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Ohio State Forum / lowering CS because we have a child now
« on: Jan 27, 2006, 10:58:12 AM »
We're trying to decide if we should try to get CS lowered.  The main thing that has changed is that my DH and I have a son together now.  Does anybody know how they look at that in a CS review?  Is there a certain percentage they take from your total income or what?  Sherri, I know you said it was something like $3000 for you but since I don't know how much your DH makes that doesn't really tell me what it would be for us.
I just don't want to do this if it's not going to be worth it.  We are getting along with BM right now but this might piss her off.  It would be worth a little conflict though if we could get it lowered because the CS is just draining us right now.  Our quality of life compared to BM's quality of life is just rediculous.  Not that the courts care about that.

Best Wishes,
stepmom2morgan

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Ohio State Forum / getting back lost drivers license
« on: Aug 31, 2005, 10:32:44 AM »
Hi. My DH lost his license in Feb because he lost his job and hadn't paid support for 3 months. His CSE case manager is a witch, he wasn't even $1000 behind. (I've caught her in two mistakes saying we owe money we don't and she seems to hate us since then). Anywhoo, that's besides the point. He finally found a job. He calls the case manager and asks what he has to do to get his license back. She says she wants half of what he owes. We won't be able to pull that off for at least a couple weeks.

We live out in the country so taxis or public transportation are not options for us. Also I will be at work during the time he has to drive to and from work. The only option is for him to drive without a license which we hate to take that chance but he has to keep this job! It took so long for him to find it! The economy sucks around here.

So he asked if he could at least have work driving priveleges but she said no they don't do that. I don't understand. Even people who lose their licenses for driving infractions often at least have work priveleges!

Is she full of it and just telling my DH this because she always wants to give us a hard time? Does anybody out there know more about this than we do? Any input would be great. I will fight her, go to her supervisor or whatever, if I know there is a point to it but if there is no point I'd rather not fight because she hates us enough as it is. Thanks so much!

BTW we live in Miami County.

Best Wishes,
stepmom2morgan

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My dh is behind in CS so they garnished our tax return. No big deal except they did not immediately apply it to his arreage. They say they have to wait 6 months because, as his spouse, I have 6 months to fight it. I don't want to fight it but there doesn't appear to be any way for me to make that clear to them. So there is $1900 out there just floating around. BM doesn't get it, we don't get it. It's so stupid I could scream. Anyway, we plan to have at least half of what he owes paid down way before the 6 months is up. I don't think we will owe nearly $1900 by the time they can apply it. So my question is what happens to the money that is left over from that $1900 after they apply what's necessary to clear his arreage? Say there's $500 left over. Will we get that back or will they credit it to his account or what? BTW, we live in Miami County. Thanks!

Best Wishes,
stepmom2morgan



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Ohio State Forum / When do they suspend your license in Ohio
« on: Mar 22, 2005, 12:59:09 PM »
My dh has been out of work since the beginning of Nov.  This is the first time he's not paid his child support in the 5 years DSD has been alive.  He owes a little over $1000.  He got pulled over a couple weeks ago for accelerating too soon and found out his lisence had been suspended!  Therefore he got a DUS.  We got the letter stating it had been suspended the next day.  Talk about bad luck, I know.  But they should've told us in advance right?  My main question is does anybody know what the law is as to how they decide when to suspend your license?  Is there a certain amount of money you have to owe or a certain amount of time that has passed or is it case-manager driven?  If it's case-manager driven I'm gonna be pissed cuz I know she doesn't like us since I've caught her in 3 different mistakes where they've said we owe money we don't owe.  Anyway, if anybody knows, let me know.  Thanks so much!
 
Best Wishes,
stepmom2morgan

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Hi.  We live in Ohio.  My DH has a new lower paying job (DH was laid off from the other one and there's no decent paying factory jobs around here anymore) and child support is now taking exactly 1/3 of every paycheck after taxes.  It's killing us financially.  We would like to get it lowered but we don't want to end up worse than before.

Here is how our situation has changed since we last set up CS.  When CS for DH's DD was set up 5 years ago DH had a job where he made $11 an hour and now he has one where he makes $9.50.  We were not married now we are.  DH and I now have a child together.  What hasn't changed is that the BM still stays at home and lives off child support and her husband's income and we still have just your normal run of the mill EOW, EOH visitation.

Will they take my income into consideration now that we are married?

Will they take into consideration DH has our child to support as well as DD now?

Will they take into consideration that DD's health insurance is through DH (BM doesn't carry it on her), actually it's through my health insurance which allows me to carry step-kids?

Will they take into consideration that we pay rent for a home big enough for DD to have her own bedroom and she also has her own wardrobe and toys at our house (and always has)?

