« on: Jan 04, 2010, 10:13:42 AM »
I just need some guidance and advice from people who are going through similar situations or have gone through them.
I am the Father of a 14 month old girl. I am in Florida. My wife left me and filed for divorce in November 2009 while I was on a business trip. She cleaned out our bank accounts, took our one year old, took a ton of our marital property, charged up cash advances on one of my credit cards she was an authorized user on and moved out of our marital home and took our daugther and moved in at her Mom's home. I admit she did this as a reaction to some bad issues I had with gambling (that she knew about) and I had posted a classified ad on Craigs List trying to meet with someone, and she found that out. I did not meet with anyone and I dropped that idea after only a couple of days and realized it was not something I wanted to do. I had a separate e-mail set up for all this and somehow my wife found out and got into it and found these e-mails. While I was on the business trip, she sent me an e-mail saying she was leaving me and that she knew about the ad, etc. I came home a few days later and found out about all the things that were cleaned out. She only let me see my daughter for 90 minutes on Thanksgiving and not at all on Christmas, only Christmas Eve. Until this past weekend, I had not seen my daughter for a weekend in almost 2 months. My wife continues to only communicate through e-mail and replies to all my requests for visitation or return of marital assets with "my attorney will have to answer that." I have retained an attorney and because of that I was able to get at least the minimum ordered visitation of one night a week and every other weekend right now. I still want more visitation and would really like 50/50 custody. I wanted to work on my marriage and try to save it, my wife does not. It seems likes she is using my daughter as a piece of property against me, that she "owns." I was wondering if anyone can help me with some advice and what other courses of action I should take, or what my shots would be at 50/50 custody. As I stated, there were some large gambling losses on my part (mostly before daughter was born) that my wife knew about that had added a strain to our marriage. I work a normal 8 - 5 schedule and the Wife had been a stay at home Mom for the last year, after she got laid off. We had hoped for that to continue, but obviously I do not want to support her if she is not willing to work on our marriage. Any advice would be appreciated as sometimes it feels like I am out there on my own.