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Illinois State Forum / IL Move Away Question
« on: Oct 15, 2007, 08:30:40 AM »
FACT:
A child may not be removed permanently from the state of Illinois without a court order. The custodial parent must file a removal petition.

QUESTIONS:
When and how does the Non-custodial parent get notified of this?

When and how is the Non-custodial parent given an opportunity to contest the removal of the Child?

DETAILS:
Divorced 4 years. Mother has Custody. 1 minor Child 16yrs old

Mother is moving to another state. Child wants to live with Father and remain in the area due to Family (all immediate and extended family of both parents live in Father's home area), Church, School, ect.

Mother informed Father verbally in person she is moving out of state. Mother and Father began negotiating/talking about Child living with Father for @ 4 weeks when Mother stopped communicating and said she will not allow Child to stay with Father.

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Illinois State Forum / Illinois: When does child support end?
« on: Jan 09, 2005, 10:26:32 AM »
State: Illinois
County: Clark

My oldest is going to turn 18 on Jan. 30th 2005. She will graduate high school at the end of the school year.

Since the time of the divorce (OCT. 2003) I have been paying child support directly to the BM by personal check. Each check is noted "Child Support week ending xx/xx/xxxx" I scan a copy of the pay stub with the support check and keep record of it on my computer. I print a copy of the check and stub together and enclose it with the support check sent to BM.

My divorce papers are very "general" and state that 32% is to be taken from my pay for support. It does NOT state anywhere when child support ends.

Questions:

1. When does child support end in Illinois?
2. Is there an 18 or end of high school rule?

Thank you,
Mark

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Illinois State Forum / ILLINOIS Can CPS help?
« on: Aug 11, 2004, 11:29:52 PM »
Hello,

ILLINOIS RESIDENCE

I am the SM. My husband, the BF is the NCP. He has 3 girls from a previous marriage, ages 17(soon to be 18), 15(soon to be 16), and 13. They currently live with the BM. The BM lives 30 min away from us. All of the BF and BM's family live in the same town as us. The middle and youngest,  have expressed to us for some time that they want to live with us. The oldest is not an issue in this case. We would be happy to have and want custody.

The BM is classic PAS to the fullest extreme and then some. The girls are aware of it and are angry about it. The BM is verbally and emotionally abusive. The BM has told the girls "there is no way in hell I will let your father have you." The girls are scared of their BM and what will happen to them if they ask to live with BF. Also, they are scared of what BM will do to them if they would have to live with her during a custody trial.

Recently the middle daughter, on her own,  got up the courage to ask to live with BF and the BM's response to this was very bad. BM told the daughter that there was no way she would let that happen. Then told her that she will decide when she will get to be allowed to see her father again. (Disregarding BF's visitation rights) She threatened to talk to the daughter's friends and parents so they would be aware of "what was going on" and then accused the same people of putting the ideas into her head. To top it all off she is forcing the girls to tell her at least once a day that they want to stay with her.

Other Examples of problems with BM:
1. BM tries to guilt and bribe girls to not want to see their BF.
2. Tries to get them to call him vulgar names when they are on the phone with her during the visitation she is constantly interrupting.
3. BM remarried to man with 3 boys, aprox. ages to the girls. When the guys moved in, they were forced to give up their bedrooms and move into the unfinished basement and sleep on air mattresses.
4. One daughter is made to share a bed with her step-brother.
5. BM has joked that she has sex in their bed when they are not home.
6. One daughter took BM's prescription meds to try to get high and it resulted in an overdose. The prescription was one that the BM had no longer been taking for a long time but was keeping in the house.
7. Girls have witnessed physical violence between SF and his sons, they were also told SF carries a loaded gun at all times (illegal in IL) and claim to have seen the gun.
8. When BM asked about their feelings at the time of the divorce the girls responded "happy" and were punished.

It only gets worse from there and the girls are constantly fighting with and fighting off BM. This behavior from her is not new and has always been present.
 
The girls have gotten to the point that the have told us they will run away. Or when they come to see BF they will refuse to leave. They have said “Go ahead, let Mom call the cops, she can't make us come home."

QUESTION:
We were told that if the girls ever refuse to go home we should call the police. At that time, CPS could possibly be called in to investigate and grant BF temporary custody. Also that CPS would act on behalf of the girls in court to change custody.

IS THAT TRUE?

Does anybody know the laws in Illinois? If so, we are trying to get an idea of how this will play out. Any information about what will happen?
We want to protect the girls and do what is best for them.

