I am posting on behalf of my bf, just so you all know.
The situation is as follows:
Ex-wife has a restraining order against BF.
Ex-wife has been doing nothing but causing trouble since they separated, but especially since the divorce decree was finally put into place 6 months ago. She has called CPS with false claims (dismissed obviously) but worse she calls the police on violations of the restraining order, even though no violation has taken place, she claims "verbal assault" and bf gets put into jail on a 24 hold. This has now happened 3 times. The police have said if it continues to happen they will have to press real charges against BF.
Ex-wife fought to have the child exchange location changed to a public place in the decree, instead of at the police station. She refuses to meet at the police station. BF knows he will need a lawyer to get this changed and although he is already in major and serious debt from the divorce, he is willing to do so. The issue is what is to be done about exchanges in the meantime. He cannot do another exchange at the public place and risk arrest. The police have said although he can call and ask for a police escort, they make take up to an hour to get there, and ex-wife will not wait for an hour and the times in the decree cannot be changed without a court order anyway.
BF also wants the best for his children and realizes all of this is causing them un-due stress. He, nor I, believe that ex-wife is truly out for their best interests for various reasons, but he believes that this tyranny will never stop. He believes that she will do whatever she can to get him put into jail or to get his kids t aken away from him, even if it involves many, many lies.
I feel as if this is a no win situation. And worse, my own children (from a previous marriage) are in the middle of all of this too.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
The situation is as follows:
Ex-wife has a restraining order against BF.
Ex-wife has been doing nothing but causing trouble since they separated, but especially since the divorce decree was finally put into place 6 months ago. She has called CPS with false claims (dismissed obviously) but worse she calls the police on violations of the restraining order, even though no violation has taken place, she claims "verbal assault" and bf gets put into jail on a 24 hold. This has now happened 3 times. The police have said if it continues to happen they will have to press real charges against BF.
Ex-wife fought to have the child exchange location changed to a public place in the decree, instead of at the police station. She refuses to meet at the police station. BF knows he will need a lawyer to get this changed and although he is already in major and serious debt from the divorce, he is willing to do so. The issue is what is to be done about exchanges in the meantime. He cannot do another exchange at the public place and risk arrest. The police have said although he can call and ask for a police escort, they make take up to an hour to get there, and ex-wife will not wait for an hour and the times in the decree cannot be changed without a court order anyway.
BF also wants the best for his children and realizes all of this is causing them un-due stress. He, nor I, believe that ex-wife is truly out for their best interests for various reasons, but he believes that this tyranny will never stop. He believes that she will do whatever she can to get him put into jail or to get his kids t aken away from him, even if it involves many, many lies.
I feel as if this is a no win situation. And worse, my own children (from a previous marriage) are in the middle of all of this too.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.