I am going to mediation in a few weeks found this website and had a few questions. I was never married to my children's father and he did not worry about getting custody of our children till I got remarried. He also did not see the children very much either until I got remarried. My husband is in the military and has the possibility to get stationed overseas. I know in the mediation he is going to bring this issue up I do not know how to go about discussing this issue without getting upset.