As the title implies, my step-daughter wants to come live with her Dad and I. This is very cool with us. The counselor that she goes to see with her mom (we pay the insurance for this) has told us that this has been an expressed wish of hers for some time now; somewhere between 6 months and a year. She really does not want us to talk to her Mom about living with us, she is afraid of what her mom will do and say, and with reason.
This leaves us with a predictable problem.
It is time to go to court and file for custody, based on what our 13 year old is truly wanting. Knowing her mother, this surprises no one, including the counselor.
How do we go about doing this w/o letting her mother know too far in advance, literally and singularly because her daughter is afraid of living with her for any period of time after her mother knows that her daughter is wanting to leave her home bad enough that her dad is making it happen in court.
We always knew this day would come. It is impossible to say that we are happy about it, it is far too bittersweet a thing for happiness. As much as we do not like Bio-mommy, we have no desire to in any way negatively affect the Mother-Daughter relationship, if anything the reverse. We are getting that she wants to be here from too many different sources for it to be anything but genuine, and I am beginning to believe that their relationship might well benefit from the distance. Mommy wouldn't be the one haranguing about homework, or riding her about cleaning her room, being the bad guy all the time as it were. They might well be able to enjoy one another with out all of that, I don't know. Personally I think Mommy will be so destroyed, well, let's say I am going to take out a restraining order at some point or another, the woman is really broke. I don't know what she will do; I am very very serious about that.
We know who we will hire, it is the instructions to give him we need. SD really is scared of her mom and what she will do. How do we make this happen as easily as possible???
Thanks in advance!!!!!
Danae
This leaves us with a predictable problem.
It is time to go to court and file for custody, based on what our 13 year old is truly wanting. Knowing her mother, this surprises no one, including the counselor.
How do we go about doing this w/o letting her mother know too far in advance, literally and singularly because her daughter is afraid of living with her for any period of time after her mother knows that her daughter is wanting to leave her home bad enough that her dad is making it happen in court.
We always knew this day would come. It is impossible to say that we are happy about it, it is far too bittersweet a thing for happiness. As much as we do not like Bio-mommy, we have no desire to in any way negatively affect the Mother-Daughter relationship, if anything the reverse. We are getting that she wants to be here from too many different sources for it to be anything but genuine, and I am beginning to believe that their relationship might well benefit from the distance. Mommy wouldn't be the one haranguing about homework, or riding her about cleaning her room, being the bad guy all the time as it were. They might well be able to enjoy one another with out all of that, I don't know. Personally I think Mommy will be so destroyed, well, let's say I am going to take out a restraining order at some point or another, the woman is really broke. I don't know what she will do; I am very very serious about that.
We know who we will hire, it is the instructions to give him we need. SD really is scared of her mom and what she will do. How do we make this happen as easily as possible???
Thanks in advance!!!!!
Danae