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The ex has our daughter on her food stamps (I have permanant custody) and all of our children on Access health care. They are all covered under Tricare 100% since I am in the military. So why are they on Access I don't know. It was the CPS investigator that told me that when he called me and said he was still trying to find the ex to talk to her but he found no reason for me not to be able to take care of our children. Then today she sent a text that said I called the cops I got to go. She had been staying with her mom and grandma. I think she wisened up an ounce and realized that they were a big problem in our relationship and told them she was leaving. They told her that she could leave but not take the kids and that if she left that they would do everything to take the children away from her. She sent me a text last night-I need a car can you help me, then today-can you get me a rental car, and I just need $2000 to get a car. I ignored her request for money but offered to get her and the children away from there which she turn down. I did tell her she would have had a car if she would have gotten a job to pay for it, and she is the one that left why should I be obligated to buy her anything. She didn't want to work on our relationship. Now she is down and out, no place to live, no transportation, and no money. When I talk to her on the phone she tells me she can do everything on her own and doesn't need help from anybody, so I asked her why she was asking for money. Of course that pisses her off and she said that I dont care about the kids. I told her that I did and thats why I offered her a ride. I told her yeah the grass is always greener on the other side until that bull called life comes charging at you.
And to top it all of everything is all my fault that has happened between us, according to her.

Its a Resolution Management Conferance to see if we have agreed to anything.

Before we even get into court her lawyer ask for me to sign a HIPPA release. I said no. We get into the courtroom and her lawyer starts talking about our divorce and she was never served and didn`t know nothing about it. I told the judge that the respondant file for a motion to set aside the decree in Nov 01 and that motion was dismissed. Judge said ok your divorced. Then on the parternity he ask if I am the father she said yes. He goes thats settled. The he talkes about how he starts with joint 50/50 and asked if we have been seeing the children, I told him that she has talked to our daughter on the phone and has been texting her but I have not been able to talk or see our other children. I told him that I have offered to meet in a public place so the children can be together and see each parent and she refuses to cooperate. She or her lawyer doesn`t say a word. The judge told her that vistations needs to be made and don`t sway him from a 50/50. Her lawyer made her aligation of DV and the judge didnt budge and said that 80% of DV cases is false. They then asked for the HIPPA release and the judge said that if I had to sign one then she had to. He also said we had to go to Conseliation Servies. Her lawyer said that she is on limited funds and has no job. The judge said well she hired an attorney and we will discuss that later on, and that we were going to it. We got a temp hearing set for next month and a trial for Dec. All in all I didn`t say much, really didn`t have to, and basically got what I wanted. A temp hearing and a trial.

the stuff the ex comes up with. According to her I have to let her know everything about our daughter but she doesn`t think that she has to tell me anything about our other children. I keep asking her to get the kids together and she refuses but then tells me that I am a bad dad cause I won`t her see our daughter and I tell her that she can see her in a public place for my safety. Then when she finds out that I found a set of golf clubs for my oldest boys, she said bring them to me so he can have them. I told her to get a job and buy a set on her own she don`t take him to play golf. The she called me a malicious father cause I wouldn`t give her the clubs for our son. Then she tried to get me to feel sorry for her by saying tell our daughter to pray for me that I dont have tumors. But she would never say what the issue was. And I keep asking her if she wanted to work a custody agreement out like her lawyer wants us to but she keeps side steping and I keep asking to see my other children but she keeps refusing. But I keep telling her that she can see our daughter. Good thing for voice recorders and text messages. She will send me a text and I will say lets talk about the kids and how to work this for them. So I asked about how my youngest boys ent appt. went, she said fine everything is cleared up and he is ok. I said thats funny the Dr.s office has you listed as a no show. So whats going on but she couldn't answer.

So for the umpteenth time I am reading my decree. And it states she should have reasonable vistation. Who makes the call of what is reasonable?

Well the meeting went ok. I showed up an hour early to talk to him (billed to her). Before we even started our conversation about a resolution statement he was commenting on how her family would not let her talk or make decisions. I was like yup. I told him what I wanted as far as custody was concerned and gave him a copy of my statement. He went on to tell me several things that her family wanted him to do but he said she would hardly say anything. Like them demanding him to supena my military medical records. When he asked if I had a place for the kids and I told him what I had, he asked what about her. I was thinking you are her lawyer you should know, but I told him what I was told but I could not verify. He immediately went to talking about mediation and not going to trial. He made the point that he doesn`t want to trial. Of course he asked a loaded question. She isn`t too bright is she? I replied that she is doing what her family is telling her to do. He responds I can see that. He said she is not thinking for herself or doing anything for herself. I made the comment that if she was him and I wouldn`t be having this conversation. He says I agree with you. So all in all she got billed for 45 minutes of his time for me being there and that she still had to show up and talk to him. So she will get billed for that time also. All told I have a 48 minute recording of our conversation. I only supplied information that I thaught was related to questions he asked. If he only knew what else there is.