Is it worth trying for?

Best Wishes,
stepmom2morgan

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My dh is behind in CS so they garnished our tax return.  No big deal except they did not immediately apply it to his arreage.  They say they have to wait 6 months because, as his spouse, I have 6 months to fight it.  I don't want to fight it but there doesn't appear to be any way for me to make that clear to them.  So there is $1900 out there just floating around.  BM doesn't get it, we don't get it.  It's so stupid I could scream.  Anyway, we plan to have at least half of what he owes paid down way before the 6 months is up.  I don't think we will owe nearly $1900 by the time they can apply it.  So my question is what happens to the money that is left over from that $1900 after they apply what's necessary to clear his arreage?  Say there's $500 left over.  Will we get that back or will they credit it to his account or what?  BTW, we live in Ohio.  Thanks!

Best Wishes,
stepmom2morgan

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Child Support Issues / getting back lost drivers license
« on: Aug 31, 2005, 10:13:28 AM »
Hi.  My DH lost his license in Feb because he lost his job and hadn't paid support for 3 months.  His CSE case manager is a witch, he wasn't even $1000 behind.  (I've caught her in two mistakes saying we owe money we don't and she seems to hate us since then).  Anywhoo, that's besides the point.  He finally found a job.  He calls the case manager and asks what he has to do to get his license back.  She says she wants half of what he owes.  We won't be able to pull that off for at least a couple weeks.  

We live out in the country so taxis or public transportation are not options for us.  Also I will be at work during the time he has to drive to and from work.  The only option is for him to drive without a license which we hate to take that chance but he has to keep this job!  It took so long for him to find it!  The economy sucks around here.  

So he asked if he could at least have work driving priveleges but she said no they don't do that.  I don't understand.  Even people who lose their licenses for driving infractions often at least have work priveleges!  

Is she full of it and just telling my DH this because she always wants to give us a hard time?  Does anybody out there know more about this than we do?  Any input would be great.  I will fight her, go to her supervisor or whatever, if I know there is a point to it but if there is no point I'd rather not fight because she hates us enough as it is.  Thanks so much!

BTW we live in Ohio.

Best Wishes,
stepmom2morgan

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Child Support Issues / Does new kid lead to lower CS?
« on: Sep 10, 2004, 01:19:44 PM »
I've had people tell me that since DH and I recently had a baby that he can get his CS lowered b/c now he has to support our DS too.  Any truth to that?  Our finances are really tight now and my DS doesn't have his own bedroom cuz we can't find a decent 3 bedroom home to buy that would fit the budget forced on us by the CS.  Everybody DH works with who also have to pay CS think we're paying too much as it is.

Best Wishes,
stepmom2morgan

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Child Support Issues / paying for preschool
« on: Sep 10, 2004, 01:16:14 PM »
Hi.  My SD's BM decided to send SD to preschool and of course picked the most expensive one around.  She called up DH and told him she was sending her and that he needs to pay for half of it.  

She is a stay-at-home mom, her DH owns his own business, the CS is just icing for her.  Meanwhile we live in a 2 bedroom half-double and my 5 month old son does not have a room b/c the 2nd bedroom has always belonged to DSD and it's not like we're gonna kick her out of there.  

We are looking to buy a 3 bedroom house but are having a hard time finding one in the price range we can afford.  We could afford a much nicer home if not for the CS.  But that's fine, I knew about the CS when I married him.  It really ticked me off though that she wants more money from him to pay for a completely unnecessary thing like private Christian preschool.  

I don't even think it's necessary for DSD to go to preschool since she's very smart and has a stay-at-home mom who reads, talks and plays with her.  BM had said the same thing to me just weeks ago but now is on a kick that b/c DSD can't write her name yet, she needs to go to preschool or she'll never make it through kindergarten next year.  When DH asked her what she spends the CS on, BM said "clothes don't grow on trees!".  What?  $400 a month on clothes for a 4 year old?  Yeah right!  

Now she's all ticked off at us and acts like we're being selfish.  Doesn't she understand, we pay for an extra room for DSD, clothes for DSD, toys for DSD so she'll feel she is in her home when she stays with us.  And then on top of it, we help pay for all that stuff at BM's house too and have her on our insurance, which saves them tons of money. But we're selfish deadbeats.  Sigh. ;(

Anyway, my question is, since the court order doesn't say anything about who pays for preschool, private school, or daycare, we don't legally have to pay for this do we?  If she takes us back to court do you think we'd lose on this one?  Even if we do end up having to pay for it, wouldn't it be half of whatever the more reasonable preschools around here charge?

Best Wishes,
stepmom2morgan

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