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I am the father of my 2 kids ages 13 and 11, 4 years ago my wife took off on us on jan 06, she left me with the 2 kids while she parties, do drugs got caught on aprl 07 with drug possesion, under the influence, and parapernaglia.. so my first reaction is to find a home for my kids and a school, so everything went fine they settled in the place im renting right now, doing real good in school, extra curricular activities like after school sports, while i worked full time, go to school part time and taking care of both my kids..the mom only visits them whenever is convenient for her..and then one sad day she wants to get both my kids in her custody after all that she done with her life, we have a mediation coming up on nov 20th and a trial date on dec 11th..what are the chances of her getting my kids? im totally lost right now, even the kids doesnt wanna see her or being with her and her boyfriend, she had another baby by her boyfriend too and both of them are unemployed and living from friends house to another...can pls somebody tell me what are the guidelines for the best interest of the children...before my mediation and my trial..thanks in advance

ok, let me make this short and simple; i filed for a divorced last year and we agreed on everything but now the most difficult topic is our custody arrangement..first of all she was the one who left me and my two kids four years ago, so being a responsible dad the first thing i did is put a roof over our head, move them to a new school, give them whatever they need and put them to sports,medical needs etc..in other words i was the FATHER and the MOTHER at the same time while she was out partying, doing dope and also got arrested with dope 2 years ago, living from friends house to other friends house in other words a BUM, while I was taking care of both our kids and going to school part-time and working full time, there was only a handful visits that she did during those 4 years to the kids..now we had a mediation and OSC for some strange reason the judge awarded her $850.00 a month in child support and she doesnt even see or take care of our kids..now in the next month we're gonna have a final mediation and the mediator will talk to the kids (they are 13 and 11 yrs old) and then our short cause trial..i dont even know why the judge awarded her with this amount while im the one who's taking care of them 100%..does the judge always reward a loser, irresponsible parent..i dont get it..can pls somebody help me on my situation with any suggestions or comments..im getting desperate..i dont even have money to hire a lawyer and now they're garnishing my paycheck for the child support...PLS HELP!!!!!!by the way we are both in PRO-PER...thanx in advance and GOD BLESS

I filed for a divorced last May '08..here is the scenario; she left in jan 06 and left the kids with me they're 13 and 11 right now, so i moved out of the house aith the kids, put them to school, sports, and took care of their needs, basically i was the mom and the dad at the same time..kids did good with me since then, while she partied, got drunk and got caught in april 07 with methampethamine, charged with possession,under the influence and parapenalia...

she started sleeping around jumping from place to place and never call or visited the kids..or maybe she does whenever is convenient for her, the last time she saw our kids was sept 08..now she had a new baby from another man, lives in a studio apartment and the'yre claiming that they dont both dont have a job...now here is the most shocking part!!!! we went to court, mediation for the custody and being a nice guy i agreed to 50-50 custody and even drop the child support that she owed me which is $19,000 so we can just both move on..

our agreement is i will have the kids on M-F during school days and she will have them whenever she feels like it..she filed for OSC, went to court, since she doesnt have a job and we split 50-50 now the court slap me and had me paying $854 a month for child supprt...and its rediculous!! so i filed for another OSC for to modify support, im fighting full custody now since i had them for 4 straight years and took care of them, she didnt enforce the temporary suport yet coz she hasnt seen the kids and my kids doesnt even wanna be or see her at all...

now my question is can my kids be heard by the mediator or the judge for their custodial preferences?? what are my chance on this case coz my mediation is going to be on sept 09 and my OSC hearing is on sept 29 at rancho cucamonga court...im not going to agree on anything she say now i want ny back child suport and 100% custody since i took car of my kids and its detrimental fro them to move, coz i think she also want 100%custody....PLSSSSSSSSSS HELP!!!!!!!!