Any information and comments are welcome.
Thank you,
IL Step Mom

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Child Support Issues / Illinois Child Support - Please HELP!
« on: Jun 12, 2006, 07:11:52 PM »
Topic: Child Support

State: Illinois

Background:
Divorced 2003
BM has sole custody.
Husband has 2 minor children he still pays child support on. One is 17 and one is 15. The 17 yr old moved in with us last year (June – Oct) after getting into trouble (grades, drugs, boys) bad enough for BM to loosen the PAS death grip she has on her.

(Note:
Judge in DH and BM’s divorce said they could work out child support payment if they can get along. The first CS went through the court and BM didn’t like waiting so long to get it and for going on 3 years now, DH mails a check to her weekly with a photo copy of the check and his pay stub together.)

He had a lawyer doing all the paper work. The arrangement they agreed on was going to be that DH would get custody of 17 yr old and BM would retain custody of 15 yr old. That would mean child support cancels each other out. On top of that they would split 50/50 the cost of school clothes, the car insurance for the 19 yr old in college, all kinds of other extras - just to be able to get the 17 yr old to live with us so we could help her.
A couple $ grand later, and one signature from the judge away from being finalized, we found out that while she was at one of BM’s weekend visitations, BM let her run free and she got pregnant. (she was suppose to be on 24 hr adult supervision.) At that point BM said the deal was off and pulled out the big guns on the kid and made her move back to BM’s, along with the father of the child (boyfriend/fiancé).

Current situation:
The 17yr old gave birth about a month ago and has now moved in with us as of the 2nd week of June, with the boyfriend/fiancé and baby also.

We know that this is going to be another fight over money. Currently she believes that she should continue collecting child support for 17yr old while she lives with us.

She may or may not ask for support for 19yr old full time college student while she is home for summer.

What can be done? Figure out the child support from DH to BM and BM to DH and the difference will be paid to the parent with the lower income. He is just tired of being screwed by her all the time… paying support and then having to financially support the kids anyway because she claims to them that she is broke and they have to go without “basic life needs” things unless DH will buy it for them.

1. What are his options?

2. What are the different ways child support can be divided in this situation?

Thank you
Step Mom

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Illinois State

18 year old will be going to college 30min away in the neighboring state. She will also be living on campus.

DH stopped paying support after high school graduation.

BM wants CS to start again.

DH and BM have agreed to split cost (after grants) for school.

BM sent DH email discussing school cost and told him CS needs to start again. This is an excerpt were she states that she was planning to spend his CS to pay for her half of school expense. (note how she says; I should be getting something):

"I had planned on using the support money. Im not so
sure that i agree that there should be no support...i
think i should be getting something or least taking
payments for college, insurance, phone...or whatever
out of it

I had also planned on making the college payments from
the support money..."



1. Does DH have to pay support to BM if 18 year old daughter is not living at home while attending college?

2. Can she legally use CS to pay her half of the college expense? (That would mean DH would technically be paying for all of it then.)

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Child Support Issues / Medical Bills / Problems spliting half
« on: Jan 17, 2005, 06:54:48 PM »
Illinois Residence

Divorce was final Oct. 2003.

Marital Settlement Agreement states:
Wife shall maintain on behalf of the minor children of the parties medical insurance as long as it is available through her employment. Each of the parties agrees to pay one half (1/2) of all medical, dental, optical, pharmaceutical, orthodontial, and psychological expenses of the minor children of the parties not covered by that insurance.

As of Dec. 2004 Ex-wife is not employed. I believe that Ex-wife’s current husband may add or have added the kids to his insurance. I have not been informed of this by Ex-wife. This info came from a non related party familiar with both of us.

Problem:
From the moment the “one half” medical judgment became active,

1. Ex -wife has not provided medical billing information in a timely manner. She will hold on to bills that have only my portion due for several months before sending them to me. She has also waited until they are in collection.

2. She will bring the kids back to physicians for repeat visits before I am finished paying (my half) and will try to get me to pay half on the “total bill.” (That includes her unpaid portion)

3. She has provided me with bills (for my half) that the insurance has not finished paying on . She also has been reimbursed by the insurance and kept the check.

4. She will send me non-detailed bills with hand written notes on the pages or with post-its, with her calculations of what my half is.


Questions:
1. Is there a time limit on how long Ex-wife has to provide me with true and correct bills that reflect my portion?

