We did manage to work this out and I really thought I was going to have to go through a huge court battle.  Whoohoooo!!!! 

Hello all-- been a while.. used to be Sunshine1, I had to re-register

I have a very complex issue that has arose and I need to know the options and opinions.

My ex has had a come to Jesus moment and was in a severe car accident, completely recovered and no lasting injuries and was gone from work for like a week.  In that time off his wife had decided an almost death was long enough not to see his children and made contact (after no contact for almost 5 years)

I agreed it was best for all that this should happen.. however I really didn't think it would go anywhere as the relationship he has with me is very volitile and REFUSES to speak to me about anything.  Everything was arranged and done through his wife, it wasn't even his idea to start seeing his children.  In the last year I had lost my job, and ultimately have lost our housing because it is too expensive.  I had been arranging for the last 3 months for any options available, and an angel lent out a hand to help but it involved relocating to another state.

The kids were/are excited to go, I will have a job, and can surely afford the new housing.  I was not forthcoming with their dad at first because everything was up in the air.  I finally got everything lined up and I told him our plans and he lost it.  I do understand his anger after just starting to rekindle a relationship with his kids, and then we have to move, but I truly and honestly have no other alternative.  I am not moving to strain his relationship, I have offered everything but a reversal of custody.  Under the circumstances of no contact after 5 years, and a special needs child, that is just something I am not going to agree to. Plus the children don't want it.

He has threatened to stop me, but won't if I agree to  50/50 custody, no child support and a list of other things (that are doable for extended visits)  If I stayed, he wouldnt change anything. To me this sounds like blackmail? Need opinions my friends.

What do I need to do to move?  I never even thought about it because he had no contact and really didn't give a hoot what or where we were.  Now he wants to make this as difficult as possible.  I am honestly making a move not to make his life miserable but to better ours.  My decree does not stop me from moving but the state statute says I must inform him and if he objects I must make a motion to get permission to leave the state.

Thoughts.. comments.. thanks