Thats how my decree states me having custody. The decree is from a different state than what I live in now. How do you think the courts where I live will interpretate?

CPS called me yesterday. They are going to come by my house next week. I am cool with that, I dont have anything to hide. They also told CPS that I am under military orders not to be around children under 12. They are reaching so hard to try to get me on something and its not working for them.  The BM has not tried to contact my D since I got her from the school on the 11th. My D is really upset, she knows that her mom can call her but as of right now she hasn't.  I just keep telling my D its not her fault and that daddy is working on it. Thats the best that I can do right now.

I was able to find and get my daughter on Tuesday. The school called me and told me they has a request for records and I went to that school and talked to the school resource officers and they verified the information. My ex showed up and threw a big fit saying that the court orders was reversed and then went on to say that she never knew about them (contridicting) then said that they wasnt any good from 2001. The officer asked her if she had anything that superceded what I had and she said no. I was standing behind the counter and was waving at my other children and she got real pissy and told my children not to talk to me and jerked the stroller that my youngest was in and went out the door. Now mind you that all of this is in the police report, and the officer stated that I was extremely compliant.

Her lawyer called me a bit ago, to set a meeting before court. He told me I didn`t have a right to pick up my daughter from the school like I did. I asked him why, he couldn`t answer, just I didn`t have a right. So I asked him that since he was a judge for 19 years if a signed court order was valid, he said thats beside the point. So whats the point, he said it had to with me medically. So I asked that since I have a kidney disease that I don`t have a right to my child, he said thats not what he is saying. I asked him what he was saying and he just goes well if you can`t figure it out now you will find out when we meet. I asked him if he had a copy of my medical records he said no, I asked him if he was a Dr. he said no. Then I asked how he could diagnose me. He was getting pissed at that point and I just told him that the mother could call our daughter anytime and she knows that but hasn`t. I also asked him if it was right for the mother to refuse me to see my children and he wouldn`t answer. And I told him that she wasn`t telling him the whole truth and he would be surprised when he has the documents in front of him. She claims that she knew nothing of the divorce, and thats pretty funny when she had to show up and give me my daughter at the court room.

Since this has happened they have called the police 3 out of the 4 days to come to my house and do a welfare check. The police come and see everything is ok and leave. Now mind you she is asking that I have supervised vistation. So my documentation continues. The judge might be a little upset cause I took my oldest and had to leave the other 3 but I am willing to let mother have contact with her but she is unwilling for me to have contact with the other children.

I have had permanent custody since 2001. The court never set child support and the ex never paid anything.  Could I ask for back child support till then. I do live in a different state than where the decree was made.

A few things I did notice. That he didn`t even notice that through the court it was converted from a dissolution of marriage to paternity and temp custody orders, even though it was stated on the courts website. He is a former judge. Since we are already divorced and I have custody of my oldest child, this is something that he is totally unaware of. Also he don`t know that there are charges pending against her at the PA office. I wonder what he is going to do when he finds out the truth. And man is she asking for everything under the sun.

My ex and I got a divorce in 2001 and I got permanent sole custody of our daughter. We ended up getting back together but never got remarried and had 3 other children. Last week she called the police on me and they come to the house and said there was nothing that they could do cause we just had a verbal argument. The next day we went to court as she filed for and OoP. The judge denied her request cause her alligations we unfounded. While we were in court she had her aunt leave with the children. She even filed a bogus report with CPS. I have filed papers with the court and have tried to find her. Come to find out from the local PD they "think" she went to a domestic violence shelter. She has a felony warrant in another state. With my attempts to find her, CPS says they don't know where she is at and if they have not heard from her in a few days they will close the case, I don't know what else I can do. He mom has been a big major problem in our relationship and they have my oldest daughters head filled with so much bs. With her being where they "think" she might be, does anyone know what I can do. I have went to the courts and filed for custody of my other children. I even got a paper from the court that states that my oldest is being illegally held and that law enforcement is authorized to pick up child and deliver her to me immediatelly. She has done this before in 2001 and TNCMEC got involved and they are sending me the paperwork of that case. A few ago the police did a criminal custodial interference report that is going to the PA. I called an advocate and they said it would be about 2 months before the PAs office will look at it. She even made it out to be my fault because she has done this before. I don't know what to do at this point, I can't afford a PI and the police act like they have done what all they can do. Is there any other avenues that I havent done that someone can direct me too.