2. Is there a time limit to provide me with bills, where after said time, I am not responsible to pay?

3. If  my Ex-Wife’s husband adds the kids to his insurance, does she have to notify me that the kids are covered again?    
(In this case, how can I defend myself from the Ex-wife providing me with basic bills that state the total and do not reflect the insurance “I am supposedly not aware of?” Example: She gives me a bill that shows a $200.00 total and says my portion is $100.00, but insurance paid on the bill making it $30.00 dollars we are suppose to split and she pockets the money.

In addition:
I have tried to work with physicians offices directly by informing them of the (one half) payment arrangement and it has been unsuccessful to date. They do not feel it is their responsibility to keep track of separate parent billing and make no efforts to aid the situation.

Thank you,
Mark

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Child Support Issues / Illinois: When does child suport end?
« on: Jan 09, 2005, 10:25:26 AM »
State: Illinois
County: Clark

My oldest is going to turn 18 on Jan. 30th 2005. She will graduate high school at the end of the school year.

Since the time of the divorce (OCT. 2003) I have been paying child support directly to the BM by personal check. Each check is noted "Child Support week ending xx/xx/xxxx" I scan a copy of the pay stub with the support check and keep record of it on my computer. I print a copy of the check and stub together and enclose it with the support check sent to BM.

My divorce papers are very "general" and state that 32% is to be taken from my pay for support. It does NOT state anywhere when child support ends.

Questions:

1. When does child support end in Illinois?
2. Is there an 18 or end of high school rule?

Thank you,
Mark

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Dear Socrateaser / NEW - Illinois Child Support - Please HELP!
« on: Jun 13, 2006, 03:44:59 PM »
Topic: Child Support

State: Illinois

Background:
Divorced 2003
BM has sole custody.
I (BF) have 2 minor children I still pay child support on. One is 17 and one is 15. The 17 yr old moved in with me last year (June – Oct) after getting into trouble (grades, drugs, boys) bad enough for BM to loosen the PAS death grip she has on her.

(Note:
Judge in my and BM’s divorce said we could work out child support payment if we can get along. The first CS went through the court and BM didn’t like waiting so long to get it and for going on 3 years now, I mail a check to her weekly with a photo copy of the check and my pay stub together.)

I had a lawyer doing all the paper work. The arrangement me and BM agreed on was going to be that I would get custody of 17 yr old and BM would retain custody of 15 yr old. That would mean child support cancels each other out. On top of that we would split 50/50 the cost of school clothes, the car insurance for the 19 yr old in college, all kinds of other extras - just to be able to get the 17 yr old to live with me so I could help her.
A couple $ grand later, and one signature from the judge away from being finalized, we all found out that while she was at one of BM’s weekend visitations, BM let her run free and she got pregnant. (she was suppose to be on 24 hr adult supervision.) At that point BM said the deal was off and pulled out the big guns on the kid and made her move back to BM’s, along with the father of the child (boyfriend/fiancé).

Current situation:
The 17yr old gave birth about a month ago and has now moved in with me as of the 2nd week of June, with the boyfriend/fiancé and baby also.

I know that this is going to be another fight over money. Currently she believes that she should continue collecting child support for 17yr old while she lives with me.

She may or may not ask for support for 19yr old full time college student while she is home for summer.

What can be done? Figure out the child support from me to BM and BM to me and the difference will be paid to the parent with the lower income. I'm just tired of being screwed by her all the time… paying support and then having to financially support the kids anyway because she claims to them that she is broke and they have to go without “basic life needs” things unless I will buy it for them.

1. What are my options?

2. What are the different ways child support can be divided in this situation?

Thank you,
Dad with CS problems

PS. The child support break down in Illinois is 32% for 3 kids, 28% for 2 kids, and 20% for 1 child.


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Illinois State

18 year old will be going to college 30min away in the neighboring state. She will also be living on campus.

DH stopped paying support after high school graduation.

BM wants CS to start again.

DH and BM have agreed to split cost (after grants) for school.

BM sent DH email discussing school cost and told him CS needs to start again. This is an excerpt were she states that she was planning to spend his CS to pay for her half of school expense. (note how she says; I should be getting something):

"I had planned on using the support money.  Im not so
sure that i agree that there should be no support...i
think i should be getting something or least taking
payments for college, insurance, phone...or whatever
out of it

I had also planned on making the college payments from
the support money..."



1. Does DH have to pay support to BM if 18 year old daughter is not living at home while attending college?

2. Can she legally use CS to pay her half of the college expense? (That would mean DH would technically be paying for all of it then.)

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